Sexy daydreams (fictional encounters)

Even while  pushing 80, I fantasize encounters out side of the bonds of marriage; in those encounters no need to worry about safe sex rules which are:

ready for sex postser.Actually I made the above poster for parents of teens. But the rules apply to everyone, so I am posting it here and on my Parents Are People Too Blog.

Thank you WordPress Daily Prompt for making today’s post so easy.  That prompt: Go down the rabbit hole with Alice; play quidditch with Harry Potter; float down the river with Huck Finn… If you could choose three fictional events or adventures to experience yourself, what would they be?

The sex scene in Juliet in Zefereli’s Romeo and Juliet sex scene, Scarlett O’Hara being swept off her feet by Rhett Butler in Gone With the Wind; Replacing any of Johnny Depp’s lovers but he will be Don Juan DeMarco not a pirate. Need I say more.


One of the way priests and other control seekers gain power is by declaring thoughts the same as deeds.  Caused former President James Carter to confess to sinning.  His sin: He lusted after other women in his heart.   No sin in my book.

Then there were any number of presidents who did more than lust in their hearts. As I don’t know the exact nature of their sexual contracts with their partners and sexual contacts, I withhold judgement.

Tip one: If not lusting in your heart keeps you from acting badly, lust away.

Tip two: If you do more than lust in your heart at least follow my safe sex rules.

Tip three: If a parent, teach your version of the safe sex rules, but be alert to the power of desire.  Do so with a matter-of-fact attitude, rather than hell and damnation threats.


Few things require more thinking about than our sexual desires.  Some say men in particular tend to think with two heads and the one between their legs often rules.  As sexual tensions build, that head takes over more and more. Which is why I personally believe enjoying sexual fantasies and even indulging in the too often forbidden pleasures of masturbation might do more to bring peace on earth than trying to repress such  thoughts or deeds.

If this offends you, apologies. However, do think a bit about why and then about how helping all find safe release from the build up of sexual tensions might  help create peace on earth.

I hope you find my posts of value.  If you do,  practice internet kindness by liking, rating, commenting, or sharing.  Even if you dont’ agree, comments are welcome.

Thank you for all you do and as always work to stay strong, which while is not  easy, more possible than you might think.

Love all,



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Thinking about Just Wars versus just wars

Whose actions are justified? An Israel speaks out.  And yes, he is biased. But so are you.  Thinking deeply  what matters matters. Thinking deeply about bias.

just war

What my Israeli Facebook Friend says about the current state of war in the Middle East.

Dear World,I understand that you are upset by us, here in Israel.Indeed,it appears that you are quite upset, even angry.Indeed, every few years you seem to become upset by us. Today, it is the “brutal repression of the Palestinians”; yesterday it was Lebanon; before that it was the bombing of the nuclear reactor in Baghdad and the Yom Kippur War and the Sinai campaign. It appears that Jews who triumph and who, therefore, live, upset you most extraordinarily.Of course, dear world, long before there was an Israel, we – the Jewish people – upset you.

We upset a German people who elected Hitler and upset an Austrian people who cheered his entry into Vienna and we upset a whole slew of Slavic nations – Poles, Slovaks, Lithuanians, Ukrainians, Russians, Hungarians and Romanians. And we go back a long, long way in the history of world upset.

We upset the Cossacks of Chmielnicki who massacred tens of thousands of us in 1648-49; we upset the Crusaders who, on their way to liberate the Holy Land, were so upset at Jews that they slaughtered untold numbers of us.

For centuries, we upset a Roman Catholic Church that did its best to define our relationship through inquisitions, and we upset the arch-enemy of the church, Martin Luther, who, in his call to burn the synagogues and the Jews within them, showed an admirable Christian ecumenical spirit.

And it is because we became so upset over upsetting you, dear world, that we decided to leave you – in a manner of speaking – and establish a Jewish state. The reasoning was that living in close contact with you, as resident-strangers in the various countries that comprise you, we upset you, irritate you and disturb you. What better notion, then, than to leave you (and thus love you)- and have you love us and so, we decided to come home – home to the same land we were driven out 1,900 years earlier by a Roman world that, apparently, we also upset.

Alas, dear world, it appears that you are hard to please.

Having left you and your pogroms and inquisitions and crusades and holocausts, having taken our leave of the general world to live alone in our own little state, we continue to upset you. You are upset that we repress the poor Palestinians. You are deeply angered over the fact that we do not give up the lands of 1967, which are clearly the obstacle to peace in the Middle East.

Moscow is upset and Washington is upset. The “radical” Arabs are upset and the gentle Egyptian moderates are upset.

Well, dear world, consider the reaction of a normal Jew from Israel.

