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How To Speak So the Deaf Can Hear #2

Playing off yesterday’s blog post but also responding to this Word Press prompt:Powerful Suggestion  about help advice.

Speaking so the hard of hearing can understand

Actually, I changed the prompt to suit my post. Figure as a contrary cranky old lady, and WordPress consumer changing their prompts  is my privilege. And if WordPress doesn’t like it tough steak.

The  prompt actually asked: “What’s the one piece of advice you wish someone had given you a year (or five, or ten…) ago?”  Practicing kindness is the best advice for all. and it was my father’ motto and has served me well with a bit of moderation.  The moderation: Do not be kind to evil, and be able to defend yourself when attacked physically.

 THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Remember’s sharing is caring and the easiest way to practice kindness is to share this post if you found it helpful.  Share it even if it doesn’t speak to you, it will speak to some. Thank you.

Katherine

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HOW TO BECOME A CRITICAL THINKER

Thich Nan Hahn tells us “The rose is in the garbage, the garbage is in the rose.” He wants us to think outside our usual either/or boxes.

Beauty rocks and roots (2)

EMotional Fitness Thoughts

The purpose of the Be With Beauty Exercise is to have you exercise the ability to find  beauty in uncommon places.   Beauty soothes, but finding it off the ordinary path strengthens you emotional intelligence.

As Thich Nah Hahn says whether you see beauty or ugliness depends on how you define or think about beauty. He disputes  the human  tendency to think in dualities, what is commonly called “Either/or thinking.”

Either. or thinking limits options. Mostly, you hold to past ideas.   Looking for beauty in garbage or rocks or roots, on a crowded subway. or in the squalor of a slum  pushes you to think beyond what you know and so  strengthens critical thinking.

Emotional fitness tip

Add one word to the end of yours or someone else’s thoughts is another easy way to expand everyone’s thoughts. That word? And.  Said as if asking a question , that one word usually leads the other person to

It can also be away of introducing a different idea. “And, I think a bit differently.”

Works far better than a “But” or a “No.”

PARENTING TIP

Using “The And Word” works great with kids. Kids, want to talk and want to feel you are listening. Using “The And Word” invites more conversation.

BLOG POSTING SCHEDULE CHANGE

Aging slows one down a bit. Another birthday is rolling around and I am greteful to still be able to blog.  Although I mght blog every day, but Shabbat, I am not only promising to get an EFTI blog out every Tuesday and Thursday. Wednesday will be a Parents Are People Too blog

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Remember’s sharing is caring and the easiest way to practice kindness now is to share this post with someone who will find it inspiring.  Thank you.

Katherine

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 FREE POSTER COACHES 

Like any coach, EFTI’s poster coaches inspire, teach, motivate, and reinforce thinking about what matters.  To use, print up in color and post there it will be seen often.  Poster Coaches can also be used at  Family Meetings to start a discussion about what matters.

DAILY PROMPT

32 Flavors Vanilla, chocolate, or something else entirely?

“The And Word” leads to more flavors and that is the subject of this blog post.  Cheerio.

 

CHOOSE KINDNESS AND YOU ALWAYS WIN

Life is hard and not matter how much we are given, we all know pain and struggle. Surviving those times is easier than you think.

vfrankel

Vickor Emil Frankl lost his wife, father, mother, and brother  during the Holocaust. He survived to became a major force in the development of  existential therapym  which stresses facing reality, but choosing what you can, and noting that the best choice is always kindness.  He  is most remembered for his book Man’s Search for Meaning, from Death Camp to Existentialism. 

Emotional Fitness exercise of the day

Practicing Kindness is one of the Twelve Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises. Make it your life’s mission and you will survive the worse. Do so, not for those you treat with kindness but for you.

Being kind to others almost always gets repaid with kindness.  Smile at someone and most of the time you will get a smile in return.  When you don’t, at least you have done the right thing.  Giving and getting kindness is essential to your health.

Parenting Tip

Kindness starts with respect for others and for children and that is the heart of good manners.  Manners can be taught as soon as your child starts walking and talking.

As Marion Wright Edelman, president and founder of the Children’s Defense Fund noted,  “Being considerate of others will take you and your children further in life than any college or professional degree.”

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Keep working to stay strong, I work hard to do the same . As noted above,  I am not perfect, no one is so see mistakes as an opportunity for learning.

Remember’s sharing is caring and the easiest way to practice kindness right now is to share this post with someone who will find it inspiring.  Thank you.

Katherine

Links of interest

 FREE POSTER COACHES 

Like any coach, EFTI’s poster coaches inspire, teach, motivate, and reinforce thinking about what matters.  To use, print up in color and post there it will be seen often.  Poster Coaches can also be used at  Family Meetings to start a discussion about what matters.

DAILY PROMPT  Study Abroad  If you were asked to spend a year living in a different location, where would you choose and why?

Israel. Because I am a Jew. Because despite all the horrors of Jew hatred and the efforts to destroy Israel, Israel survives as a democratic. Because the heart of Jewish Law is to treat others as you want to be treated and that is the heart of practicing kindness.

 

 

DELUSIONS OF PERFECTION HOLDING YOU BACK?

What would you undertake if you know you would not fail?  More importantly how do you define failure? As perfection? Not good.

I was perfect, then I was born

Thank you doyletics.com  for this one.

Know when perfectionism has taken over.  Most often that happens to those with a diagnosis of OCD.  Here is a check list that says perfectionism is in charge.

OCD checklist

Emotional Fitness Training tip one: If this is you, do not let stigma keep your from getting professional help. Part of trying to be perfect means not thinking you need help, particularly professional help. Not helpful.

Emotional Fitness Training tip two: If you seek professional help, make sure you seek competent help. Not so easy.  For OCD you want someone who uses a cognitive behavior approach. You also want someone who is comfortable with medication and either can prescribe or is affiliated with someone who can.

Emotional Fitness Training tip three:  When dealing with any therapist, look for someone who has a feedback mechanism in place.

The best feedback at the moment comes for the International Center for Clinical Excellence.  Not many therapists use this group, however.  Another way to measure progress is to develop a SMART Goal for what you want from therapy and insist  the therapist will use that as a feedback mechanism.

PARENTING TIPS

Parenting tip one: Adopt the attitude that mistakes aid learning.

Parenting tip two: As there seems to be a strong genetic basis for perfectionism including OCD, if you are a perfectionist, your child might easily struggle with OCD.  At the same time, most children show some of the above signs.  The trick is always to decide how much perfectionism’s rules.

Parenting tip three: With a teen have him or her complete the above check list.  then discussion how the media seeks perfectionism.

 Parenting tip four: Use the media to discuss perfectionism’s down side. Making people feel less than perfect increases sales of many products.

Visit this  Parents Are People Blog Post for more tips.

IMPROVE YOUR CRITICAL THINKING

DAILY PROMPT – Too Big To Fail: Tell us about something you would attempt if you were guaranteed not to fail (and tell us why you haven’t tried it yet).

Need I say more than I have already said.

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FREE POSTER COACHES 

Don’t think you can afford a life coach? Like a life coach, EFTI’s poster coaches inspire, teach, motivate, and reinforce thinking about what matters.  To use, print up in color and post there it will be seen often.  Poster Coaches can also be used at  Family Meetings to start a discussion about what matters.

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Keep working to stay strong, I work hard to do the same . As noted above,  I am not perfect, no one is so see mistakes as an opportunity for learning.

Remember’s sharing is caring and the easiest way to practice kindness is to share this post if you found it helpful.  Thank you.

Katherine