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Shake it up: practice kindness

Want to manage anger better? Practice deliberate kindness. Shake the angry person up a bit. Here is a Poster Coach about deliberate kindness.

Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a harder battle. #platoquote

EFTI Poster Coaches:  free digital downloads at the EFTI Store.


The more you practice any of Emotional Fitness Exercises the more automatic their practice becomes.  Automatic practice means if a negative feelings tries to control you,  you have a protective fence between you and the feeling. That protective fence helps you think before acting on a negative feeling – the game plan followed by #emotionalintelligent gurus.

As usual thank you for all you do, particularly the deliberate kindness of liking, comment, or sharing EFTI’s posts.


Today’s Daily Daily Prompt: Shake it Up. You’re 12 years old. It’s your birthday. Write for ten minutes on that memory. GO. I went with the title, but the suggestion I remember my 12 year old birthday did not resonnate.  We all do what we can. Stay strong.

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A post about the  need to recognize the universal morality.  There is one that crosses all cultures.

#emotionalintelligence building blog post.Remembering what matters

As with all Poster Coaches used in an EFTI post, this one can be downloaded for free at  the EFTI Store.


Harvard human development guru, Jerome Kagan did a study that showed all cultures promote two values: caring for the less abled and fairness a provided by a system of justice.

Why then war?  Because the values apply  only  to the in group, your tribe, or your family.

emotional fitness tip

Obviously, if there is going to be peace on earth we must become one tribe and accept the  universal values must be applied to all. No tribes, no special groups, no difference between family and others;  no others.

What can you do to bring that about? That is what today’s tips are about.

Tip one: Assume that once everyone sees everyone as a tribal or family member, peace will be more possible. Strive to understand all religions, all cultures.

Tip two: Be aware that as with families, some religions, cultures, individuals are not interested in peace and might view you and yours as targets.

The Twisted Thought error dubbed The Curse of Personal Knowledge operates in those who are violent and those who are not.  The violent will do to the non-violent what the non-violent never think of doing. Dangerous.  Why bullies have power.

Tip Three: Staying safe must be a priority for all and that means defending against the violent.  One of the reasons EFTI thinks all children should be enrolled in Peace Dojo Karate courses.  Adults not trained in self-defense need to do the same. 

Tip four: Challenge all beliefs that promote violence other than self-defense and yes that is sometimes hard to figure out, but not always. Religions that speak of damnation for non believers, excessive nationalism, and even sports events that promote winning with a “Kill ‘em” need challenging. If you do not protest, you agree.

Tip five:  Find peace within.

This post was inspired by this Word Press Daily Prompt: Daily Prompt: West End Girls  Every city and town contains people of different classes: rich, poor, and somewhere in between. What’s it like where you live? If it’s difficult for you to discern and describe the different types of classes in your locale, describe what it was like where you grew up — was it swimming pools and movie stars, industrial and working class, somewhere in between or something completely different?

The basic idea was to talk about cultures and promote diversity.  I grew up 70 some years ago in a small town where “Everyone knew my face” as the song goes. I could and did roam the streets in relative safety. For a while I thought my mother was a witch, because when I would come home from my rambles she always knew where I had been. Now I know it was an old fashion safety watch.

I was part of the “privilege white class” but also lived through the Civil Rights Movement and became aware of my privilege and became a Civil Rights activist.

I was blessed in many ways and am grateful.


As always thank you for all you do to support EFTI’s efforts to help others stay strong. Kindness is karma and comes back to bless you. Care and share.



Lust not love

Lust or love?  Nature pushes the mating call button early on and lust predominates.   Hopefully, in time true love  emerges.

#emotionalfitness quotes about on a poster coach designed to think about what matters a #fitness exercises that improves #emotionalintelligence.

Emotional fitness thoughts

The old movie, Love Story claimed “Love means never having to say you’re sorry.”  Balderdash, bah humbug, bs. True loves means knowing when you have hurt someone, and making up even if the other person was dead wrong.

What about abuse? You can love and separate. In terms of physical abuse that means not living with; in terms of emotional abuse it means guarding your heart and distancing emotionally.


EFTI’s Twelve Daily Emotional Fitness Exercises are designed to keep you strong  when hurt, anger, or fear visit.  Here’s is a free EFTI poster coach reminding you of ways to practice those exercises.

CREATE CALM by practicing an #emotionalfitness exercise.

Today’s post  was prompted by Valentine’s Day and  this Word Press Daily Prompt: It’s Friday, I’m in Love  Remember your first crush? Think about that very first object of your affection. Oh, the sweaty palms. The swoony feeling in your stomach. Tell us the story of your first crush. What was it about this person that made your heart pound? Was the love requited? Change the names to protect the guilty or innocent if you must! No judgement here. Happy Valentine’s Day!

My first crush was a very safe one. It was Casey Tibbs, a rodeo all around champion. I wrote him a fan letter and got a post card in reply.  In time along came a one true love that lasted for three years. In time along came David and 44 years of marriage.

As always thank you for all you do to support EFTI’s efforts to help others stay strong. Kindness is karma and comes back to bless you.




What is one  way to improve your Emotional Intelligence?  Practice Kindness every way you can, every where you can.

Emotional Fitness Poster reminding you to Practice Kindness

As all the sages across all the ages and as today’s researchers know practicing kindness is the express lane to the good life.


Being kind to others matters, but you also need to be kind to you.  You alone know what you put up with, what silent suffering you endure, how hard some days you work just to keep putting one foot in front of the other, how often you turn from  cruelty and keep practicing kindness.   That is one way to be kind to you

Other ways to be kind to yourself?  Care carefully for your physical needs.  Indulge in healthy pleasures, be with people who care, be with beauty, be alone, and thank and praise your self.

Thank you for all you do. Like if you did; share if you think another will find this useful. That will be practicing kindness  for me and for you if not another.


This post was in response to the following  Word Press Daily Prompt: Your entire community — however you define that; your hometown, your neighborhood, your family, your colleagues — is guaranteed to read your blog tomorrow. Write the post you’d like them all to see.