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SIX TIPS TO MAKE AMENDS WHEN YOU FALL PREY TO PROPAGANDA – A SNEAKY HYPNOTISM POST

Ever post or quote something somewhere and then discover later your passion lead you into believing and sharing propaganda.  I just did. Shame on me.

Quotes about propaganda

What was my mistake? Sharing  a post on Facebook without fact checking it first. The post spoke to my heart and I was rushing and fact checking takes time.  Even after being called to task when I tried to  fact check  my efforts only revealed a partial story.

I was ashamed of myself, however. Shame always asks us to hide our flaws. What shame is supposed to do is to keep us from doing the unthinkable. Shame also asks us to hide, to sink from sight, and to keep our wrong doing secret.  Emotional intelligent gurus all say in most cases the way to deal with a negative feeling is to act against its urging.  In terms of shame that means not hiding and admitting when you did wrong.

How the deception worked in this case using a  picture from one story to get you to read a different second story.  The headline made it seem the picture was related to the second story and it was not.  Moreover, when I checked the second story it seemed that the facts in it possibly true, but it was impossible to ferret out the truth.  Sigh.

A friend who  had seen the original picture in their local newspapers and knew the story it related to corrected my version, and did so politely.  Others were not so polite.

Either way  I did what I should have done before sharing. I fact checked  and came up with the how I had let my passions lead me astray.  Then, I re-tracked the post and apologized.

Those who know me well , were supportive and I am grateful for their seeing the whole me and forgiving my mistake.

Tip one: The more your passions are aroused, the more you might be in Sneaky Hypnotism’s control.

Tip two: Practice forgiveness when you or another get caught in passing along propaganda. We all do.

Tip three: Be transparent about your bias.  Anyone who knows me knows I am passionately pro-Israeli and anti-violence. They should also know I do not think defending yourself from killer attacks is violence.

Tip four: Apologize when you err and that means retracking false information as well as saying you are sorry. 

Tip five: Make amends. This post is one of my efforts to do so.

Tip Six:  As always work to improve your critical thinking skills. 

IMPROVE YOUR THINKING SKILLS

Applying this WordPress daily prompt to today’s post   Easy Fix  – Write a post about any topic you wish, but make sure it ends with “And all was right in the world.”  See my answer at the bottom of this post.

PARENTING TIPs

Parenting tip one: Teach you children critical thinking skills and do so being aware of age and stage. This previous post details some ways to do that.

Parenting tip two: Teach your children to take responsiblity for their mistakes. Mistakes are for learning.

Parenting tip three: Teach your children to how to apologize,

Parenting tip four: Teach your children how to practice forgiveness.

Parenting tip five: Teach your children  how to  make amends. 

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Keep working to stay strong, I work hard to do the same . As noted above I often fail. I am not perfect, not one is and that is the subject of Monday’s blog post.

Katherine

LINKS OF INTEREST

FREE POSTER COACHES 

Don’t think you can afford a life coach? Like a life coach, EFTI’s poster coaches inspire, teach, motivate, and reinforce thinking about what matters.  To use, print up in color and post there it will be seen often.  Poster Coaches can also be used at  Family Meetings to start a discussion about what matters.

MY ANSWER TO THE  PROMPT  Easy Fix

Ending any activity with the hope that all will be right with the world is useful and dangerous.  Useful because it build hope and comforts. Dangerous because it can lead to ignoring and not working on what needs to happen to make wrongs right.

 

TIP FOR THINKING ABOUT WHAT MATTERS – SNEAKY HYPNOTISM POST

#emotionalintelligence #parentingtips #fitness

Having purpose and a sense of mission keeps you on track and less vulnerable to the ploys and strategies of the not so good Sneaky Hypnotists

IMPROVE YOUR THINKING SKILLS

Applying this WordPress daily prompt to today’s post   Fireside Chat: What person whom you don’t know very well in real life — it could be a blogger whose writing you enjoy, a friend you just recently made, etc. — would you like to have over for a long chat in which they tell you their life story?

See my answer at the bottom of this post.

Parenting tip

Parenting is hard work and the rewards not really available during the day to day struggles unless you make a major effort to enjoy the good times. The bad times  all too easily hypnotize you into being burdened instead of fulfilled. Seeing a happy future for you and your child is a useful tool.

