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An Oppportunity to “Make Money Doing Good”

HELP WANTED: Need someone with advanced technical skills to take over the computer related part of Emotional Fitness Training as a profit-sharing venture.

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Would need to be knowledgeable with Word Press programming and skills as well as the ability to turn  eBooks into regular books via Create Space. Photoshop and marketing skills a plus.  All work would be paid for via profit-sharing.

I would like to work with a stay at home parent whose children are now entering school so the mother or father can begin to think about building a business they can operate from their computer, The person must be  financially secure enough to trade an immediate salary for future gains.

Contact me at emotfit@live.com to explore this further.

Not sure about what you want and where you are going? A bit interested in my offer. You might want to spend 2.99 for  this eBook to get a feeling for Emotional Fitness Training’s philosophy and way of working, but also to get clearer on what you want and how to get there.

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Available at Amazon and currently  costs 2.99 which is less than a lotte.

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In regards to this post, do share it with any stay-at-home parent with the kind of computer skills noted above who  wants to have a programming career.

Thank you.

Katherine

This post was not inspired by this WordPress Daily Prompt:  ______ is the new ______ Click over to your favorite blog, and pick out the 4th and 14th words (that aren’t “the” or “an”). Drop them into this phrase: “_____ is the new _____.” There’s your post title. Now write!

Here is what the title would read if aligned with this prompt.

Profit sharing is the new hope for building EFTI’s  legacy.

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How to Use Memories to Stay Strong

Memories serve to keep us safe. As Mark Twain noted no cat sits twice on a hot stove — that also means no cat sits on a cold stove.  More to think about:

Quotes about memories

Emotional Fitness Training is designed to keep negative feelings from controlling. Memories trigger feelings, some good, some bad. Looking for the lessons  found  in your bad memories marks you as emotionally fit,  what others call Emotional Intelligence.

Memory books strengthening  your ability to find the lessons bad times bring. Here is a quick Emotional Fitness Training look at Memory Books.

WHO SHOULD MAKE A MEMORY BOOK?

Everyone and parents in particular.

If you are a parent, try to make a family memory book.  Start with creating your own book and encourage your child’s other parent to do the same. Build on those two as you create a Family Memory Book.

Some parents start their child’s memory book, but as soon as the child can, he or she should be part of creating his own memory book as well as contributing to the larger family memory book if one is being kept.

SOME EASY IDEAS TO GET STARTED

Start with a memory box. Use it to gather items that you think might  belong in a memory book (like party invitations, pictures, various reports, notes, etc).

Do not collect only happy memories. As Stephen Levine author of A Year to Live, noted “Simply touching a difficult memory with some slight willingness to heal begins to soften the holding and tension around it. (74)”

When going through a trauma put items in the box that can be used to make a memory page at some later date when the pain is less and you want to hold on to the good.

Establish a routine for making memory book pages.  Some devote one evening a month to sorting through the boxes and making one or two memory pages; others make it birthday, holiday, after a vacation or other special event activity

USING YOUR MEMORY BOOK TO STAY STRONG

 Review it off and on. When making a new page is a good time to flip through it quickly. Focus particularly on the good memories. Those are the ones you want to strengthen.

To so with full awareness.  That is done by meditating before and after the exercise.  Sound too difficult?  Not once you have learned and practiced  EFT’s One Minute Meditation.

Do not neglect bad times, particularly the  bad times  that have  you reeling and not able to do much but crawl ahead. While enduring a bad time try to call up a similar bad time you survived and hold it in your heart as tiy sat  “I am a survivor, and I will survive this.”

Once you can function a bit normally, write about this bad time and add it to your memory book. Doing so moves the healing forward.

However, do not dwell on the bad endlessly.  One of the problems with talk therapy is that it focuses often on just the bad stuff. Good for a time when the bad stuff first occurs.  Not good if not  used to learn lessons and reaffirm you strength and let you move on.

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Please Practice Kindness by sharing all you find of value on the internet including this post.  All here crave recognition.

