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THREE TIPS TO DEFEAT PERFECTIONISM THAT HAS BECOME OCD – A SNEAKY HYPNOTIST POST

Can you settle for good enough? If not you may be ruled by perfectionism which can take over your life in many sneaky ways. OCD is one.

OCD checklist

Tip one:  Know when perfectionism has taken over.  Use the checklist above to see if you are struggling with a brain that focuses too strongly on getting things perfect.

Tip two:  Do not let stigma keep your from getting professional help. Part of trying to be perfect means not thinking you need help, particularly professional help. Not helpful.

Tip three: If you seek professional help, make sure you seek competent help. Not so easy.  For OCD you want someone who uses a cognitive behavior approach. You also want someone who is comfortable with medication and either can prescribe or is affiliated with someone who can.

When dealing with any therapist, look for someone who has a feedback mechanism in place. The best feedback at the moment comes for the International Center for Clinical Excellence.  Not many therapists use this group, however.  Another way to measure progress is to develop a SMART Goal for what you want from therapy and see if the therapist will use that as a feedback mechanism.

PARENTING TIPs

Parenting tip one: As there seems to be a strong genetic basis for perfectionism including OCD, if you are a perfectionist, your child might easily struggle with OCD.  At the same time, most children show some of the above signs.  The trick is always to decide how much perfectionism’s rules.

Parenting tip two  With a teen have him or her complete the above check list.  Also think of using the check list at a family meeting and then discussion how the media seeks perfectionism.

Parenting tip three:  Visit this  Parents Are People Blog Post for more tips.

IMPROVE YOUR CRITICAL THINKING

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THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Keep working to stay strong, I work hard to do the same . As noted above,  I am not perfect, no one is and this week;s post will be all about praising imperfection.

Member’s sharing is caring and the easiest way to practice kindness is to share this post if you found it helpful.  Thank you.

Katherine

 

HOW HOME, SOIL, AND RAIN CREATE PERFECTIONISM – A SNEAKY HYPNOTISM POST

Most ads present you with faux images that  get embedded in your brain and create a false reality.  Remember trances are alternative realities.  Here’s one:

Easy to spot the linking of this product to the future many woman aspire to.  There are several Sneaky Hypnotic tools at play,  but the one we are less aware of is perfectionism.

This weeks posts will all be about enjoying being good enough.  Home and early childhood are where perfectionism finds fertile soil, and when the world outside rains down sneaky hypnotism messages about being perfect, it is easy for self-esteem to erode.  Try the advice on this poster coach to fight back.

perfectionism

IMPROVE YOUR THINKING SKILLS

six Parenting tips

Kids really strive to be perfect and the younger the child, the more often they fail.  For some kids this leads to what is called “learned helplessness.”  Feeling you will never be good enough so you stop trying. For others it create a steady erosion of feeling capable.

The media which promotes perfection needs strong countering from parents.  So here are some tips to do that:.

Parenting tip one: Praise trying more than success.

Parenting tip two: Make it clear everyone has talents and everyone has limits.  Life is  long experiment in discovering what you do best as well as what you cannot do.

Parenting tip three: Talk a bit about luck or chance as part of success. 

Parenting tip four: With the under school age child, talk about all s/he as learned. Ask if the child recalls learning to sit up, walk, or talk.

Parenting tip five: Always code reality.  Take Santa Claus or all forms of fantasy.   Label such things as myths or make-believe.  The  child will not fully understand what you are talking about and  will still enjoy the fantasy; however, s/he but will not be shocked when his or her thoughts change and the meaning of make-believe finally dawns.

Parenting tip six: With a child moving into the teen years or already there promote critical thinking.  Use social media, the words in songs, movies, ads on tv to do so.  encourage critical thinking puzzle solving but make it a fun.

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MY ANSWER TO THE  PROMPT

Apparent in the title of this post. Can you think of another title?

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Keep working to stay strong, I work hard to do the same . As noted above,  I am not perfect, no one is and this week;s post will be all about praising imperfection.

Member’s sharing is caring and the easiest way to practice kindness is to share this post if you found it helpful.  Thank you.

Katherine

SIX TIPS TO MAKE AMENDS WHEN YOU FALL PREY TO PROPAGANDA – A SNEAKY HYPNOTISM POST

Ever post or quote something somewhere and then discover later your passion lead you into believing and sharing propaganda.  I just did. Shame on me.

Quotes about propaganda

What was my mistake? Sharing  a post on Facebook without fact checking it first. The post spoke to my heart and I was rushing and fact checking takes time.  Even after being called to task when I tried to  fact check  my efforts only revealed a partial story.