As thinking about the future is a trance state, this is a good reminder that trances and Sneaky Hypnotism is neither good or bad, but a tool to be used for either.

A tool for getting through the hard times: use his hypnotizing slogan, “Now is not forever.”

Also make a conscious effort to hold onto  memories of the good times.  I survived a”cranky don’t sleep child” by watching him when he finally fell asleep. Doing so built up loving  memories.

For more about meaning making and to refine your own mission think about reading my eBook Know Your Mission So You Can Reach Your Goals. It costs less than a latte.

You can download any of my books  to your computer with Amazon’s Kindle Application .  It is free and lets you read on your computer, smartphone, or tablet.

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Keep working to stay strong, I work hard to do the same as life is often difficult, relationships painful, dreams lost. Staying strong and practicing the Daily Twelve Emotional Fitness Exercises keeps me better able to practice deliberate kindness.

Katherine

LINKS OF INTEREST

FREE POSTER COACHES 

Don’t think you can afford a life coach? Like a live coach, EFTI’s poster coaches inspire, teach, motivate, and reinforce thinking about what matters.  To use, print up in color and post there it will be seen often.  Poster Coaches can also be used at  Family Meetings to start a discussion about what matters.

MY ANSWER TO THE FIRE SIDE CHAT PROMPT

So many, so I refuse to single our one. Who wouldn’t like to chat with Abe Lincoln, Samuel Clemons, Martin Luther King, Jr,  Hillel, Jesus, Maimonides, Gandi, Thick Nah Hanh,  So I feel blessed that I can read their words and be with them in thought if not by the fireplace I do not have.

HOW TO BEST HONOR DR. MARTIN LUTHER KING, JR – A HYPNOTIZING FORCE FOR GOOD

King inspired us, and now the haters darken his memories. Stop hate from joining King’s quest for justice by practicing Deliberate Kindness.
Go Beyond Random Kindness
This  story was told at an Alternatives to Violence Project  workshop.  It demonstrates the power of kindness. On her way home from shopping after work one evening, a woman heard footsteps following her.
Then someone was right behind her almost breathing down her neck. turned, smiled and thrust her shopping bag in to the hands of a young man and said cheerfully, “Thank you so much for being there, I didn’t think I would make it home without help. This bag is just too heavy for me to manage.”
He walked her home, left her at the door, and walked away with a bemused smile on his face.
Here’s a link to  similar story by Terry Dobson of how kindness brought a violent drunk to calm.
WARNING: A few hypnotized by hate are not turned away by kindness, but spurred on.  Why I always suggest two other tools for staying safe.
The first: Get a dog,  and if you live where you are might be the subject of violence, or a break-in,  a trained guard dog works best.  I could walk the mean streets of the Bronx after dark because I had a mean looking dog at my side.
The second: Take a self-defense coouse from a Peace Dojo. Here is a link to an article from my personal Peace Dojo.   and here is a link to Peace Dojo’s International 
Sadly, violence seems to be growing and not in ways, King would want. What to do? Keeping doing all you can to protest injustice, but do so peacefully.

Parenting tipS

Teaching kindness to children

A WARNING AND FINAL PARENTING TIP:  Practicing kindness toward bullies is best done from a position of strength and self confidence.  Self-defense training builds such strengths.  See the links above.

IMPROVE YOUR THINKING SKILLS

Apply this WordPress daily prompt –to today’s post.  Re-springing Your Step:  Tell us about the last experience you had that left you feeling fresh, energized, and rejuvenated. What was it that had such a positive effect on you?

See my answer  at the bottom of this post.

Thank you for all you do

Keep working to  stay strong,  I work hard to do the same as life is often difficult, relationships painful, dreams lost.  Staying strong  and practicing the Daily Twelve Emotional Fitness Exercises keeps  me  better able to practice deliberate kindness.

Katherine

LINKS OF INTEREST

FREE POSTER COACHES

 MY ANSWER TO IMPROVE YOUR THINKING SKILLS

Re-springing my steps:  The spring in my steps comes easiest when my efforts to practice deliberate kindness lights up someone else’s face or makes them laugh.  My face also glows when I see someone has liked or commented on one of my posts. Deliberate Kindness is gift you give yourself.

