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CRY WHEN YOU MUST, THEN GO ON

This Poster Coach says it all.

How to survive trauma

All is change and feelings come and go often faster than NASCAR racers.  However, some bad  times will bring you to your knees or knock you  out. I call those times “Life blows,” the experts call them traumas.

Now is one of the three worse times of my life. Why? Not for sharing. However, the poster coach above tells how I survived the other two times and how I will continue surviving

When a life blow strikes you down, going on will be a struggle, but if you look back over your life, as I am doing, you will see you have survived the worse of times.  Honoring surviving past life blows strengthens your ability to go on.

Emotional training tip one: As you start to recover do what you can as you can. Hoever, be patient; time does not heal all wounds but ususally we mend enough in the broken places to go on.

Emotional training tip two:  As always take  good care of your body, Life blows weaken our physical beings making it essential to do all the things your mother and doctor say keep you healthy.

Emotional training tip three: Remember what matters. Life blows challenge our deepest beliefs.  Explains why there are no atheists in fox holes.

AND, if you ask agnostics and atheists why they turned  from religion; 99% will say because religion failed to explain bad things that happen. Some of the religious will become more devout.

My parents were more agnostic than not. I became a Christian as a teen, a non-Christian as a college student, and a Jew a year after I married.

One of the attractions of Judiasm was its lack of need to seek converts. I had turned away from Christianity because the emphasis on conversion did not match my idea of a loving God turning away from those who had found a different path to a being a good person defied my logical brain. I am grateful, Christians have given up killing in Jesus’ name and hope the fanatical Islamists do the same before they destroy the world.

Retirement has allowed me to study Torah more carefully.  It is studying philosophy as much as how to be an observant Jew.  I was a philosophy major in college and so love studying Torah and Judaism as a philosophy.  As I have often noted all philosophies, religions, and secular sages agree that what matters most is kindness to all.

Those who practice kindness to some are the current obstacles to peace on earth. Some are religious, many just power hungry, money hoarders, or  self-involved.  We all have power, money and selfish needs. Counter them by practicing deliberate kindness.

PARENTING TIP

Build good memories of the past for and with your child.  How? Laugh, play, and create together. Make one of your joint  creations a memory book. Include a few bad memories to accentuate the reality that life is not all good times. Those pages will also honor surviving.

CRITICAL THINKING DAILY PROMPT

This post was inspired by: But No CigarTell us about a time things came this close to working out… but didn’t. What happened next? Would you like the chance to try again, or are you happy with how things eventually worked out?

With each life blow, I kept trying. Never easy, but nothing else to do except die and I was not and am not ready for that. Mostly, I found lessons, and that was the good in each life blow.  I deepened my thinking about me, others, life, why pain, why evil, God.

Two tips for those whose life is one of constant physical or emotional pain.

Tip one: Make sure you are getting the best care possible. Emotional Fitness Tips augment, but do not replace competent professional help.

Tip two: One of the best sources of pratical help for both acute and chronic suffering is Marsha Linehan’s work, particularly her thoughts on Radical Acceptance. 

I was once accused of stealing her ideas, but that was before I had even heard of her.  The criticism pushed me to learn about her and to attend a training lead by her. I saw why I was thought to be plagerizing her and felt honored by the comparison.

STAY STRONG

The fact is when we suffer,  we are the ones who need to deal with it alone or with help from those who care and in some situations professionals.   Training seeks to help you stay strong.

Watch for my newest venture. Publishing short eBooks as PDF documents at my store. My other books will continue to be sold on my Amazon.com Author’s page.

This new venture is related to feeling the pressure of age and the on-going wish to share the  knowledge I and others have found useful.  Money makes self-publishing in a PDF format the only way I can  do that.

The books will not be perfect, dygraphia will interfere,  but each will be good as I can so without spending money.

As usual thank you for supporting me. I am so lucky so many of you are there for me.

Katherine

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STOP CHASING HAPPINESS, CONTENTMENT COMES EASIER

The pursuit of happiness is a selling device.  Buy into it and waste time, money, and effort. Pursue contentment instead; try these ten tips.

Tips for finding contentment

EMOTIONAL FITNESS TIPs

Most of today’s tips are in the poster. However here is an extra one. Learn the art of rating things.  Here is a Feeling Thermometer Poster rating Happiness.

Measuring happiness on a feeling thermometer

Four to six are realistic feel good measurements. These are when you can work on being happy or at least content. Seven to nine ratings are to be enjoyed.   Reserve ten ratings for  moments of complete happiness. You’ve won the lottery, found true love, know the joy of becoming a parent to a very wanted child.

Always keep in mind that “Now is not forever”  All is change and feelings come and sometimes faster than race cars at any  Speedway. This helps you stay strong when bad times come, and remind you to cherish all the good that life gives you.

PARENTING TIP

Teach children to use a feeling thermometer.  Post one where all can see it. Use it yourself. When your kids can read and write, have them make a personal feeling thermometer.

CRITICAL THINKING DAILY PROMPT

This quick post was inspired by: Weaving the Threads – Draft a post with three parts, each unrelated to the other, but create a common thread between them by including the same item — an object, a symbol, a place — in each part.

