FIVE PLUS WAYS TO PRACTICE KINDNESS – DAY FOUR OF THE TWELVE DAYS OF EMOTIONAL FITNESS TRAINING

Practicing kindness is selfish; it gives you the most good.

Emotional Fitness Poster reminding you to Practice Kindness

As all the sages across all the ages and as today’s researchers know practicing kindness is the express lane to the good life.

There is much talk of Random Acts of Kindness and that is good. But a greater good comes to you when you practice Deliberate Kindness.

Go Beyond Random Kindness

 Parenting tipS

Parenting tip one: Manners teach kindness, so teach your children manners.

Parenting tip two; Condemn cruelty when you see cruel behavior. Point out cruel jokes, cruel acts.

Parenting tip three: Punish children for deliberate acts of cruelty.

Parenting tip four: Reward with a thank you your child’s acts of kindness.

Parenting tip five: Teach your children to give to the needy.  Three year olds love putting coins in various donations boxes.  Older children can give gently used toys, coats, other items to various charities or time at soup kitchens.

be kind to me

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Thank you and work at staying strong until next time,. I work hard to do the same as life is often difficult but staying strong lets me find the good.

Katherine

LINKS OF INTEREST

FREE  STUFF FROM EFTI

All the handouts and poster coaches for this course are being posted at the store so you can download them for free. A poster coach is like a face-to-face coach; all serve as practice reminders, some teach you the exercises needed to stay strong.

To use one, after down loading it from the store, print it up preferably in cardstock and color, then post it where you will see it as you go about your day.

Apologies if you cannot find one.  I am a Jill of all in this business, so some things take longer than others.  If something used here isn’t posted yet, you will find lots of other offerings including inspirational quotes or more EFTI exercises. In time all will be posted.

DAILY PROMPT   The Object of My Dejection  – Tell us about the object of your dejection — something you made, a masterpiece unfinished, or some sort of project that failed to meet your expectations. What did you learn from the experience? How would you do things differently next time?

How this fits in with today’s EFTI Post:  I was raised to think poorly of money-grubbing. So I have consistently under sold myself and Emotional Fitness Training.

I have lead a good life, but EFTI will probably be buried with me and I wish I had done better selling it.  A bit more money would have made it a viable business that could live on.

That said I am still trying to find a some legacy keepers or investors who will work to keep it going for at least a few more years.  Interested?

TIPS TO “MOVE YOUR BODY” WHEN YOU ARE NOT INCLINED – DAY THREE OF THE TWELVE DAYS OF EAST EMOTIONAL FITNESS EXERCISES

Some are into exercising, others not. For those of you not so inclined there is good news. First a few quotes about hating exercise. Laughing counts as exercise.

EXERCISE QUOTES FUNNY

This Easy Emotional Fitness Exercise is the hardest one for some to practice.  The following might make it easier.  First some facts about the need and then some tips to make tips that might help.

The good news:  “Recent studies show that high-intensity interval training can serve as an effective alternate to traditional endurance-based training.” 

Translation “One minute of strenuous effort, at about 90 percent of a person’s maximum heart rate, followed by one minute of easy recovery repeated ten times during a day.” Maybe all you need.

The studies also show that those one-minute bursts work even when spread out during the day, and only need to be done three or four times a week.

According to the Mayo Clinic, “Studies show that your perceived exertion correlates well with your heart rate. So if you think you’re working hard, your heart rate is likely raised. “

Swim one lap and have to stop?  Huffing and puffing when you climb a flight of stairs, but still able to keep going?  Do five jumping jacks and need to sit down to catch your breathe? Hiking and hit a hill that sees you slowing down? A minute of the Twist gets you ready to stop?

Answer “Yes” to any of these questions  and you’ve gotten an estimate of your high intensity workout.

The Move Your Body exercise  asks that you do one of the above off and on throughout the day.  A SMART Goal would be to do one or the other of these one minute energy bursts ten times a day four or five times a week. Swimming is the  requires a bit more effort unless you already spend your day by the pool soaking up the sun.  You also  need stairs or a step-up-stool for stair climbing, but the others can be done easily throughout the day with little effort.

Enhancements:   Add some weight training.  The easiest way is to carry a weight as you walk, stair, climb, or twist.

Add stretching.   Many can be done seating and a few while lying on your bed or couch. Do stretch and hold, not bouncing ones.

PARENTING TIPs

Parenting tip one: Most kids are movers.  A few, however, are born couch potatoes.  That probably means you or the child’s other parent are also.  Knowing that will help, but having non-exercises in the family means you will  have to work harder to instill a few good habits.

As always it will start with your willingness to model.  Family dance time for a minute as you gather around the breakfast table, skipping out to the car for that trip to the mall all work for little ones.  Teens will die of embarrassment, but as the teen years are years about body image, ask the teen what s/he wants to do to shape up.

