Be Generous, Practice Kindness

Practice Kindness Emotional Fitness Poster Coach

Random kindness? Worthy. Small acts of deliberate kindness?  Priceless.  Every act of kindness builds peace on earth in your heart and in those around you.

Practicing Kindness is one of the Twelve Daily Emotional Fitness exercises useful for strengthening your Emotional Intelligence.  Moreover it can be practiced repeatedly throughout the day.

Experiment.  Add five acts of kindness to your daily to do list. These need not be elaborate acts.  Moreover, small acts often matter most to people.  Here are some suggestions.

  1. Smile and say “Good morning” to everyone you pass on the street.
  2. Hand out compliments to total strangers.
  3. Always thank anyone who does something for you.
  4.  Say please if you are asking someone to do something.
  5. Pack an extra sandwich in your lunch, or buy an extra cup of coffee, and give it to a homeless person.
  6. Give up your seat to someone in greater need on a bus or train.
  7. Send postcards to the children in your family.
  8. Call a friend or relative you haven’t spoken to in a few months.
  9. If someone is struggling, for example a parent trying to get a child’s stroller  up some stairs, help.  If someone has an arm load of packages and drops one, pick it up for them.  If a child is having a temper tantrum, sympathize with how hard it is to be a parent.
  10. Offer to pick up groceries for someone who is housebound.

Now here’s the big trick, attitude matters. Do any of the above, grudgingly and you will not get good from being kind.  You want to genuinely connect.  Not easy but possible.  Try each of the suggestions to find those that work for you.

For more about making kindness your mission, buy eBook.  Know your Mission So You Can Reach Your Goals.  This is possibly the most important book I have written. I hope you buy it; it is life-changing.  moreover, as I keep noting, it costs less than some of your favorite things – a Big Mac, for example and will nourish your soul, not just your body.

Thank you for all you do

Remember to share all you find of value on the internet.  All who post crave recognition. A like says “Thank You.” Comments say you have read and thought about the post. Sharing is a gift to three people: the blogger, the people you share with, and you for your kindness blesses you. Liking, commenting, or sharing are deliberate acts of kindness.

Katherine

Post Inspiration: This post was inspired by the WordPress one word Prompt: Generous.

Go here to learn more about the Daily Prompts.

Links of Interest

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Love Is Not Enough

Hate and Love

When faced with violence and hate, some call for war and others call for love. Complicated. Many believe love is the path to peace. However as these quotes show love is complex and loving is not enough.

You love flowers, but you cut them. You love animals, but you eat them. You tell me you love me, so now I’m scared!

Anonymous

Love is a fire. But whether it is going to warm your hearth or burn down your house, you can never tell.

Joan Crawford

AnyonLove wisely, love safely, love thoughtfully. e who loves in the expectation of being loved in return is wasting their time.

Paulo Coelho

What to do? Whether it is loving one person, loving a neighbor, or loving an enemy, love wisely, not blindly.  Emotional Fitness Tips for loving wisely:

Tip one: Judge actions more than words. 

Tip two: Expect less. The higher the expectation, the greater the possibility for disappointment.  The expectation that love conquers all is dangerously delusional. Love buffers, comforts, lives on hope and open doors. However; the ones who walk through love’s doors are human;  most meet love with love, but some enter to take all, even the lover’s life.

Tip three: Remember what matters. Safety first, kindness second, friendship and love third.

For more about what matters but my book:  Know Your Mission So You Can Reach Your Goals.   It costs less than a latte and is better for you health.

I use quotes as Emotional Fitness Exercises and ask you to use them to think more deeply about things. Feelings want you to act quickly and without thought. In order to think before acting, you need strong self-soothing skills. Go here to learn a few: Four Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises.

Thank you for all you do

Remember to share all you find of value on the internet.  All who post crave recognition. A like says “Thank You.” Comments say you have read and thought about the post. Sharing is a gift to three people: the blogger, the people you share with, and you for your kindness blesses you.

Katherine

Post Inspiration: This post was inspired by the rioting in Charlotte, NC and the ever growing war between the police and those seeking justice in all the wrong ways. Moreover, many are not seeking justice but acting out greed and hatred.

It was not inspired by today’s WordPress Daily  One Word Prompt: Jump.

Go here to learn more about the Daily Prompts.

Links of Interest

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

Laugh and Think – Strengthen Your Emotional Intelligence – Five tips

George Carlin Jokes

Humor is something that thrives between man’s aspirations and his limitations. There is more logic in humor than in anything else. Because, you see, humor is truth.

Victor Borges

When you laugh you have seen the difference between hope and reality. You are thinking critically and realistically, but also softening life’s blows. Not that laughing is always possible. Pain kills laughter. The stronger the pain, the more laughter departs. However, when laughter has returned, healing has begun. Moreover, you can strengthen you ability to laugh by these fuve Emotional Fitness Training tips:

Tip one: Consciously seek the absurd, the funny, the laughable. Comedians like George Carlin are good examples of those who use humor to point out the absurdity of life.

Tip two: Learn to laugh at your self. Watch the comedians who use self-deprecation to make you laugh.

Susan J. Vamos, a plus-size comedian, uses the following line in her show: “Now, get ready for the fat lady to sing (and you aren’t going to enjoy it because I’m tone deaf.)”

If she can do it so can you.

 Tip three: Practice laughing. This WikiHow shows you how. 

Tip four: Have laughing contests. See who can make someone else laugh without laughing themselves. This works really well to get angry kids in a better mood.  When I ran workshops, I would have do go-rounds asking people to give me their best laugh. Soon the whole room would be rocking.

Tip five: Remember what matters and stop sweating the small stuff. Our daily moans and groans are most small stuff and best ignore, priceless if laughed at.

Laughing is an Emotional Fitness Exercise. Buy my eBook Twelve Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises to learn all EFT’s Daily Twelve Exercises. It costs less than a latte and is better for you health.

Thank you for all you do

Remember to share all you find of value on the internet.  All who post crave recognition. A like says “Thank You.” Comments say you have read and thought about the post. Sharing is a gift to three people: the blogger, the people you share with, and you for your kindness blesses you.

Katherine

Post Inspiration: This post was not inspired by this WordPress Daily  One Word Prompt: Stylish.

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Silence Is Not Always Golden

Quote about victimization and silence. Eckhart Tolle

Make speaking out golden with these Emotional Fitness Training Tips

Tip one: Think about what matters. Are you complaining or dealing with a major wrong? Are you over-reacting?

Tip two: Think three strikes before  saying something. Find at least three instances of the wrong you feel compelled to speak out about.

Tip three: Pick the right time to speak out. Why the sages of the ages and your mother have always advised counting to ten before mouthing off.

Tip four: Think about the right way to speak out.  Almost always a good idea with personal issues to make a date for the purpose of “talking over a concern.” With all personal concerns, always speak privately. When a very touchy issue between you and another, consider a letter containing a request to make a date to talk more about the issue.

For political or other issues, letters to the leaders help and the social media remains a way to speak.

Tip five: Think about how to say what your mean without getting mean. 

Tip six: Keep emotion partnering with thought. To help do that: buy my eBook Twelve Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises to learn all EFT’s Daily Twelve Exercises. It costs less than a latte and is better for you health.

Thank you for all you do

Remember to share all you find of value on the internet.  All who post crave recognition. A like says “Thank You.” Comments say you have read and thought about the post. Sharing is a gift to three people: the blogger, the people you share with, and you for your kindness blesses you.

Katherine

Post Inspiration: This post was inspired by inspired by WordPress Daily  One Word Prompt:Silence

Go here to learn more about the Daily Prompts.

Links of Interest

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.