HOW TO IMPROVE YOUR VISION

VISION

Seeing what is, versus what you want or need to see is how your brain translates what your eyes see into the what you need to see. Three forces operates in your brain’s  translation of  what your eyes perceive.

  1. The need to stay safe
  2. The need to feel okay
  3. What you already believe

What to do? When strong feelings visit, always pause to ask if you are safe, what thoughts are comforting, and what current beliefs influence you. Thinking only for a few moments about will sharpen you ability to act wisely on what matters.

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Katherine

LINKS OF INTEREST

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises (www.emotionalfitnesstraining.com)
The five components of Emotional Intelligence (www.sonoma.edu)Emotional Intelligence (en.wikipedia.org)

Emotional Fitness Tips for Parents  (parentsarepeopletoo.com)
An Emotional Fitness Program for Parents(amazon.com)

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My PDF eBook Cross-Train Your Brain is still free but the end is nearing as Defang Fear In All Its Disguises is about to go free as a PDF. So if you have not downloaded it Cross-Train, do so now. It will soon cost a pretty penny.

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TRAUMA SURVIVAL INFOGRAM

Inforgram on surviving trauma

One other Emotional Fitness Training Thought: It isn’t all up to you.  Chance is part of life, and how well we get past the traumas that visit us depends on chance as much as our own efforts, sometimes more. We cannot always “Just do it” when it comes to trauma. Be grateful that you can read this, you are one of the luckier ones.

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

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Katherine

LINKS OF INTEREST

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises (www.emotionalfitnesstraining.com)
The five components of Emotional Intelligence (www.sonoma.edu)Emotional Intelligence (en.wikipedia.org)

Emotional Fitness Tips for Parents  (parentsarepeopletoo.com)
An Emotional Fitness Program for Parents(amazon.com)

NOTICES

I am resuming efforts to post Daily, but in doing so, will try to limit most  posts a smaller  size, using mainly Poster Coaches, Jokes, or exercises. I will not post on Shabbat or Jewish Holidays unless I can manage to do one ahead and schedule it.

My PDF eBook Cross-Train Your Brain is still free but the end is nearing as Defang Fear In All Its Disguises is about to go free as a PDF. So if you have not downloaded it Cross-Train, do so now. It will soon cost a pretty penny.

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SIX TIPS TO MAKE THE WORLD BETTER FOR YOUR GRANDCHILDREN

#quotes about the @generationgap

Why your grandchildren instead of your children? Mainly because you, if you are lucky,  you  don’t live with your grandchildren, are not  their main disciplinarian, and so the odds increase the little ones are a bit more open to the wisdom you think will lead them to the good life.

Emotional Fitness Training Tips

Tip one: Get real about the difference between generations.  Moreover, celebrate the differences. Only a rebellious child could have brought humankind down from the trees and learn the value of fire. Only a wise old one could comfort the child’s whose fingers got burned and teach how to be safe in risky situations.

Tip two: Know what matters. The only thing that matters is making the world safe for all. It is the mission and trumps all other goals.

Tip three: Live the mission. What you do speaks louder than anything you say, always and forever.

Tip four: Laugh and play more than you scream and shout. 

Tip five: Expect and demand respect for and from all.

Tip six: Practice forgiveness and that means of you as well as those who offend you. 

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Thank me by liking, commenting, or sharing. Those small acts of kindness keep me going.

Katherine

LINKS OF INTEREST

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises (www.emotionalfitnesstraining.com)
The five components of Emotional Intelligence (www.sonoma.edu)Emotional Intelligence (en.wikipedia.org)

Emotional Fitness Tips for Parents  (parentsarepeopletoo.com)
An Emotional Fitness Program for Parents(amazon.com)

NOTICES

I am resuming efforts to post Daily, but in doing so, will try to limit most  posts a smaller  size, using mainly Poster Coaches, Jokes, or exercises. I will not post on Shabbat or Jewish Holidays unless I can manage to do one ahead and schedule it.

My PDF eBook Cross-Train Your Brain is still free but the end is nearing as Defang Fear In All Its Disguises is about to go free as a PDF. So if you have not downloaded it Cross-Train, do so now. It will soon cost a pretty penny.

 POST INSPIRATION

This post was inspired by the WordPress Daily Prompt “Generation” Write a new post in response to today’s one-word prompt. Not sure how to participate? Here are the steps to get started.

