Tag Archives: Life

Tips to Better Controlling Your Future

Reality check: The future is not ours to control. Things happen. These tips offer better control, not control.

Quotes about the future

Emotional Fitness Training Tips

Emotional Fitness Training Tip One: Learn from the past, live now, and plan with hope for tomorrow. 

Emotional Fitness Training Tip Two: Practice Emotional Fitness Training’s 12 Easy Exercises. Each strengthen you to meet whatever your future brings.

Emotional Fitness Training Tip Three: Know your mission.  Your mission is about who you want to be, how you want to live your life and how you want to be remembered.  Despite the push to get things, to be a perfect, to go for the gold, in the end the best lives are lived by following the Golden Rule as this Poster Coach reminds us.

What matters? Kindness to all.

This Poster Coach is available as a free download at the EFTI Store

Emotional Fitness Training Tip Four: Set SMART goals that align with your mission. 

How to set SMART Goals

For more details on knowing you mission and setting smart goals think about buying my eBook. Yes, a bit of an ad. 

Ebook about missions and goals

Costs less than a latte and with Amazon’s Kindle App can be read on most devices. A good gift for graduates and the college bound.

Emotional Fitness Training Tip Five: Practice imperfection.  As noted in this previoius blog post,  pursuing perfection nurtures dissatisfaction with self and others.  Not useful.

This  post was prompted by this WordPress Daily Prompt:  Advantage of Foresight You’ve been granted the power to predict the future! The catch — each time you use your power, it costs you one day (as in, you’ll live one day less). How would you use this power, it at all? (Thanks, sarsidoo, for suggesting a similar prompt!)

I don’t try to predict the future. As the above shows, I try to learn, live, and take what comes gratefully.

A question for you. I do find the WordPress’s Daily Prompts make me think more critically and often spark a post. What I wonder is do you think they distract from the posts or add to them. If the only good is my pleasure I can drop them, but would like your opinions.

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

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Katherine

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How To Avoid the Blame Game – 3 Tips

Blaming is part of our genetic heritage. When bad things happen, we need to find the cause to prevent future hurt. Makes sense, but Pogo knew better.

Thank you Jimmie Peacock for this.

Thank you Jimmy Peacock for this.

Don’ t remember what Pogo said? He said, “We have met the enemy and he is us.” Walt Kelley made a poster of this cartoon character for the first Earth Day  held on  April 22, 1970.  That was several generations after mine.  But as a fan of Joni  Mitchell’s song the Big Yellow Taxi I became an environmentalist. Still am.  Here’s one verse. 

They paved paradise
And put up a parking lot
With a pink hotel, a boutique
And a swinging hot SPOT
Don’t it always seem to go
That you don’t know what you’ve got
‘Til it’s gone

The song seems even more true today. I moved six years ago to Colorado where “..t.e deer and the antelope roam.”  We made the move from the pavements of New York to the foothills of the Rocky Mountains to be near our youngest son and grandchildren.  A good move, but Colorado is booming slowly de-nuding some of the mountains amd paving lots of meadows.

Not good, but almost inevitable. What to do?  To me this all fits under the Emotional Fitness Easy Exercise “Remember What Matters.”

Emotional Fitness Tip one: Do your part. For some that means protesting, for others sitting on development review boards.

For me, I am a trash collector. Colorado abounds with trails and parks and for the most part they are pristine. So pristine, however that an empty soda can is a desecration – at least to me. So when I walk I collect the trash others leave and dump it where it belongs. I am sad to say, the amount of trash has grown over the six years I been trying to clean up after others. That leads me to my second tip.

Emotional Fitness Tip two: This is for parents, but not parents alone. Teach children and thoughtless adults not to foul earth’s nest.  When I am trash picking, and I I look whoever is around in the eye and say “Not nice.”  Most smile and shake their heads, but a few blush. I hope the blushers mend their ways.

I sometimes leave the trash and post a sign on it “Shame on all trash dumpers.” Why some call me a Cranky Old Lady.  When I see trash, that part of me does emerge.

Emotional Fitness Tip three: Practice conservation. Buy less, use less,   reuse, and recycle.  Read E.F. Schumacher’s book Small is Beautiful.

