How to Time Goals So You Score

Timing is every thing, well almost. As Yogi Berra said, “You don’t have to swing hard to hit a home run. If you got the timing, it’ll go.” 

#quotes about timing and goals

So I have reached the final step in my efforts to set a SMART goal for EFTI.

If you have not been  following Emotional Fitness Training’s  SMART Goal Blog Series, start at the beginning by scrolling down to the end of this post and reading the ones you have missed. Then read on as this is the next step in  the series.

Although my Reality Check said the chance of reaching my initial goal depended on my winning the lottery, I am not giving up just paring way down. I wanted to make enough money from EFTI to keep it going long after I could not. Mainly, I wanted to leave a legacy for my family. Preferably a monetary legacy, but as that seems unrealistic, I am shifting to leaving them what I call my intellectual property, meaning my writings.

That means, trying to get my as much of what I have written out there. The easiest and cheapest way will be to turn my writing into PDF’s and post them on my EFTI store.  Last week I put up a professional article. This week, my goal is to revise and put up Twelve Daily Emotional Fitness Exercises in PDF form.  Almost there and if not tomorrow then Sunday.

EMOTIonal Fitness TRaining Thoughts and tips

Four of the  letters in the SMART Goal Format have alternate meanings.

  • S  commonly = Specfic, but also strategic
  • M commonly = Measurable and nothing else
  • A  commonly =   Agreed, but also  attainable, action-oriented ambitious, and achievable
  • R commonly = Relevant, but also  realistic ,resourced, reasonable, or results-based.
  • T commonly = Time bound, but also for time limited, time/cost limited,, timely, time-sensitivee, or timeframe

I use the Time bound meaning. Basically that means having an end point in sight. It  also means setting smaller goals related to the long term goal.

Initially I gave myself a year to see if EFTI could produce some meaningful income. As  that is not likely to happen, I have shifted my goal to just getting as much of my writing as possible out there.  That means acquiring the knowledge needed to do what I cannot pay to have done.I am giving myself six  months to do that; then I will pay for help using what little I have; and finally, I will consider trying to raise money with a Fund Me type of campaign. 

As of this writing, I am giving myself until the end of Marth to master getting some of my intellectual property shared as PDFs. When  I master that I will put up at least one PDF based  book a month. Then I will spend the next three months mastering formatting for Smashwords, Kindle, and Create Space.  Next three months perfecting market skills including getting the store ship-shape.

I am on target as of now and with a little bit of luck will succeed. Either way, because this is a passion and meets the criteria of my mission, I am content.

PRACTICE KINDNESS

Thank you for all you do.  Thank me by remembering sharing is caring; so is liking, or commenting. Your caring keeps me going.

Katherine

LINKS TO THE SMART GOAL SERIES

CRITICAL THINKING EXERCISE

WordPress Daily Prompt (Yawn)  What bores you?

Being bored is often a matter of attitude. I can easily get bored cleaning house or cooking. But When I Link it to the broader goal of living well and caring, it becomes something I can enjoy accomplishing.

I do a lot of reading and some stuff can get boring. Here’s a EFTI strategy for that: See boredom as a signal saying “I know that.” Skim ahead and then you come to material you do not know, say “I am learning that.” Helps me stay curious but also honors what I know.

LINKs of Interest

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises (www.emotionalfitnesstraining.com
The five components of Emotional Intelligence (www.sonoma.edu)Emotional Intelligence (en.wikipedia.org)Emotional Fitness Tips for Parents  (parentsarepeopletoo.com)
An Emotional Fitness Program for Parents(amazon.com)

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12 Easy Emotional Fitness Exerciises

PRACTICE KINDNESS

Thank you for all you do. Thank me by remembering sharing is caring; so is liking, or commenting. Your caring keeps me going.

 

Katherine

LINKS OF INTEREST

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises (www.emotionalfitnesstraining.com
The five components of Emotional Intelligence (www.sonoma.edu)Emotional Intelligence (en.wikipedia.org)Emotional Fitness Tips for Parents (parentsarepeopletoo.com)
An Emotional Fitness Program for Parents(amazon.com)

Six Tips to Keep Your Point of View From Twisting Your Thinking

We view the world from our unique point of view. Emotional Intelligence requires challenging not just other views, but ours.

Point of view determines beliefs.

Who did you vote for in the last election? Still defending your choice and planning on voting the same way next election? Researchers know the odds  are you vote the same.  Challenging the past decisions creates cognitive dissonance aka anxiety, at least according to social psychologist Leon Festinger.

Two of his quotes to think about:

A MAN WITH A CONVICTION is a hard man to change. Tell him you disagree and he turns away. Show him facts or figures and he questions your sources. Appeal to logic and he fails to see your point.

When dissonance is present, in addition to trying to reduce it, the person will actively avoid situations and information which would likely increase the dissonance.

Festinger’s book Theory of Cognitive Dissonance is the number one book, in my opinion, all should read to better understand all people’s thoughts and behavior. That said, the two quotes above summarize its essence.

EMOTIONAL FITNESS TIP

Tip One: The more passionately you believe in something, the more you will profit by looking for points of agreement.

Tip Two: The more you argue your point of view, the more you harden it and harden your opponents point of view

Tip Three: Rather than thinking Either/Or  try  thinking Yes/And.

