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6 Plus Ways to Bring Kindness To Your World

Kindness is the strongest proof of Karma as every bit act of kindness enriches you. Why it is a major Emotional Fitness  Training Exercise.

Ways to practice kindness

Emotional Fitness Training Tips

Emotional Fitness Training Tip One:  While I admire Random Acts of Kindness,  deliberate acts strengthen you moreDr Anders Ericsson said in the early 1990 that it takes 10,000 hours (20 hours for 50 weeks a year for ten years = 10,000)  what he called  deliberate practice to become an expert in almost anything.  While many have since disputed his claim, it is clear mega stars in almost every field prove his point.

Some good news: EFTI promotes starring in your life, not on the stage or the athletic playing field.  Good enough gets you there when it comes to everyday life. However, go here to learn how to be more deliberate in your practice of anything.  Here are ideas for practicing kindness deliberately.

 

Emotional Fitness Training Tip Two: Teach practicing kindness to all the children you know; I do not mean just chronological children.

Teaching kindness to children

Emotional Fitness Training Tip Three: Complain for others. Here’s an example. Sometimes I need to use the motorized shopping carts most large stores provide. I knew I needed on a very hot day even though I was only picking up a few items. The store had three such carts, not one of them worked. Although I just wanted to beat it out of there, I complained to the manager.

Sad to say I was told, the company they hired to provide the chairs gave lousy service. Not a helpful answer, so when I got home I wrote a letter of complaint to the company. Not a big act of kindness and partly for me, but what I mean by complaining for others.  You may have noticed I do some of that on Social Media.

A final poster coach  that should be in every classroom and  public forum. Well at least in my not-so-humble opinion.

Emotional Fitness Poster reminding you to Practice Kindness

As all the sages across all the ages and as today’s researchers know practicing kindness is the express lane to the good life.

This  post was prompted by this WordPress Daily Prompt: The Kindness of Strangers by Ben Huberman.  When was the last time a stranger did something particularly kind, generous, or selfless for you? Tell us what happened!

When I was trying  to make the mobilized shopping cart work as described above, a lovely man and his teenage daughter stopped to help. Didn’t get the cart working, but prompted me to complain as a way of passing the kindness forward.

tHANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Remember to share and care all you find of value on the internet.  All here crave recognition. A like says “Thank You.” Comments say you have read and thought about the post. Sharing is a gift to three people: the blogger, the people you share with, and you for your kindness bless you.

Katherine

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How To Weather the Storms -3 Tips

All seasons bring storms. All lives suffer hurts and hurt creates personal storms . Emotional Intelligence means life’s storms wisely.

How to weather storms

When you can say “Thank you” for all what has been given and what has been escaped, you are the master or mistress of gratitude. Here are three tips for mastering gratitude even when hit by violent storms. 

Emotional Fitness Training Tip One: Look for the lesson. Life brings pain, pain is unavoidable. Think of pain, not as a punishment, but  as an opportunity to learn.

Emotional Fitness Training Tip Two: Be grateful you have survived the storms.  Proof you have survived? You are here now, able to read this.

Emotional Fitness Training Tip Three: Develop an attitude of gratitude.   An attitude of gratitude when bad things happen involves practicing acceptance.  Easily done when good is visiting you; more difficult when bad things are happening to you; not always possible in the midst of some storms.  Marsha Linehan, psychological guru. She speaks and preaches radical acceptance as key for surviving violent storms.

Another useful resource is this Emotional Fitness Poster Coach which details some of the things we can be thankful for.

Emotional Fitness Training poster coach about gratitude #emotional

To use  as a  poster coach post  get it free from the EFTIstore; download it, print it up and post it where you will see it often throughout the day. It reminds you of all you have to be grateful for and what matters most. Practicing gratitude daily strengthens its helpfulness in stormy weather.

For more instructions about how to practice any of the Twelve Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises visit this web page.

A WORD PRESS’ DAILY PROMPT INSPIRED THIS POST:  In the Summertime by Krista —  If it’s autumn or winter where you live, what are you most looking forward to doing next summer? If it’s spring or summer where you are, what has been the highlight of the season so far for you?

The highlight of spring for me is always renewal; of summer, Nature’s Bounty; of autumn, the Harvesting of all that is good; of winter, the longer nights with time to think more about what matters.

Thank you for all you do

Remember to share and care all you find of value on the internet.  All here crave recognition. A like says “Thank You.” Comments say you have read and thought about the post. Sharing is a gift to three people: the blogger, the people you share with, and you for your kindness bless you.

Katherine

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These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

 

How To Avoid the Blame Game – 3 Tips

Blaming is part of our genetic heritage. When bad things happen, we need to find the cause to prevent future hurt. Makes sense, but Pogo knew better.

Thank you Jimmie Peacock for this.

Thank you Jimmy Peacock for this.