The ad men don’t agree and want you to buy, buy, buy. They preach  new is better; bigger is better, more often is better. .Do  you know how the shampoo people more than  tripled  their sales? First by telling you to soap up twice, and more recently by encouraging shampooing  every day.

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

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Thank you.

Katherine

This blog post  was inspired by this WordPress Daily Prompt:  Generation XYZ —  Think about the generation immediately younger or older than you. What do you understand least about them — and what can you learn from them?

My answer is above.

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5 Tips for Living While Waiting to Die

At 78 and with a number of health issue, death at any time is possible. Truth be told, however, death comes when death comes. I might live another 20  years.

Seneca quote about living.

Read the news and there is no denying, death visits and not only the aged or ill. Nor are all able to make what Seneca calls “…a becoming exit.”

Some think life is better lived knowing death might visit any day.  I am inclined to agree.

I am grateful, my first job as a social worker was in a small hospital where I worked with many people facing death.  Some made “becoming exits.” Some did not. I helped some, but not others. All forced me to accept death as a given. I also came to realize some things were worse than death; not many, but some.

Emotional Fitness Tip one:  Prepare.  I have written my living will. my family knows I want my life prolonged, but not my death, and how I define both.  My funeral arrangements are in place.  My husband and sons know what I want to happen with  my possessions, what is to be done with Emotional Fitness Training, Inc. The smaller things have also been taken care. Finally, I have written a goodby letter.   With all that taken care of  I live on ,more peacefully.

Emotional Fitness Tip two: Live on.  Do all the things you usually do, but with a bow to the limitations age imposes. There will be things to mourn. I love music, but no longer hear it.

Emotional Fitness Tip three: Do more of what soothes and comforts and less of what irritates and annoys. I practice what I preach and that means I practice the 12 Daily Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises. Well, not always and not perfectly but enough to keep me more content than not.  Remember my post about perfection?

Emotional Fitness Tip four: Keep learning. Try new things while cherishing the old that have served you well. We were created to be  learning machines, the more we learn the more we understand; the more we understand the more we bring peace to our small world and the larger universe.

Emotional Fitness Tip five: Remember what matters and act each day to make the world around you kinder and better. That really is all that matters.

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

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Thank you.

Katherine

This blog post  was not inspired by this WordPress DAILY PROMPT — Snapshot Stories: Open the first photo album you can find — real or virtual, your call — and stop at the first picture of yourself you see there. Tell us the story of that photo.

However, I do think the first picture I saw of myself today was of me fairly recently. My story: I’ve lived long, I am old, but still grateful to be breathing and not in great pain so I can keep living.

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10 Tips to Make Happiness Everafter Work

First tip: Stop seeking  happiness. The pursuit of happiness is a selling device.  Buy into it and waste time, money, and effort. Pursue contentment instead

Tips for finding contentment

One  problem in wanting to be eternally happy, is that you need unhappiness to measure your happiness.

The second problem is what the experts call habituation. You can get used to anything and then it becomes boring. We crave contrast and difference, but within a bearable range.

A personal story. I a young child during the food rationing days of World War II.  We ate well, but somethings were in very short supply – chocolate bars were a very special treat and I remember my mother breaking off one square and telling me to hold it in my mouth and let it melt so the goodness would last.  Loved those little squares.

When chocolate became more common, I got less pleasure, it became routine. In time chocolate became a no-no because of weight gain, and I reverted to savoring one square at a time.

This Emotional Fitness Post was inspired by this WordPress Daily PromptHappily Ever After – “And they lived happily ever after.” Think about this line for a few minutes. Are you living happily ever after? If not, what will it take for you to get there?

I am content, not happy. I know anger, joy, despair, desire, love, hate, fear, shame, pride and a hundred variations of these emotions. Mostly I control their influence on my life by following my own advice and that is basically summed up in the EFTI Poster Coach above.

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Remember sharing is caring and the easiest way to practice kindness is to share this post if you found it helpful.  Share it even if it doesn’t speak to you, it will speak to some. Didn’t like it?  Comment and tell me why and how to improve.

Katherine

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