 

HOW TO LIVE IN PEACE WITH DIVERSITY

Kennedy quote about diversity
To use as an Emotional Fitness Exercise take a Calming Breath, focus on the image, read the quote, take another Calming Breath. Digital Download $2.99.
Diversity brews trouble mostly  when people are challenged by differences that make them think in terms of better or best. That can easily be translated into the who is the person with the most power, the most things, the most money, the most physical strength, or even the best view of God.   Thinking another is better fuels self -doubt, uncertainty, and, at its worse ,shame and self -loathing. Not a good path to peace.

Think about religions that seek conversion. That desire often begins in the wish to share joy and happiness, but can turn to what Jonathan Sacks calls “altruistic evil” and the justifying murder and torture in the name of God.

In the end, however, we all die and at least our physical beings decay and become grains of sand. How tragic then are our wars?  As Kennedy notes,  we need to celebrate diversity and work together to make our world safe for all.

Research documents that all cultures and all religions embrace caring for the weak and being fair; wars arise when those two values are reserved for me, for my family, or my tribe.  There is also an inborn fear of the strange or different.

What to do?

Emotional Fitness Training Tips

Tip one: Stay safe.  Let trust build when seeking to embrace differences. Most people are not killers or terrorists, but the few who are signal the need to stay safe.

Tip two: Avoid labels. Every label is a gross generalization. Every time you throw a label at someone, you are practicing prejudice.

Tip three: Judge actions not words.

Tip four: Practice the Golden Rule, but with a focus on not doing to others what you do not want done to you.

Tip five: Be generous with what you have been given and not just to your own.

Tip six: Remember what matters.

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Thank me by liking, commenting, or sharing. Those small acts of kindness keep me going.

Katherine

LINKS OF INTEREST

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises (www.emotionalfitnesstraining.com)
The five components of Emotional Intelligence (www.sonoma.edu)Emotional Intelligence (en.wikipedia.org)

Emotional Fitness Tips for Parents  (parentsarepeopletoo.com)
An Emotional Fitness Program for Parents(amazon.com)

NOTICES

I am resuming efforts to post Daily, but in doing so, will try to limit most  posts a smaller  size, using mainly Poster Coaches, Jokes, or exercises. I will not post on Shabbat or Jewish Holidays unless I can manage to do one ahead and schedule it.

My PDF eBook Cross-Train Your Brain is still free but the end is nearing as Defang Fear In All Its Disguises is about to go free as a PDF. So if you have not downloaded it Cross-Train, do so now. It will soon cost a pretty penny.

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This post was inspired by the WordPress Daily Prompt “Diverse” Write a new post in response to today’s one-word prompt. Not sure how to participate? Here are the steps to get started.

 

Chaos Creates Creativity – Tips To Improve Your Emotional Intelligence

Quote about ChaosArtists turn chaos into beauty or high thoughts.  We can do the same, with the smaller chaos found in everyday life. How? Two ways.

First think about what matters. A messy desk? if you can find what you need, that is all that matters. Dust bunnies under the bed? Getting rid of them daily only matters if severe allergies are a problem.

Then take pleasure in creating order. Get rid of that sink full of dirty dishes or the clutter on your tool bench, then pat yourself on the back and feel good.

Parenting Tip? Start the little ones picking up after themselves as soon as they can walk and carry trash to the trash can, toys to the toy bin, or dirty clothes to the laundry basket. Early training endures.

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Thank me by liking, commenting, or sharing. Those small acts of kindness keep me going.

Katherine

LINKS OF INTEREST

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises (www.emotionalfitnesstraining.com)
The five components of Emotional Intelligence (www.sonoma.edu)Emotional Intelligence (en.wikipedia.org)

Emotional Fitness Tips for Parents  (parentsarepeopletoo.com)
An Emotional Fitness Program for Parents(amazon.com)

NOTICES

I am resuming efforts to post Daily, but in doing so, will try to limit most  posts a smaller  size, using mainly Poster Coaches, Jokes, or exercises. I will not post on Shabbat or Jewish Holidays unless I can manage to do one ahead and schedule it.

My PDF eBook Cross-Train Your Brain is still free but the end is nearing as Defang Fear In All Its Disguises is about to go free as a PDF. So if you have not downloaded it Cross-Train, do so now. It will soon cost a pretty penny.

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Know Your Inner Enemy

Four quotes about our darker side.