In 1920 and 1921 and 1929, there were no territories of 1967 to impede peace between Jews and Arabs. Indeed, there was no Jewish State to upset anybody. Nevertheless, the same oppressed and repressed Palestinians slaughtered tens of Jews in Jerusalem, Jaffa, Safed and Hebron. Indeed, 67 Jews were slaughtered one day in Hebron in 1929.

Dear world, why did the Arabs – the Palestinians – massacre 67 Jews in one day in 1929? Could it have been their anger over Israeli aggression in 1967? And why were 510 Jewish men, women and children slaughtered in Arab riots between 1936-39? Was it because Arabs were upset over 1967?

And when you, dear world, proposed a UN Partition Plan in 1947 that would have created a “Palestinian State” alongside a tiny Israel and the Arabs cried “no” and went to war and killed 6,000 Jews – was that “upset” caused by the aggression of 1967? And, by the way, dear world, why did we not hear your cry of “upset” then?

The poor Palestinians who today kill Jews with explosives and firebombs and stones are part of the same people who when they had all the territories they now demand be given to them for their state -attempted to drive the Jewish state into the sea. The same twisted faces, the same hate, the same cry of “itbach-al-yahud” (Massacre the Jew!) that we hear and see today, were seen and heard then. The same people, the same dream – destroy Israel. What they failed to do yesterday, they dream of today, but we should not “repress” them.

Dear world, you stood by during the holocaust and you stood by in 1948 as seven states launched a war that the Arab League proudly compared to the Mongol massacres.

You stood by in 1967 as Nasser, wildly cheered by wild mobs in every Arab capital in the world, vowed to drive the Jews into the sea. And you would stand by tomorrow if Israel were facing extinction. And since we know that the Arabs-Palestinians dream daily of that extinction, we will do everything possible to remain alive in our own land. If that bothers you, dear world, well think of how many times in the past you bothered us.

In any event, dear world, if you are bothered by us, here is one Jew in Israel who could not care less.

                                                                                                          Gary Zvi Jonathan

Emotional Fitness Training Thoughts and tips

Our deeply held beliefs, and clearly Gary’s are deeply held, as are mine in support of Israel, arise first from our personal experiences, particularly those experiences that hurt.   We don’t “See Both Sides” but  identify with those whose hurts and pains are most like our own.

However, our deeply held beliefs are  also strongly influenced by  the voices surrounding us.  When I see the Palestinians who hate the Jews, I think “Brain washed.”  The German public got brain washed by Hitler.  Many in today’s “free world” are being brain washed by the media they follow.

Those who look at flawed or twisted thinking name the assumption our deeply held beliefs are reality based is called The Curse of (Personal) Knowledge. I insert the word personal, for knowledge can be a blessing or a curse and it is how we absorb it and use it that makes it a curse or a blessing for you and for others.

What to do?  Always assume your deepest beliefs, what your heart and intuition say are “the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth” are biased.

This is why the main game plan of Emotional Fitness Training rests in Thinking About What Matters.  And that thinking must be from three different points of views: Yours, the opposition, and the less passionate and more balanced.

Moreover, you must give more weight to the opposition than to your point of view.

Finally you need to realize all opinions, even the most careful researched ones, are biased.  Minimally, one needs to check as was said in the movie Jerry Mcquire, “Follow the money.”

Stay Strong

Untwisting the thinking of your personal bias is not easy.  Nor is it necessary as you traipse through everyday life. But at times in matters and if the world is to move toward peace, we need to be more open in our thinking about who is right or wrong when it comes to acts of aggression.

So if you think the Israel’s are right, look at the Palestinian point of view; if you think the Palestinians are right, look at the Israeli point of view. Then do some reading about Just Wars.

I hope you find my posts of value.  If you do,  practice internet kindness by liking, rating, commenting, or sharing.

Thank you for all you do and as always work to stay strong, which while is not  easy, more possible than you might think.

Love all,



This post relates to this Word Press Daily Prompt:  Now? Later! We all procrastinate. Website, magazine, knitting project, TV show, something else — what’s your favorite procrastination destination?

I am a professional procrastinator. Proof, one of my favorite EFTI poster coaches remains this one:

However, I do not procrastinate when speaking out against hatred, I do, however, try to do it without hating.


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Please pray from your heart for peace.

Pray for all struggling with the horrors of the war in the middle East


 A prayer is any heartfelt thought sent out to the universe, so for those of you not among believers in a God or Gods continue to send your heart felt thoughts for peace out to thew world. Minimally, you will stay focused on what matters.

Thank you for all you do. Katherine.