FIVE TIPS FOR KEEPING PREJUDICE FROM RULING YOU – SNEAKY HYPNOTSIM SERIES

Sneaky Hypnotists build on prejudices. Think about young men in hoodies,  women in Burgas, men in Yarmulkes, “people whose skin is a different shade.”

Prejudice quotes

Prejudice starts in pain or fear. Pain is personal and leads to  fear. As one theorist claims, all negative feelings are pain or fear of pain. A useful thought.

However, not all fears come from personal experiences, Prejudices, in particular are passed down from one generation to another.  As the Roger and Hammerstein noted  about generational prejudices:

You've got to be taught to hate and fear
Your got to be taught from year to year
It's got to be drummed in your dear little ear
You've got to be carefully taught

You've got to be taught to be afraid 
Of people whose eyes are oddly made
And people whose skin is a different shade
You've got to carefully taught

You've got to be taught before it's too late 
Before you are six or seven or eight 
To hate all the people your relatives hate 
You've got to be carefully taught 
You've got to be carefully taught

Moreover, much of the teaching before you are six or seven or eight gets buried and you do not think it is part of you. That explains how many loving people think of themselves as unprejudiced or open-minded.  Sneaky self-hypnotism at work.

Early teachings about what matters lurk quietly in the part of your mind that wants to keep you safe.  Anything unknown is thought by that part of the brain to be dangerous. That bottom layer of prejudicial thinking.

Many fears and hurts collect as a whirl pool above the instinctual  fear of the unknown.  Some of the collected fears  start with the teachings of parents and religious leaders.

Want an example:  A former Catholic and one time altar boy no longer believes in God but pickets against abortion and  has no Jewish or protestant friends. Sneaky Hypnotism pulling on earliest teachings and  fears of damnation still at work.

What to do? Here are five tips:

Emotional Fitness  Tip One: Be aware of early teachings and their  attractiveness to Sneaky Hypnotism.  That includes early hurts, early parental teachings, and religious teachings.

Emotional Fitness Tip Two: Know that what you feel most passionate about needs the most thinking about.  Why the saying, “Love is blind” echos across the millennia.

Know that any label applied to more than one person is  a generalization as well as the most common form of twisted thinking.

Emotional Fitness Tip Three: Take a self-defense course. Peace Dojo’s do it best. Confidence is a useful armor against fear and sneaky hypnotism.

Emotional Fitness Tip Four: Seek to understand; the more we know, the more our commonalities remind us we are one.

Emotional Fitness Tip Five:Trust, but not blindly. Weigh actions, treatment of others when extending trust.

 parenting tipS

Tip One: The most important way to inoculate a child against prejudice remains teaching good manners which mean respect and kindness toward all.  You must model what you want to teach.

Tip Two:  Challenge beliefs that promote prejudice. The most common one is the idea that there is only one way to believe in God in order to get to heaven. Creates the damned and the saved divide.

Tip Three: Always remember age and stage. The younger your child, the more your actions matter. As the child enters school, you can teach directly. The teen years are the years to hone your debating skills and hold to your knowledge of what matters.

Tip four:  Make use of Emotional Fitness Training’s Free Poster Coaches.   Poster Coaches reinforce parental values as well as teach critical thinking. Browse the store, download the ones that speak to your values, print them up on card stock and in color. Then post one or two as reminders to you and your family of what matters.  Use the quotes at Family meetings to open discussion.

Don’t have family meetings? A must as soon as your children enter school. My book How to Hold a Successful Family Meeting costs less than a movie, lasts longer, and does more good.

Tip five: Get your child karate training with a Peace-Dojo

PRACTICE DELIBERATE KINDNESS

Practice Deliberate Internet kindness eby liking,  commenting or share  posts. I feel good when I support my internet friends. Even small kindnesses strengthen you as well as the recipient of  your efforts.

Thank you for all you do.  Work at staying strong until next time,. I work hard to do the same as life is often difficult but staying strong lets me find the good.

Katherine

LINKS OF INTEREST

WordPress daily prompt response –Audience of One  Picture the one person in the world you really wish were reading your blog. Write her or him a letter.

Dear person reading this, Right now it your are my audience and I am grateful for your reading this far. Stay strong, love all and stay safe.