HOW TO MATTER IN THE WIDE, WIDE WORLD

We may be no more than a grain of sand on the beach, but that is the wonder of it all.Now a grain of sand might not be noticed, but is needed to build a beach. Every act of kindness might go un-appreciated but remains needed to bring peace to our world. So smile at all, hug a child, feed the homeless, compliment a stranger,  compliment a loved one, plant a tree, pick up  someone else’s trash; warm your soul as well as another’s.

Thank you for all you do.

Thank me by remembering sharing is caring; so is liking, or commenting. Your caring keeps me going.

Katherine

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

Emotional Intelligence (en.wikipedia.org)

The five components of Emotional Intelligence (www.sonoma.edu)

Emotional Fitness Tips for Parents  (parentsarepeopletoo.com)

An Emotional Fitness Program for Parents(amazon.com)

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DREAMS AND YOU – STRENGTHENING YOUR EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

Be grateful for what is. When we focus on what is, on the beauty of wonder of our world,  on all we have been given, instead of what we dream might be, we are on a better path to the good life.

Not that we do not need dreams to help us see what we want, We do. But just watch the auditions to American Idol to see how some dream without staying in touch with reality.

PRACTICE KINDNESS

Thank you for all you do.  Thank me by remembering sharing is caring; so is liking, or commenting. Your caring keeps me going.

Katherine

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

Emotional Intelligence (en.wikipedia.org)

The five components of Emotional Intelligence (www.sonoma.edu)

Emotional Fitness Tips for Parents  (parentsarepeopletoo.com)

An Emotional Fitness Program for Parents(amazon.com)

NOTICES I am in the process of revamping my site and working to add an easy way to sell media.  As I am financially not able to hire help, I have become the site’s IT (not) expert. Which is leading me and you on a “Wild and Crazy Ride.”   Ignore, laugh, or cheer me on.

My PDF eBook Cross-Train Your Brain is still free but the end is nearing  if you have not downloaded it , do so now. It will soon cost a pretty penny.

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FIVE TIPS TO END ARGUING THAT ARE BETTER THAN THROWING A BRICK

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Debating is fun, heated arguments, however, can end up with you wanting to throw a brick at someone or something. Not wise.

What do most people argue about? Here’s my list: religion, politics, money, sex, right or wrong, which team is best, and did the umpire make the right call.

The first four rest on perspective; the best team is a matter of time and luck; the umpire’s call can be a matter of perspective, but with today’s technology backup might prove to be the correct one.

So what’s the point? Mostly we argue because we want our beliefs to remain unshaken.  The instant someone holds a different opinion, ours is challenged.  Some people enjoy the challenge, but in other situations, it can and does grow deadly.

Think of the wars waged in the name of one religion or another. Part of those wars are also waged over who has political power, who can decide how money is spent, and who determines which behaviors are proper and  which  are “immoral.”

Of course, wanting to be in control, and in charge of your life is the desire to be powerful is also at play. These are the  part of wanting your beliefs to remain unshaken. Underlying all of the above are the beliefs you hold about yourself.

At the bottom of  all of the above are the beliefs you hold about yourself.  Those are the ones can cause the most pain when shaken.  We want to believe we are “good.”  We want to believe we are strong. Finally, we want to believe we are in control of our lives.

According to Harvard psychologist Jerome Kagan, when these beliefs get challenged four  things can happen:

1 . We ignore the challenge.

2. We blame someone  or something for making us uncertain and get angry.

3. We blame ourselves and become depressed.

4. We think nothing makes sense and become apathetic and despairing.

Emotional Fitness Training Tips

Tip one: Get clear on what matters. Safety first and that means for all, not just you and your family or your tribe.

Tip two: Treat others the way you want to be treated. Research study after research shows that this is the only sure path to the good life for you and the rest of the world.

Tip three: Do not be ruled just by your heart, always partner with your brain; the more strongly you think you have found the truth, the more you need to think critically. 

Tip four: Strengthen your self-soothing skills. In order to think clearly and critically, you need to be calm and focused. If you have not already learned EFT’s One Minute Meditation, do so now. Practice ir for a week at least three times a day and it will help you slow down the urge to act on strong feelings.

A One Minute Meditation designed to give you time to remember what matters
In case you missed this.

Tip five: Practice forgiveness. 

How to forgive

Keep these tips in mind and never need to throw a brick again. Stay emotionally strong and enjoy all you have been given.

PRACTICE KINDNESS

Thank you for all you do.  Thank me by remembering sharing is caring; so is liking, or commenting. Your caring keeps me going.

Katherine

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

NOTICES

I am in the process of revamping my site and working to add an easy way to sell media.  As I am financially not able to hire help, I have become the site’s IT (not) expert. Which is leading me and you on a “Wild and Crazy Ride.”   Ignore, laugh, or cheer me on.

My PDF eBook Cross-Train Your Brain is still free but the end is nearing as Defang Fear In All Its Disguises is about to go free as a PDF. So if you have not downloaded it Cross-Train, do so now. It will soon cost a pretty penny.

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PENSIVE WAYS TO THE GOOD LIFE

Examples of fallacies or twisted thinking.