We all have a darker side, Most evil comes from desperation of one sort or another. Charles Brenner, MD and psychoanalyst, believes all dark behavior stems from pain or fear of pain. Sounds reasonable to me.

However, things are never that simple. Complexity arises because each person hurts or fears hurt differently. We can understand a person who steals to eat or to feed a child when no other recourse is available. We understand less about the smaller slings and arrows all endure that can fuel rage, desperation, and evil acts.

Jerome Kagan, my number one psychological guru, notes that once our survival needs are met, we humans are most fearful of rejection by those important to us. That fear leads to many types of behavior. We develop heros, we cheer for; villains, we boo. We seek approval more constantly than we seek love.

Therein lies one of the problems: when we fail to get approval with our good behavior, we turn increasingly to acceptance of our shadow sides.  Sooner or later a few of us accept we are the bad guys. If you study the two Columbine killers, you will understand what I mean.  They clearly had given up trying to be good and that freed their darker sides.

Even that is too simple, however. For many who do evil believe they are doing good. Hitler justified his hatred; the terrorists of today do the same. Even protesters on the side of right can and do burn and destroy.

Finally, there is the hurt turned to anger, that cannot be contained. This explains domestic violence, work place violence. The hurt may not even be the victim’s fault, but found fertile growth in the angry person.

Self awareness is one of the hallmarks of Emotional Intelligence, and that means knowing your shadow or dark side means we are  less likely we to  act with desperation and find we regret what we have done.

The pain that leads to desperation is often tied to the secrets we keep because we fear being shamed. So think about what you most fear others will see as shameful in your thoughts or hidden behaviors.

Then do a major reality check. One: thoughts are not deeds.

Two: most deeds we have been taught are shameful are cultural beliefs. Think homosexual behavior. Think the Big M – masturbation, behaviors that are deemed shameful by many, but harm no one.

Three: check your shame against the most agreed upon evil acts. Murder, physical torturing people or animals, child molestation, and slavery. Then shame is warranted. For all other acts it is a signal to not do something or to make amends when you did.

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Thank me by liking, commenting, or sharing. Those small acts of kindness keep me going.

Katherine

LINKS OF INTEREST

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises (www.emotionalfitnesstraining.com)
The five components of Emotional Intelligence (www.sonoma.edu)Emotional Intelligence (en.wikipedia.org)

Emotional Fitness Tips for Parents  (parentsarepeopletoo.com)
An Emotional Fitness Program for Parents(amazon.com)

NOTICES

I am resuming efforts to post Daily, but in doing so, will try to limit most  posts a smaller  size, using mainly Poster Coaches, Jokes, or exercises. I will not post on Shabbat or Jewish Holidays unless I can manage to do one ahead and schedule it.

My PDF eBook Cross-Train Your Brain is still free but the end is nearing as Defang Fear In All Its Disguises is about to go free as a PDF. So if you have not downloaded it Cross-Train, do so now. It will soon cost a pretty penny.

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THINK AND WONDER ABOUT THE WONDER OF YOU

We may be no more than a grain of sand on the beach, but that is the wonder of it all.

Whenever you feel small or insignificant, think about the wonder of your being here, now, and a glorious part of the miracle called life. Live your life as the miracle you are.

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Thank me by liking, commenting, or sharing. Your caring keeps me going.

Katherine

LINKS OF INTEREST

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises (www.emotionalfitnesstraining.com)
The five components of Emotional Intelligence (www.sonoma.edu)Emotional Intelligence (en.wikipedia.org)

Emotional Fitness Tips for Parents  (parentsarepeopletoo.com)
An Emotional Fitness Program for Parents(amazon.com)

NOTICES

I am resuming efforts to post Daily, but in doing so, will try to limit most  posts a smaller  size, using mainly Poster Coaches, Jokes, or exercises. I will not post on Shabbat or Jewish Holidays unless I can manage to do one ahead and schedule it.

My PDF eBook Cross-Train Your Brain is still free but the end is nearing as Defang Fear In All Its Disguises is about to go free as a PDF. . So if you have not downloaded it Cross-Train, do so now. It will soon cost a pretty penny.

 POST INSPIRATION

This post was inspired by the WordPress Daily Prompt “Beach” Write a new post in response to today’s one-word prompt. Not sure how to participate?Here are the steps to get started

https://dailypost.wordpress.com/prompts/beach/