Parenting tip two:  Swimming lessons are a must for swimming and once mastered is a life-long way to exercise. Lessons can start with infants. Here are some teaching tots to swim tips.

Parenting tip three: Everyone in the family will benefit from self-defense or karate lessons.  Seek out a Peace Dojo.  Also encourage skills to add Peace Dojo training as an required course.

Parenting tip four:  Encourage team play, but for fun not competition. As with swimming and karate, team play teaches important life skills.

Parenting tip five: Never make exercise a punishment and when possible offer it as a reward. Examples:  Take a homework break to listen to a favorite song that you and your child will dance too.  Walk to the ice-cream store and back.

Parenting tip six: Insist.  Some things are not negotiable.  Think of seat belts, brushing teeth, getting vaccinated, going to school.  Moreover, every family has rules that are followed without hassle or argument.  How do those rules get put in place? Insistent consistency.

 PRACTICE KINDNESS

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Thank you and work at staying strong until next time,. I work hard to do the same as life is often difficult but staying strong lets me find the good.

Katherine

LINKS OF INTEREST

FREE  STUFF FROM EFTI

All the handouts and poster coaches for this course are being posted at the store so you can download them for free. A poster coach is like a face-to-face coach; all serve as practice reminders, some teach you the exercises needed to stay strong.

To use one, after down loading it from the store, print it up preferably in cardstock and color, then post it where you will see it as you go about your day.

Apologies if you cannot find one.  I am a Jill of all in this business, so some things take longer than others.  If something used here isn’t posted yet, you will find lots of other offerings including inspirational quotes or more EFTI exercises. In time all will be posted.

DAILY PROMPT   The Language of Things  You have to write a message to someone dear to you, telling that person how much he/she means to you. However — instead of words, you can only use 5-10 objects to convey your emotions. Which objects do you choose, and what do they mean?

How this fits in with today’s EFTI Post:  Not an easy connection, but our bodies are objects and need caring for and that means exercising.

HOW TO REMEMBER WHAT MATTERS – DAY TWO OF THE TWELVE DAYS OF EMOTIONAL FITNESS EXERCISES

Thanking and remembering the Creator of all was the reason for what are now mainly secular holidays  urging you to buy. The important stuff gets forgotten.

#emotionalintelligence building blog post.Remembering what matters

Throughout all religions and  philosophies it is believed the good life cannot be found unless it involves being caring and just t0 all.  That is what matters.

It is easy to  get caught up in believing  owning the newest car, the latest fashions, the most up to date gadgets; others say how you look; still others think it is how smart you are or what school you went to, how much money you have matter. And yes, those things have a place, but are not what matter.   What matters is the kind of person you are. What matters most is being kind and caring.

Self care is not enough.  If you don’t act to make the world better, self-care becomes banal narcissism.  No matter what else you want to achieve in your life, remember to be kind, just, generous and caring, not just to those you love, but to all.    That is what matters and what needs to be remembered.

Humanity is programmed to be kind and caring, when we turn from that we turn from our inner good and that twists our being.  As  the poet Edgar Guest noted, “I have to live with myself and so, I want to be fit for myself to know.”

How to practice this exercise:  Before you climb out of bed each morning, take a minute to Be Grateful-why that is the first of the Twelve Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises; then take another moment to think about what matters.

Then throughout the day, when stressed, take a Calming Breath and remind yourself what matters. You won’t bring peace on earth, but you will bring more peace into your heart

Enhancement: Having a brief written mission statement printed up and posted were you can read it as you start you day, strengthens your resolve to remember what matters.  .

Don’t know about mission statements?  Get EFT’s eBook Know Your Mission So You Can Reach Your Goals.  Cost less than a movie and does more good.

parenting tips

Parenting tip one: Just using the words “Remember what matters” starts your child thinking and thinking about what matters is key to emotional fitness.

Parenting tip two: Teaching rating scales helps keep everything in perspective and can start with toddlers.

Parenting tip three: Devote some family meetings to talking about what matters.

PRACTICE KINDNESS

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Thank you and work at staying strong until next time,. I work hard to do the same as life is often difficult but staying strong lets me find the good.

Katherine

LINKS OF INTEREST

FREE  STUFF FROM EFTI

All the handouts and poster coaches for this course are being posted at the store so you can download them for free. A poster coach is like a face-to-face coach; all serve as practice reminders, some teach you the exercises needed to stay strong.

To use one, after down loading it from the store, print it up preferably in cardstock and color, then post it where you will see it as you go about your day.

Apologies if you cannot find one.  I am a Jill of all in this business, so some things take longer than others.  If something used here isn’t posted yet, you will find lots of other offerings including inspirational quotes or more EFTI exercises. In time all will be posted.