At first I thought no way I am doing this one and went in search of another topic.  Stretching a bit one could say I wove pain, contentment, and happiness together.

Do you have a better explanation?

STAY STRONG  

Life is hard and we all struggle, some far more than others.  The fact is when we suffer we suffer and we are the ones who need to deal with it.  Emotional Fitness Training seeks to help you stay strong.

Watch for my newest venture. Publishing short eBooks at my store. My other books will continue to be sold on my Amazon.com Author’s page.

This new venture is related to feeling the pressure of age and the on-going wish to share the  knowledge I and others have found useful.  Money makes self-publishing in a PDF format the only way I can  do that.

The books will not be perfect,dygrapia will interfere,  but each will be good as I can so without spending money.

As usual thank you for supporting me. I am so lucky so many of you are there for me.

Katherine

LINKS OF INTEREST

HOW TO BECOME A CRITICAL THINKER

Thich Nan Hahn tells us “The rose is in the garbage, the garbage is in the rose.” He wants us to think outside our usual either/or boxes.

Beauty rocks and roots (2)

EMotional Fitness Thoughts

The purpose of the Be With Beauty Exercise is to have you exercise the ability to find  beauty in uncommon places.   Beauty soothes, but finding it off the ordinary path strengthens you emotional intelligence.

As Thich Nah Hahn says whether you see beauty or ugliness depends on how you define or think about beauty. He disputes  the human  tendency to think in dualities, what is commonly called “Either/or thinking.”

Either. or thinking limits options. Mostly, you hold to past ideas.   Looking for beauty in garbage or rocks or roots, on a crowded subway. or in the squalor of a slum  pushes you to think beyond what you know and so  strengthens critical thinking.

Emotional fitness tip

Add one word to the end of yours or someone else’s thoughts is another easy way to expand everyone’s thoughts. That word? And.  Said as if asking a question , that one word usually leads the other person to

It can also be away of introducing a different idea. “And, I think a bit differently.”

Works far better than a “But” or a “No.”

PARENTING TIP

Using “The And Word” works great with kids. Kids, want to talk and want to feel you are listening. Using “The And Word” invites more conversation.

BLOG POSTING SCHEDULE CHANGE

Aging slows one down a bit. Another birthday is rolling around and I am greteful to still be able to blog.  Although I mght blog every day, but Shabbat, I am not only promising to get an EFTI blog out every Tuesday and Thursday. Wednesday will be a Parents Are People Too blog

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Remember’s sharing is caring and the easiest way to practice kindness now is to share this post with someone who will find it inspiring.  Thank you.

Katherine

LINKS OF INTEREST

 FREE POSTER COACHES 

Like any coach, EFTI’s poster coaches inspire, teach, motivate, and reinforce thinking about what matters.  To use, print up in color and post there it will be seen often.  Poster Coaches can also be used at  Family Meetings to start a discussion about what matters.

DAILY PROMPT

32 Flavors Vanilla, chocolate, or something else entirely?

“The And Word” leads to more flavors and that is the subject of this blog post.  Cheerio.

 

CHOOSE KINDNESS AND YOU ALWAYS WIN

Life is hard and not matter how much we are given, we all know pain and struggle. Surviving those times is easier than you think.

vfrankel

Vickor Emil Frankl lost his wife, father, mother, and brother  during the Holocaust. He survived to became a major force in the development of  existential therapym  which stresses facing reality, but choosing what you can, and noting that the best choice is always kindness.  He  is most remembered for his book Man’s Search for Meaning, from Death Camp to Existentialism. 

Emotional Fitness exercise of the day

Practicing Kindness is one of the Twelve Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises. Make it your life’s mission and you will survive the worse. Do so, not for those you treat with kindness but for you.

Being kind to others almost always gets repaid with kindness.  Smile at someone and most of the time you will get a smile in return.  When you don’t, at least you have done the right thing.  Giving and getting kindness is essential to your health.

Parenting Tip

Kindness starts with respect for others and for children and that is the heart of good manners.  Manners can be taught as soon as your child starts walking and talking.

As Marion Wright Edelman, president and founder of the Children’s Defense Fund noted,  “Being considerate of others will take you and your children further in life than any college or professional degree.”

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Keep working to stay strong, I work hard to do the same . As noted above,  I am not perfect, no one is so see mistakes as an opportunity for learning.

Remember’s sharing is caring and the easiest way to practice kindness right now is to share this post with someone who will find it inspiring.  Thank you.

Katherine

Links of interest

 FREE POSTER COACHES 

Like any coach, EFTI’s poster coaches inspire, teach, motivate, and reinforce thinking about what matters.  To use, print up in color and post there it will be seen often.  Poster Coaches can also be used at  Family Meetings to start a discussion about what matters.

DAILY PROMPT  Study Abroad  If you were asked to spend a year living in a different location, where would you choose and why?

Israel. Because I am a Jew. Because despite all the horrors of Jew hatred and the efforts to destroy Israel, Israel survives as a democratic. Because the heart of Jewish Law is to treat others as you want to be treated and that is the heart of practicing kindness.