I was ashamed of myself, however. Shame always asks us to hide our flaws. What shame is supposed to do is to keep us from doing the unthinkable. Shame also asks us to hide, to sink from sight, and to keep our wrong doing secret.  Emotional intelligent gurus all say in most cases the way to deal with a negative feeling is to act against its urging.  In terms of shame that means not hiding and admitting when you did wrong.

How the deception worked in this case using a  picture from one story to get you to read a different second story.  The headline made it seem the picture was related to the second story and it was not.  Moreover, when I checked the second story it seemed that the facts in it possibly true, but it was impossible to ferret out the truth.  Sigh.

A friend who  had seen the original picture in their local newspapers and knew the story it related to corrected my version, and did so politely.  Others were not so polite.

Either way  I did what I should have done before sharing. I fact checked  and came up with the how I had let my passions lead me astray.  Then, I re-tracked the post and apologized.

Those who know me well , were supportive and I am grateful for their seeing the whole me and forgiving my mistake.

Tip one: The more your passions are aroused, the more you might be in Sneaky Hypnotism’s control.

Tip two: Practice forgiveness when you or another get caught in passing along propaganda. We all do.

Tip three: Be transparent about your bias.  Anyone who knows me knows I am passionately pro-Israeli and anti-violence. They should also know I do not think defending yourself from killer attacks is violence.

Tip four: Apologize when you err and that means retracking false information as well as saying you are sorry. 

Tip five: Make amends. This post is one of my efforts to do so.

Tip Six:  As always work to improve your critical thinking skills. 

IMPROVE YOUR THINKING SKILLS

Applying this WordPress daily prompt to today’s post   Easy Fix  – Write a post about any topic you wish, but make sure it ends with “And all was right in the world.”  See my answer at the bottom of this post.

PARENTING TIPs

Parenting tip one: Teach you children critical thinking skills and do so being aware of age and stage. This previous post details some ways to do that.

Parenting tip two: Teach your children to take responsiblity for their mistakes. Mistakes are for learning.

Parenting tip three: Teach your children to how to apologize,

Parenting tip four: Teach your children how to practice forgiveness.

Parenting tip five: Teach your children  how to  make amends. 

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Keep working to stay strong, I work hard to do the same . As noted above I often fail. I am not perfect, not one is and that is the subject of Monday’s blog post.

Katherine

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MY ANSWER TO THE  PROMPT  Easy Fix

Ending any activity with the hope that all will be right with the world is useful and dangerous.  Useful because it build hope and comforts. Dangerous because it can lead to ignoring and not working on what needs to happen to make wrongs right.

 

TIP FOR THINKING ABOUT WHAT MATTERS – SNEAKY HYPNOTISM POST

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Having purpose and a sense of mission keeps you on track and less vulnerable to the ploys and strategies of the not so good Sneaky Hypnotists

IMPROVE YOUR THINKING SKILLS

Applying this WordPress daily prompt to today’s post   Fireside Chat: What person whom you don’t know very well in real life — it could be a blogger whose writing you enjoy, a friend you just recently made, etc. — would you like to have over for a long chat in which they tell you their life story?

See my answer at the bottom of this post.

Parenting tip

Parenting is hard work and the rewards not really available during the day to day struggles unless you make a major effort to enjoy the good times. The bad times  all too easily hypnotize you into being burdened instead of fulfilled. Seeing a happy future for you and your child is a useful tool.

As thinking about the future is a trance state, this is a good reminder that trances and Sneaky Hypnotism is neither good or bad, but a tool to be used for either.

A tool for getting through the hard times: use his hypnotizing slogan, “Now is not forever.”

Also make a conscious effort to hold onto  memories of the good times.  I survived a”cranky don’t sleep child” by watching him when he finally fell asleep. Doing so built up loving  memories.

For more about meaning making and to refine your own mission think about reading my eBook Know Your Mission So You Can Reach Your Goals. It costs less than a latte.

You can download any of my books  to your computer with Amazon’s Kindle Application .  It is free and lets you read on your computer, smartphone, or tablet.

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Keep working to stay strong, I work hard to do the same as life is often difficult, relationships painful, dreams lost. Staying strong and practicing the Daily Twelve Emotional Fitness Exercises keeps me better able to practice deliberate kindness.

Katherine

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MY ANSWER TO THE FIRE SIDE CHAT PROMPT

So many, so I refuse to single our one. Who wouldn’t like to chat with Abe Lincoln, Samuel Clemons, Martin Luther King, Jr,  Hillel, Jesus, Maimonides, Gandi, Thick Nah Hanh,  So I feel blessed that I can read their words and be with them in thought if not by the fireplace I do not have.