Tip Four: When you find some point of agreement just saying  “And” instead of arguing often leads to more agreement.

Tip Five: When you disagree, saying “And” might  lead to the other person eventually saying something you can agree with.

Tip Six: As always say what you mean, but don’t say it mean. That requires staying calm, cool and collected. My eBook Self-soothing to Create Calm in Your Life helps you stay calm when others are not.

PRACTICE KINDNESS

Thank you for all you do. Thank me by remembering sharing is caring; so is liking, or commenting. Your caring keeps me going.

CRITICAL THINKING EXERCISE

This WordPress Daily Prompt suggested: Ripped Into the Headline –  Write about something that happened over the weekend as though it’s the top story on your local paper.

Well, there are a lot of stories about not winning the billion dollar lottery. Which relates to my rating of the possibility of reaching my goal. Sigh, but I am going to keep buying a lottery ticket every week. I will also keep working on making EFTI more viable but more for the pleasure it gives than for the money I might make.

Katherine

LINKS OF INTEREST

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises (www.emotionalfitnesstraining.com
The five components of Emotional Intelligence (www.sonoma.edu)Emotional Intelligence (en.wikipedia.org)Emotional Fitness Tips for Parents (parentsarepeopletoo.com)
An Emotional Fitness Program for Parents(amazon.com)

Looking Reality in the Face – Part Four in the SMART Goal Series

Is your goal a dream that can become a reality?  Time to do a reality.  You might be humbled. I was.

Quote about the pain of reality.

If you have not been  following Emotional Fitness Training’s  SMART Goal Blog Series, start at the beginning by scrolling down to the end of this post and reading the ones you have missed. Then read on as this is the next step in  the series.

I am using this series as an exercise to set a SMART goal for Emotional Fitness Training, Inc. EFTI is  not where I want it to be.  I am now at the stage of my goal setting where I have to take a hard look at what is possible.r, if you are happy where you are and where you are going, you probably do not need to pursue setting a SMART goal. For those who feel the need, I hope following my journey will be useful.

On to what is involved in making certain your goal is realistic.  This involves asking if the necessary resources are available for meeting the goal.

If getting to your goal requires a specific talent, the talent is a resource you must possess. Want to be the next American Idol? You need to be able to sing magnificently. It also helps to be young and physically attractive. Although as one or two have shown, voice matters a bit more.

In terms of getting to my goal: my personal resources are as follows:

  1. I am a licensed therapist
  2. I  taught for long periods at two Ivy League Graduate Schools.
  3. Because I was a foster mother to 366 teens mostly in trouble with the law, I have been in the trenches as well as the Ivory Tower.
  4. I am a published author.
  5. I am passionate  about sharing knowledge.
  6. I have appeared on Oprah, as well as other t.v. and radio shows.
  7. I have given hundreds of well-received trainings and workshops.
  8. I have the ability to think critically.
  9. I am good at making things simple enough for most to understand.
  10. I love social media, have some devoted followers.
  11. I love writing and have no  problems finding stuff to write about.
  12. I am stubborn and that means I keep trying.

So why hasn’t Emotional Fitness produced more resources? Because resources are always balanced by barriers.  Here are my barriers.

  1. I am not passionate about making money. If fact I am a little wary of some of the things doing so  seems to require.
  2. I have dysgraphia which makes clean copies difficult. If you follow me on Facebook you will see lots of confusing mistakes as well as the time I spend editing posts to get rid of the mistakes.
  3. My dysgraphia also sees me spinning my wheels out of concern, a piece of writing is not even “good enough” let alone publishing perfect. I have a hundred almost there articles.
  4. Although I am computer literate, I have not mastered some of the skills needed to turn what I have done into properly formatted eBooks.
  5. I am on a limited and dwindling personal income. Mainly social security.
  6. I am nearing eighty years of age and all that goes with aging including brain problems and declining physical health.
  7.  Family and social life are as important to me as making EFTI a financial success, so I work to keep a balance between the two.
  8.  The competition in my chosen niche is fierce.

After looking at your resources and barriers, you have to ask yourself if your goal is realistic.  Use a five-point rating scale: 1 no chance; 2 if you win the lottery; 3 with a little bit of luck; 4. probable; and 5 more than possible.

Sad to say I come in at “If I win the Lottery.”

Sigh. So time to rewrite my goal, yet again. See you next time.

PRACTICE KINDNESS

Thank you for all you do.  Thank me by remembering sharing is caring; so is liking, or commenting. Your caring keeps me going.

Katherine

LINKS TO THE SMART Goal Series

CRITICAL THINKING EXERCISE

WordPress Daily Prompt suggested this: Ripped Into the Headline –  Write about something that happened over the weekend as though it’s the top story on your local paper.

Well, there are a lot of stories about not winning the billion dollar lottery. Which relates to my rating of the possibility of reaching my goal. Sigh, but I am going to keep buying a lottery ticket every week. I will also keep working on making EFTI more viable but more for the pleasure it gives than for the money I might make.

OTHER LINKS OF INTEREST

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises (www.emotionalfitnesstraining.com
The five components of Emotional Intelligence (www.sonoma.edu)Emotional Intelligence (en.wikipedia.org)Emotional Fitness Tips for Parents  (parentsarepeopletoo.com)
An Emotional Fitness Program for Parents(amazon.com)