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5 Tips for Making Wishes Come True

“If wishes were horses, beggars would ride.”  as my mother often said. I hated hearing that, but she was giving me an important reality check.

Quotes about wishes

Wishing does not make it so, but wishing has it uses. Mainly it gives us hope. As the last quote states however, you need to do two things to make your wishes come true.

Emotional Fitness Training Tips

 Emotional Fitness Training tip one: Turn your wishes into SMART goals.

How to set SMART Goals

For more help with setting goals buy my eBook Know Your Mission So You Can Reach Your Goals.  It costs$3.01 and that is  less than a movie. Moreover I think you will agree has longer lasting value.

Emotional Fitness Training tip two: No matter how busy you are work toward your SMART goal six days a week.  Try to give at least an hour toward your goal, but fifteen minutes is better than none.  Read The War of Art by Steven Pressfield for inspiration.

Why six days and not all seven? We all need one day off from work even when trying to get reach our most heart-felt goal.

Emotional Fitness Training tip three: Do not let perfectionism hold you back. I have let that happen. Not helpful. Best to put something out there and perfect it as you go along.

Emotional Fitness Training tip four: Expect failure along the way. Keep going, but also at some point remember as I have found out, :”When a goal is not met, the wrong goal was set.”

Emotional Fitness Training tip five: Remember what matters. 

PARENTING ADVICE

Until a child is in the second or third grade and has learned to read, he who she tends to think wishing makes it so. That is part of the magic of childhood and adults encourage it.

Better to accept what the child believes, but to at the same time, label wishes and hopes and not all come true. The same with Santa Clause and the Tooth Fairy. Fun but not real. Your child’s pleasure will not be diminished, but when s/he does begin to doubt such things, you will not be seen as having lied. Moreover, you have been helping him or her code reality better. .

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Please Practice Kindness by sharing all you find of value on the internet including this post.  All crave recognition. A like says “Thank You.”Comments say you have read and thought about the post.Sharing is a gift to three people: the blogger, the people you share with, and you for your kindness bless you.Stay strong, it is not always easy.

Katherine

This post was inspired by a WordPress Daily Prompt – Three Coins in the Fountain. Have you ever tossed a coin or two into a fountain and made a wish? Did it come true?

Yes, sometimes, no other times.

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3 Tips for Being You – A Matter of Style

Are you a slave to fashion? Do the retailers love you? Or are you you? What’s your uniform.

Quotes about style

I was something of a freak during my adolescence. Mainly because my growth spurt took me to 5′ 11″ and 1/2 inches by the time I entered sixth grade. Moreover I was skinnier than Twiggy at a day and age when Marilyn Monroe was the fashion Icon. I towered over all the boys and a few of the male teachers. Not pleasant.

When I complained to my mother about being asked repeatedly “How’s the weather up there?” she told me to “Spit in their eye and tell them its raining.”

She knew I was too shy and well mannered to do  that, but it did become my inner voice’s response to such remarks. Helped lots.

Emotional Fitness Training Thoughts and Tips

We all wear uniforms. Even the poorest of the poor have one, not one of their own making, but of poverty’s making. Why is this? Because we are social creatures. Also because we have a deep-seated need to be who we are. But another reason is that we rank each other.

Ranking ourselves would be fine if we ranked our behavior more than our outer trappings.  But that tends to get lost in the fashions proclaiming our riches or our status. Think Kings and Popes, Queens and Generals. Crowns, Metals, and Jewel.

What to do?

Emotional Fitness Tip one: Remember What Matters. What matters is always how you treat others for that is the reflection of who you really are. Practice kindness.

Emotional Fitness Tip two: Be Grateful for All You Have Been Given. You are truly among the privileged class if you can afford to follow fashion. Two thoughts.

The first: Do it in your own way and because it speaks to you and not just the fad of the day.

The second: Do it within your means. Lots of money? Do not be a bargain hunter. The people who work in the fashion industry need you to buy at the highest possible price.

On a limited income: Go for the discounts, the consignment shops, the thrift stores.  That is where I do more and more of my shopping.

Emotional Fitness Tip three: Practice imperfection. My hair is now a lovely silver, but that did mean enduring a period of mousiness when the brown was turning gray.

Coehol's story of Narcissus

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Please Practice Kindness by sharing all you find of value on the internet including this post.  All here crave recognition.

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Comments say you have read and thought about the post.

Sharing is a gift to three people: the blogger, the people you share with, and you for your kindness bless you.

Stay strong, it is not always easy.

Katherine

This post was inspired by this   Word Press Daily Post Prompt:  Style Icon -Describe your personal style, however you’d like to interpret that — your clothing style, your communication style, your hair style, your eating style, anything.

Too varied to describe, but then that does bespeak my style. Natural in the sense of no make-up, no dying my hair, and no plastic surgery. Prefer jeans or pants to dresses, tops that show a bit of bosom but worn with a shirt of some sort to camouflage e my weight. See I do have my vanities. I also dress for the occasion so have a number of modest shirts and tops to wear to shul or other places requiring a bit of modesty.

I have a friend, I admire most for her uniform is very simple and very much her. Always black shirt, black pants or skirts. Always the same timeless style.  I try for that, but David dear wants more color and more variety and has an aversion to all black.  Takes me back to Nina Garcia’s quote. Here are a more.