A like says “Thank You.”

Comments say you have read and thought about the post.

Sharing is a gift to three people: the blogger, the people you share with, and you for your kindness bless you.

Stay strong, it is not always easy.

Katherine

This post was inspired by this WordPress Daily Prompt: Memory on the Menu by Ben Huberman Which good memories are better — the recent and vivid ones, or those that time has covered in a sweet haze?

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1 Mega Tip Plus a Few Others to Clear Up Faulty Thinking

We all have our histories, we all are taught other histories then we shape our lives on both versions one which maybe true than the other. Think about this:

Quote from Declaration of Independece

As an African proverb from the Ewe-mina tribe notes:”Gnatola ma no kpon sia, eyenabe adelan to kpo mi sena.” meaning in English “Until the lion has his or her own storyteller, the hunter will always have the best part of the story.”

For the men who wrote the Declaration of Independence, the emphasis was on the right to pursue happiness.   Today those word are  often  interpreted as the right to be happy. More so on the Social Media, but also on revered newspapers like the New York Times.

Questions to ask before believing something

Thinking you have a right to be happy fuels anger or despair  when you are not happy.  If you get angry, you feel it is right to fight those you blame for making you unhappy.; not useful.  If you despair, you are blaming yourself, also not useful. We all want to be happy, but life is full of pain as well as joy. False expectations of happiness dim the possiblity of enjoying what we can enjoy.

Moreover, the media, particularly those selling stuff, knows that not being happy fuels sales. Why images of perfection and mottos like “Just Do It” have a destructive side. Why I often suggest you practice imperfection and the contentment that comes with “good-enough” or “the best I can do for now.”

A MEGA Emotional Fitness Training tip

Learn to spot twisted thinking in others and in yourself. Because personal desires twist everyone’s thinking; which is why Emotional Fitness Training demands partnering heart and brain.  The more you know about twisted thinking, the better you code reality which is essential if one is to act wisely.  Here’s a quick look at how some thoughts get twisted as we pursue our dreams and desires.

How we twist thoughts to meet desires.

I pursue sharpening my thinking skills in two ways. The easiest ways is looking for examples of the above in social media.

The second way is to take opposing view points in arguments whether I believe the opposition or not. That is why many think I am a Right Wing Conservative and others a far out Leftist, and a few others a Libertarion. Mostly I try to be an independent thinker and vote issues not labels.

This post was somewhat inspired by this WordPress Daily Prompt.  Revisionist History by Michelle W. Go back in time to an event you think could have played out differently for you. Let alternate history have its moment: tell us what could, would or should have happened?

Not that I followed the post, but it did prompt my thinking about history – personal and otherwise.

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Remember to share all you find of value on the internet.  All here crave recognition. A like says “Thank You.” Comments say you have read and thought about the post. Sharing is a gift to three people: the blogger, the people you share with, and you for your kindness bless you.

Katherine

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1 Mega Tip for Thinking More About What Matters –

Read this story and then think about what matters.

Rod Steiger Story

“We grow too soon old and too late smart” Dutch Proverb

A Mega Emotional Fitness Training Tip: The more you think you know, the more your heart pushes your beliefs, the more you need to think more about what matters; the more you must think and think and think again.  

As the sages of the ages often note, “Love is blind.” When love of anything has you following your heart and your desires thoughtlessly, you out of touch not just with what matters, but with reality.

Heart, intuition must be linked to thought in order for you to act wisely and safely.

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Remember to share all you find of value on the internet.  All here crave recognition. A like says “Thank You.” Comments say you have read and thought about the post. Sharing is a gift to three people: the blogger, the people you share with, and you for your kindness bless you.

Katherine

This post was inspired by this Word Press Daily PromptS/he Said
by Michelle W. Pause whatever you’re doing, and ask the person nearest you what they’re thinking about (call someone if you have to). Write a post based on the results.

I moved on thinking I wouldn’t post today, but then read this story about Rod Steiger and there you are. Thank you Dr. Mardy’s Quotes for the story.

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