Pensive means to think and thinking means to act wisely. When you do things you regret or later feel bad about, you have been lead astray by  twisted thinking. You left logic behind. Okay much of the time, but not always. The stronger you feel about something, the more you need to think before acting. Heart and brain working together remain the surest road to the good life.

Emotional Fitness Training Exercise

Television and other media, give you lots of opportunity to practice spotting twisted thinking. Hopefully, you will then see how your thoughts can lead you away from reality.

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Thank me by liking, commenting, or sharing. Those small acts of kindness keep me going.

Katherine

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

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I am in the process of revamping my site and working to add an easy way to sell media.  So far, my tabs are not working well as I bumble along as my own  not so expert IT techie.

This is because the Web Host for my EFTI Store jacked up its fees abd the Store is no longer. Life goes on and sooner or later I will figure the tab thing out. Hopefully later today.

My PDF eBook Cross-Train Your Brain is still free but the end is nearing as Defang Fear In All Its Disguises is about to go free as a PDF. So if you have not downloaded it Cross-Train, do so now. It will soon cost a pretty penny.

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THE FREEDOM TO STAY OR LEAVE YOUR HOME

Quotes and thoughts about migrating and today's fears about immigrants.

When like the birds you can come and go to your home or homes, know that many do not have a choice. Count your blessings.

And yes, some trying to reach a new home are criminals or terrorists. Wouldn’t it be nice if we could easily sort the good from the bad? But as the Shadow repeated so often during my childhood “Only the Shadow knows what evil lurks in the heart of man.

What to do? Two tips.

Tip one: Be caring, but cautious. Not easy. Some say judge people only on their behavior. Useful, but behavior is driven by beliefs, personal experiences, and past behavior. You need to know all three before you have a glimpse of the person’s shadows.

Tip two: Be aware of your prejudices. We all have them and being blind to them fuels their existence. You need to know your beliefs, how your personal experiences shaped them and how your current behavior strengthens both functional and dysfunctional beliefs.

Tip three: Seek balance which means  moderation of belief and action. The more strongly you believe or feel something, the more likely you are unbalanced and distorting reality. The more strongly another believes or feels something, the more s/he distorts reality.  Strong feelings are a signal to step back and think more.

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Thank me by liking, commenting, or sharing. Those small acts of kindness keep me going.

Katherine

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

NOTICES

The Web Host for my EFTI Store jacked up its fees. The Store is no longer. Life goes on. I am working to find a better way to sell my poster coaches. Meanwhile, you can buy my books on Amazon.

My PDF eBook Cross-Train Your Brain is still free but the end is nearing as Defang Fear In All Its Disguises is about to go free as a PDF. So if you have not downloaded it Cross-Train, do so now. It will soon cost a pretty penny.

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BECOME A BETTER PERSON – GET A PET

quotes about the value of pets

Ever been called an animal? Were you smart enough to know that was a compliment? A big compliment?

I was blessed with a mother who loved animals. As I was growing up with lived with birds, cats, dogs, and one or two rescued wild things that we eventually set free.

My husband and I were introduced by his dog Brutus. Brutus had been rejected by his owners and adopted David. Brutus then adopted me and David was trapped. Brutus knew we were meant to be. Both David and I had our emotional lives saved by animals.

Our sons were also raised with dogs, cats, and birds. Animals who grow up together become family together. What the globalization of the world will do for people if we don’t kill ourselves first.

The picture above is our raccoon Boonie who was rescued by my sons, lived with us for a year until we finally find him a home in the wild. You can read and see more pictures about  Boonie here.

research  on Pets and People.

1. Pets offer a soothing presence. Research shows when we are with our dogs, cats, lizards, and pigs we grow calmer. As one researcher notes ” We slow our breath, our speech, our minds. We don’t hit as many people or use as many four-lettered words.”

2. Pets offer unconditional love and acceptance. I was a very lonely child, until my wise mother rescued a dog from our local shelter and gave her to me.  David had to go on a hunger strike to get his parents to buy him a dog. We both agree, those childhood pets gave us what we lacked in terms of emotional support.

3. Pets promote relationships with other people. David and I would not have met without Brutus and our mutual love of dogs and other animals.

4. Pets take us out of ourselves and make us responsible for another. James Garbarino ,expert on trauma and children, notes that a child caring for a pet grows stronger than those in pet free homes.  

5. A furry pet in the home inoculates children against allergies. University of Wisconsin-Madison pediatrician James E. Gern has conducted a number of studies that demonstrate having a pet in the home can actually lower a child’s likelihood of developing related allergies by as much as 33 percent.

Even goldfish can become pals, so get a pet, get two or three or four. Get as many as you can care for. Support rescue missions.

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Thank me by liking, commenting, or sharing. Those small acts of kindness keep me going.

Katherine

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

NOTICES

The Web Host for my EFTI Store jacked up its fees. The Store is no longer. Life goes on. I am working to find a better way to sell my poster coaches. Meanwhile, you can buy my books on Amazon.

My PDF eBook Cross-Train Your Brain is still free but the end is nearing as Defang Fear In All Its Disguises is about to go free as a PDF. So if you have not downloaded it Cross-Train, do so now. It will soon cost a pretty penny.

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