Lots of us have mental or physical challenges.  I struggle with growing deafness. Our family pet recently qualified as a Hearing-aid Service Dog.

Service dogs add support

Getting Punky certified means he can go with us  anywhere the public goes including on our laps on an airplane or any other source of public transportation. Moreover, no one can charge us extra because he is with us.  He flies free, he sleeps in hotels free, I no longer pay extra rent because he lives with me.


How and why I became interested in this topic.  As my hearing worsened, I began thinking about getting Punky trained as a Hearing-Aid Service Dog,  Such dogs can be trained to alert you to someone knocking at the door; a ringing telephone; a beeping timer, or a child’s crying.

Punky did those things for me without needing any extra training: nevertheless,  I looked into hiring a Service Dog  trainer thinking there was something more needed. Also, when traveling I wanted him to stay with me in a hotel without having to pay extra.

Was I in for a shock about costs! One trainer claimed it takes 600 hours of training and that meant many thousands of dollars.

Reality Check: The amount of training needed varies.  Seeing Eye or Guide Dogs need lots and lots of training; so do dogs trained to alert an owner to allergens, fluctuating sugar levels, the possible onset of an epileptic attack. A Hearing-Aid dog might or might need lots of hours of training. Punky needed about twenty extra hours. Comfort dogs, those used for people suffering from anxiety, need training mainly what is called socialization training.  That means the ability to be in public without creating a nuisance or other problem.

Finally, most of the training has to be reinforced by the owner.  Actually, all dog trainers are really in the business of training owners  not dogs.   If the owners don’t reinforce the training, the dog will behave with his trainer but not with his owner.

As I was looking for a trainer, I also found a number of places selling “Service Dog” certificates, ID tags, bandanas and capes  to anyone wanting to claim their dog was a service dog.  There was no checking or verification of proper training required, you just sent in your money.

The various “Service Dog Trainers” want to tighten the regulations and out law the selling of certificates to the public. I would not object to that if all were honest and charged a reasonable fee.  Many are ethical, but some are not.

Actually, according to federal law, the most you need to declare your dog a service dog is a doctor’s certificate saying you need a service dog.  Some doctors will write such a note out of the goodness of their heart not knowing what makes such a note legally protective.

Just declaring your dog a Service Dog without understanding what that acutally means is not illegal. However,  potentially it means you can be charged with fraud or sued if your dog while acting as a Service Dog bites someone.  Not unheard of.

Anyway,  once I had a doctor’s note, and had done enough research to know what is  actually required of the various service dogs.  We then trained Punky according to  the legal requirements,  Once we felt Punky was properly trained, I made his Service Dog ID and some Service Dog bandanas for him to wear. Part of what made this possible, besides knowing the law,  was that for years, David had trained dogs professionally.

We recently traveled across country and merely by showing Punky’s Service Dog ID tag took him everywhere we went.   The trip was fantastic and partly because we had no trouble finding hotels to let Punky sleep with us.  Taking him with us also meant not worrying about having him locked up in a kennel.


As those of you who read my posts know I suggest pets provide additional support.  There is research evidence that pets strengthen what the experts call resilience or #emotionalintelligence.

When a person has an additional challenge, using  a Service Dog is a good strategy to pursue.  But as I suggest above,  when it comes to training,  “Buyer Beware” is a major concern.

I feel so strongly about the need for people to understand exactly what a Service Dog is and how one should be trained and certified,  I have started a Service Dog Information consulting business as part of Emotional FItness Training.  The link will take you to the my facebook page of the same name.

While I hope to make a little bit of money, my main mission is to spread the word about the proper certification and use of service dogs.  EFTI’s business motto is “Make Money Doing Good” and this newest venture of mine is in keeping with that motto and mission.


I hope you find my posts of value.  If you do,  practice internet kindness by liking, rating, commenting, or sharing.

Thank you for all you do and as always work to stay strong, while not  easy, more possible than you might think.

Love all,


P.S. If you are a  disabled veteran, you might be able to get a service dog and pay for his or her upkeep  as part of your benefit package.  “ VHA Prosthetics and Sensory Aides consider a Service Dog a prosthetic device. Veterans using approved Service Dogs are entitled to financial benefits for the upkeep of the prosthetic device (i.e. Service Dog).”


This post relates to this Word Press Daily Prompt:  Fearless Fantasies. How would your life be different if you were incapable of feeling fear? Would your life be better or worse than it is now?

How this post relates? My mothers favorite motto was “Nothing ventured, nothing gained.” That combined with practicing  the Emotional Fitness Exercise “Being Good Enough” means I try lots of new things.

Some people think trying this new venture as I approach my 80s is crazy, I think it is fearless and just might do some good and make me a bit of money.