Don’ t remember what Pogo said? He said, “We have met the enemy and he is us.” Walt Kelley made a poster of this cartoon character for the first Earth Day  held on  April 22, 1970.  That was several generations after mine.  But as a fan of Joni  Mitchell’s song the Big Yellow Taxi I became an environmentalist. Still am.  Here’s one verse. 

They paved paradise
And put up a parking lot
With a pink hotel, a boutique
And a swinging hot SPOT
Don’t it always seem to go
That you don’t know what you’ve got
‘Til it’s gone

The song seems even more true today. I moved six years ago to Colorado where “..t.e deer and the antelope roam.”  We made the move from the pavements of New York to the foothills of the Rocky Mountains to be near our youngest son and grandchildren.  A good move, but Colorado is booming slowly de-nuding some of the mountains amd paving lots of meadows.

Not good, but almost inevitable. What to do?  To me this all fits under the Emotional Fitness Easy Exercise “Remember What Matters.”

Emotional Fitness Tip one: Do your part. For some that means protesting, for others sitting on development review boards.

For me, I am a trash collector. Colorado abounds with trails and parks and for the most part they are pristine. So pristine, however that an empty soda can is a desecration – at least to me. So when I walk I collect the trash others leave and dump it where it belongs. I am sad to say, the amount of trash has grown over the six years I been trying to clean up after others. That leads me to my second tip.

Emotional Fitness Tip two: This is for parents, but not parents alone. Teach children and thoughtless adults not to foul earth’s nest.  When I am trash picking, and I I look whoever is around in the eye and say “Not nice.”  Most smile and shake their heads, but a few blush. I hope the blushers mend their ways.

I sometimes leave the trash and post a sign on it “Shame on all trash dumpers.” Why some call me a Cranky Old Lady.  When I see trash, that part of me does emerge.

Emotional Fitness Tip three: Practice conservation. Buy less, use less,   reuse, and recycle.  Read E.F. Schumacher’s book Small is Beautiful.

The ad men don’t agree and want you to buy, buy, buy. They preach  new is better; bigger is better, more often is better. .Do  you know how the shampoo people more than  tripled  their sales? First by telling you to soap up twice, and more recently by encouraging shampooing  every day.

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Remember sharing is caring and the easiest way to practice kindness is to share this post if you found it helpful.  Share it even if it doesn’t speak to you, it will speak to some. Didn’t like it?  Comment and tell me why and how to improve

Thank you.

Katherine

This blog post  was inspired by this WordPress Daily Prompt:  Generation XYZ —  Think about the generation immediately younger or older than you. What do you understand least about them — and what can you learn from them?

My answer is above.

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Three Tips for Making the Best of All Advice

Everyone tells everyone else what to do or tries to. I do, but like more than half of all  people, I rarely do all I am advised to do; nor, do I follow my own advice.

Advice is for you, not me

EMOTIONAL FITNESS TRAINING THOUGHTS

Wise physicians know that most patients do not follow their advice. One study showed that less than 60% of patients took medication as prescribed. I don’t. Moreover, I think I know more about how my body responds than my doctors know.

I believe our bodies are individually designed chemical laboratories; each responds differently to different medications. Codeine would kill me; statins destroy my brain. The doctors listen to me about the codeine, but are less enthusiastic about my refusal to take statins, once I tried them for a few days. Then there is a heart medicine I refer to as f—–itall; that one sent me spiralling into depressions dark pit.

On the other hand penicillin saved my life when I was a child and had an attack of rheumatic fever. I am grateful for that and grateful for all the advances medical research has made. That said, it is my body and therefore my responsibility to  collaborate with my doctors in figuring out what works best.

EMOTIONAL FITNESS TRAINING TIPS

Emotional Fitness Training tip one: Advice givers sometimes know more than you know. Moreover, the more you think you know, the more you need to think about what you do not know.   So listen to advice with what the Buddhist’s call a Beginner’s Mind.

Emotional Fitness Training tip two: Experiment. As fitness coach Victoria Moran suggests, “….experiment until you find activities that make you happy as well as healthy. Choose your exercise using the same criteria you’d apply to choosing a date–that is, attractive to you and able to hold your interest for an hour.”

Emotional Fitness Training tip three: Try not to preach to the choir when giving advice.  Few things about advice turn me and others off than being told things already tried. Best to ask a few questions first.

  • The first: Are you needing to vent or do you want to hear some advice from me.
  • The second: Before offering your advice ask “What have you done to deal with this?” Then you must listen so you do not tell them something they have tried and found useless.

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Remember sharing is caring and the easiest way to practice kindness is to share this post if you found it helpful.  Share it even if it doesn’t speak to you, it will speak to some. Didn’t like it?  Comment and tell me why and how to improve

Thank you.

Katherine

This blog post  was inspired by this WordPress DAILY PROMPT —Take It From Me. What’s the best piece of advice you’ve given someone that you failed to take yourself?

My answer is above, but let me add, I advise people to “Move Your Body” as one of my Daily Twelve Easy Exercises and that is the hardest for me to do and at least two or three  days a week I do not follow the  advice I give others.

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