The Daily Prompt asked “When and where do you do your best thinking? In the bathroom? While running? Just before bed, or first thing in the morning? On the bus? Why do you think that is?
EMOTIONAL FITNESS THOUGHTS
Best thinking is a value judgment. Best thinking about what or for who? I am willing to bet most of the people taking this challenge refer to following a dream or their heart or their intuition. Doing so only works part of the time.
Why then to we put such faith in following our intuition. Because we tend to think the decisions we make are always right we remember when intuition worked and start thinking it will always work. Remembering this way is using Choice-Supported bias and is a form of delusional thinking.
What about when intuition doesn’t work? Doesn’t that balance things out? No. Why> Often we distort our memory in favor of intuition. How? We remember a doubt and chastise our selves for not listening to our intuition. We want to believe our intuition always works and shape our memories to fit that desire. More delusional thinking.
Emotional fitness tipS
Gregory Bateson in his book Steps to Ecology of the Mind suggested if you were trying to create a map that would get you where you wanted to go, you needed to collect many different views of the landscape. The more views of reality the more likely you can get on a path that takes you where you want to go. Based on his ideas here are tips to strengthen your emotional intelligence what EFTI calls emotional fitness.
Tip one: The emotionally intelligent thing to do when trying to think your best is to think here, there, and everywhere. You do that anyway for you are always thinking, Without thought you would be brain-dead, not able to sit at your computer and read or write. Meditating to the point of emptying your mind takes years of practice.
Try just sitting quietly and observing what thoughts come and go. Then try to keep them from appearing. For most of us trying consciously not to think does not work. Thought is on going.
Tip two: reserve your hard thought for things that matter. Thinking about what matters is a major emotional fitness exercise. That means, it is best to go with the flow or your heart or your intuition most of the time; but put on your thinking cap when you are chasing your important dreams or meeting trouble.
Tip three: Listen to your heart, think about what your heart is saying, but use the information in your head to think beyond your heart/
Tip four: Seek the thoughts of others. It is good to remember we all stand on the shoulders of those who have gone before. Society would not progress if we did not honor previous knowledge. Think how our world would be if each generation had to learn to make fire or that trees were less comfortable than caves.
Tip five: Don’t act on matters of importantce until you heart and head agree. This is how mental health crisis teams work. They listen to their gut reactions to a situation, but test that out against their professional knowledge and will not act unless what their intuition suggests can be explained in terms of their hard earned professional knowledge.
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