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How to Use Memories to Stay Strong

Memories serve to keep us safe. As Mark Twain noted no cat sits twice on a hot stove — that also means no cat sits on a cold stove.  More to think about:

Quotes about memories

Emotional Fitness Training is designed to keep negative feelings from controlling. Memories trigger feelings, some good, some bad. Looking for the lessons  found  in your bad memories marks you as emotionally fit,  what others call Emotional Intelligence.

Memory books strengthening  your ability to find the lessons bad times bring. Here is a quick Emotional Fitness Training look at Memory Books.

WHO SHOULD MAKE A MEMORY BOOK?

Everyone and parents in particular.

If you are a parent, try to make a family memory book.  Start with creating your own book and encourage your child’s other parent to do the same. Build on those two as you create a Family Memory Book.

Some parents start their child’s memory book, but as soon as the child can, he or she should be part of creating his own memory book as well as contributing to the larger family memory book if one is being kept.

SOME EASY IDEAS TO GET STARTED

Start with a memory box. Use it to gather items that you think might  belong in a memory book (like party invitations, pictures, various reports, notes, etc).

Do not collect only happy memories. As Stephen Levine author of A Year to Live, noted “Simply touching a difficult memory with some slight willingness to heal begins to soften the holding and tension around it. (74)”

When going through a trauma put items in the box that can be used to make a memory page at some later date when the pain is less and you want to hold on to the good.

Establish a routine for making memory book pages.  Some devote one evening a month to sorting through the boxes and making one or two memory pages; others make it birthday, holiday, after a vacation or other special event activity

USING YOUR MEMORY BOOK TO STAY STRONG

 Review it off and on. When making a new page is a good time to flip through it quickly. Focus particularly on the good memories. Those are the ones you want to strengthen.

To so with full awareness.  That is done by meditating before and after the exercise.  Sound too difficult?  Not once you have learned and practiced  EFT’s One Minute Meditation.

Do not neglect bad times, particularly the  bad times  that have  you reeling and not able to do much but crawl ahead. While enduring a bad time try to call up a similar bad time you survived and hold it in your heart as tiy sat  “I am a survivor, and I will survive this.”

Once you can function a bit normally, write about this bad time and add it to your memory book. Doing so moves the healing forward.

However, do not dwell on the bad endlessly.  One of the problems with talk therapy is that it focuses often on just the bad stuff. Good for a time when the bad stuff first occurs.  Not good if not  used to learn lessons and reaffirm you strength and let you move on.

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

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Comments say you have read and thought about the post.

Sharing is a gift to three people: the blogger, the people you share with, and you for your kindness bless you.

Stay strong, it is not always easy.

Katherine

This post was inspired by this WordPress Daily Prompt: Memory on the Menu by Ben Huberman Which good memories are better — the recent and vivid ones, or those that time has covered in a sweet haze?

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6 and More Ways to Bring Kindness To Your World

Kindness is the strongest proof of Karma as every bit act of kindness enriches you. Why it is a major Emotional Fitness  Training Exercise.

Ways to practice kindness

Emotional Fitness Training Tips

Emotional Fitness Training Tip One:  While I admire Random Acts of Kindness,  deliberate acts strengthen you moreDr Anders Ericsson said in the early 1990 that it takes 10,000 hours (20 hours for 50 weeks a year for ten years = 10,000)  what he called  deliberate practice to become an expert in almost anything.  While many have since disputed his claim, it is clear mega stars in almost every field prove his point.

Some good news: EFTI promotes starring in your life, not on the stage or the athletic playing field.  Good enough gets you there when it comes to everyday life. However, go here to learn how to be more deliberate in your practice of anything.  Here are ideas for practicing kindness deliberately.

 

Emotional Fitness Training Tip Two: Teach practicing kindness to all the children you know; I do not mean just chronological children.

Teaching kindness to children

Emotional Fitness Training Tip Three: Complain for others. Here’s an example. Sometimes I need to use the motorized shopping carts most large stores provide. I knew I needed on a very hot day even though I was only picking up a few items. The store had three such carts, not one of them worked. Although I just wanted to beat it out of there, I complained to the manager.

Sad to say I was told, the company they hired to provide the chairs gave lousy service. Not a helpful answer, so when I got home I wrote a letter of complaint to the company. Not a big act of kindness and partly for me, but what I mean by complaining for others.  You may have noticed I do some of that on Social Media.

A final poster coach  that should be in every classroom and  public forum. Well at least in my not-so-humble opinion.

Emotional Fitness Poster reminding you to Practice Kindness

As all the sages across all the ages and as today’s researchers know practicing kindness is the express lane to the good life.

This  post was prompted by this WordPress Daily Prompt: The Kindness of Strangers by Ben Huberman.  When was the last time a stranger did something particularly kind, generous, or selfless for you? Tell us what happened!

When I was trying  to make the mobilized shopping cart work as described above, a lovely man and his teenage daughter stopped to help. Didn’t get the cart working, but prompted me to complain as a way of passing the kindness forward.

tHANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Remember to share and care all you find of value on the internet.  All here crave recognition. A like says “Thank You.” Comments say you have read and thought about the post. Sharing is a gift to three people: the blogger, the people you share with, and you for your kindness bless you.

Katherine

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