DAILY PROMPT   Unsung Heroes  We all have our semi-secret, less-known personal favorites — a great B-side, an early work by an artist that later became famous, an obscure (but delicious) family recipe. Share one of your unsung heroes with us — how did you discover it? Why has it stayed off everyone’s radar?

My parents, who never had material success, but knew what mattered.  Next? All my many dogs who also knew what mattered.

How this fits in with today’s EFTI Post:  The true heros of life are those who teach you want matters.

FIVE WAYS TO “BE GRATEFUL” – DAY ONE OF THE TWELVE DAYS OF EMOTIONAL FITNESS EXERCISES

As the Irish say, “Enough its a feast.”  Good to remember as you try to stay grateful. Be Grateful is  the first of the Daily Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises.

#EmotionalIntelligencePoster Coach Practice Gratitude quotes.

First Way: Remember all you have to be grateful for—life, love, a beautiful world.   List in your head at least three specific things you that you are grateful for—a  family, friends, a pet, a pleasant home, children, good health are a few of the specific things often included on a gratitude list.

When you have made your list, take a deep calming breath in; then as you breathe out say “Thank You” for the first item on your list. naming what you are thankful for.  Breathe normally for a few minutes and then thank the second and third items on your list exactly as you thanked the first.  When you have completed your list, say a general thank you and finish with another calming breath.

When expressing gratitude toward people, be specific; name the person.  Some people use this exercise as a prayer and thank the God they believe; some simply thank life.

Second Way: Every time someone does something for you, say “Thank you” out loud.  When someone rings up your purchases or packs your groceries, or holds a door, say “Thank you.”

Third Way: Thank inanimate objects.  Say  “Thank you” when something works.  Say “Thank you” when things go your way.  Say “Thank you.” when you see something of beauty.  Say “Thank you.” when you hear some beautiful or inspiring music, or cheerful music.  Say “Thank you” hen you smell a whiff of fresh air, or the scent of a flower, or the aroma of fresh coffee or hot chocolate. Say “Thank you.”  to all the good that the world gives you. saying “Thank you” extends the gift.

Fourth Way: Say “Thank you” for the bad things that happen and as you say thank you look for the lessons.  Minimally, bad things teach the lesson of enjoying the good things

Fifth Way: Extend the your gratitude by keeping your “Thank you” genuine.. This takes a bit of practice and remembering to take a calming breath, then focusing and ending your “Thank you” with a smile works best.

When asked if my cup is half-full or half-empty my only response is that I am thankful I have a cup. 

                                                                           Sam Lefkowitz, American humorist

three parenting tips

Parenting tip one: The more you say ‘Thank you” to and around your children, the more they will say “Thank you.”

Parenting tip two:  Start young. Begin by Signing “Thank you” before your child masters language.  Teach “yes,” “no,” and “thank you”  The ASL  sign for “Thank You” is similar to blowing a kiss.  As you sign, say the words.

Parenting tip three:  Teach and force your kids to write “Thank you” notes. My mother did not teach or make me write “Thank you” notes.

Confession, I did not force my kids to do write such notes.  Big mistake. I did teach gratitude and to say  “Thank you.”

As cosmetics entrepreneur Mary Kay Ash put: “There are two things people want more than sex and money: recognition and praise.”

A thank you note meets such needs and can take little time to craft. Handwritten and snail mail ones work best. When I get such a “Thank you”, I am flooded with warmth. I am also more likely to do something nice for the sender.  I am not alone in failing to push the hand written note. Big mistake.

 PRACTICE KINDNESS

Please rate this material. Doing so helps my social media ratings, but also lets me know what interests you most. Comments do the same.

This is what your stars will mean to me. No stars –Not good enough to rate; One star – Reinforced my knowledge –  Two Stars; New information –  Three stars;  New useful information; Four stars – Very good; Five stars – Excellent.

Thank you and work at staying strong until next time,. I work hard to do the same as life is often difficult but staying strong lets me find the good.

Katherine

LINKS OF INTEREST

FREE  STUFF FROM EFTI

All the handouts and poster coaches for this course are being posted at the store so you can download them for free. A poster coach is like a face-to-face coach; all serve as practice reminders, some teach you the exercises needed to stay strong.

To use one, after down loading it from the store, print it up preferably in cardstock and color, then post it where you will see it as you go about your day.

Apologies if you cannot find one.  I am a Jill of all in this business, so some things take longer than others.  If something used here isn’t posted yet, you will find lots of other offerings including inspirational quotes or more EFTI exercises. In time all will be posted.

DAILY PROMPT   What are the top items on your anti-bucket list — those things you never, everwant to do, places you never want to visit, books you never want to read, etc.?

How this fits in with today’s EFTI Post:  Get a face lift, tummy tuck, dye my hair.  I am grateful for having lived long enough that wrinkles sags and gray hair no longer matter. Being alive is gift enough.