Are you a slave to fashion? Do the retailers love you? Or are you you? What’s your uniform.
I was something of a freak during my adolescence. Mainly because my growth spurt took me to 5′ 11″ and 1/2 inches by the time I entered sixth grade. Moreover I was skinnier than Twiggy at a day and age when Marilyn Monroe was the fashion Icon. I towered over all the boys and a few of the male teachers. Not pleasant.
When I complained to my mother about being asked repeatedly “How’s the weather up there?” she told me to “Spit in their eye and tell them its raining.”
She knew I was too shy and well mannered to do that, but it did become my inner voice’s response to such remarks. Helped lots.
Emotional Fitness Training Thoughts and Tips
We all wear uniforms. Even the poorest of the poor have one, not one of their own making, but of poverty’s making. Why is this? Because we are social creatures. Also because we have a deep-seated need to be who we are. But another reason is that we rank each other.
Ranking ourselves would be fine if we ranked our behavior more than our outer trappings. But that tends to get lost in the fashions proclaiming our riches or our status. Think Kings and Popes, Queens and Generals. Crowns, Metals, and Jewel.
What to do?
Emotional Fitness Tip one: Remember What Matters. What matters is always how you treat others for that is the reflection of who you really are. Practice kindness.
Emotional Fitness Tip two: Be Grateful for All You Have Been Given. You are truly among the privileged class if you can afford to follow fashion. Two thoughts.
The first: Do it in your own way and because it speaks to you and not just the fad of the day.
The second: Do it within your means. Lots of money? Do not be a bargain hunter. The people who work in the fashion industry need you to buy at the highest possible price.
On a limited income: Go for the discounts, the consignment shops, the thrift stores. That is where I do more and more of my shopping.
Emotional Fitness Tip three: Practice imperfection. My hair is now a lovely silver, but that did mean enduring a period of mousiness when the brown was turning gray.
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Stay strong, it is not always easy.
This post was inspired by this Word Press Daily Post Prompt: Style Icon -Describe your personal style, however you’d like to interpret that — your clothing style, your communication style, your hair style, your eating style, anything.
Too varied to describe, but then that does bespeak my style. Natural in the sense of no make-up, no dying my hair, and no plastic surgery. Prefer jeans or pants to dresses, tops that show a bit of bosom but worn with a shirt of some sort to camouflage e my weight. See I do have my vanities. I also dress for the occasion so have a number of modest shirts and tops to wear to shul or other places requiring a bit of modesty.
I have a friend, I admire most for her uniform is very simple and very much her. Always black shirt, black pants or skirts. Always the same timeless style. I try for that, but David dear wants more color and more variety and has an aversion to all black. Takes me back to Nina Garcia’s quote. Here are a more.
LINKS OF INTEREST
These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.
- Emotional Intelligence (en.wikipedia.org)
- The five components of emotional Intelligence (www.sonoma.edu)
- About Emotional Fitness Training (emotionalfitnesstraining.com)
- An Emotional Fitness Program for Parents (amazon.com)