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1 Mega Tip Plus a Few Others to Clear Up Faulty Thinking

We all have our histories, we all are taught other histories then we shape our lives on both versions one which maybe true than the other. Think about this:

Quote from Declaration of Independece

As an African proverb from the Ewe-mina tribe notes:”Gnatola ma no kpon sia, eyenabe adelan to kpo mi sena.” meaning in English “Until the lion has his or her own storyteller, the hunter will always have the best part of the story.”

For the men who wrote the Declaration of Independence, the emphasis was on the right to pursue happiness.   Today those word are  often  interpreted as the right to be happy. More so on the Social Media, but also on revered newspapers like the New York Times.

Questions to ask before believing something

Thinking you have a right to be happy fuels anger or despair  when you are not happy.  If you get angry, you feel it is right to fight those you blame for making you unhappy.; not useful.  If you despair, you are blaming yourself, also not useful. We all want to be happy, but life is full of pain as well as joy. False expectations of happiness dim the possiblity of enjoying what we can enjoy.

Moreover, the media, particularly those selling stuff, knows that not being happy fuels sales. Why images of perfection and mottos like “Just Do It” have a destructive side. Why I often suggest you practice imperfection and the contentment that comes with “good-enough” or “the best I can do for now.”

A MEGA Emotional Fitness Training tip

Learn to spot twisted thinking in others and in yourself. Because personal desires twist everyone’s thinking; which is why Emotional Fitness Training demands partnering heart and brain.  The more you know about twisted thinking, the better you code reality which is essential if one is to act wisely.  Here’s a quick look at how some thoughts get twisted as we pursue our dreams and desires.

How we twist thoughts to meet desires.

I pursue sharpening my thinking skills in two ways. The easiest ways is looking for examples of the above in social media.

The second way is to take opposing view points in arguments whether I believe the opposition or not. That is why many think I am a Right Wing Conservative and others a far out Leftist, and a few others a Libertarion. Mostly I try to be an independent thinker and vote issues not labels.

This post was somewhat inspired by this WordPress Daily Prompt.  Revisionist History by Michelle W. Go back in time to an event you think could have played out differently for you. Let alternate history have its moment: tell us what could, would or should have happened?

Not that I followed the post, but it did prompt my thinking about history – personal and otherwise.

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Katherine

LINKS OF INTEREST

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1 Mega Tip for Thinking More About What Matters –

Read this story and then think about what matters.

Rod Steiger Story

“We grow too soon old and too late smart” Dutch Proverb

A Mega Emotional Fitness Training Tip: The more you think you know, the more your heart pushes your beliefs, the more you need to think more about what matters; the more you must think and think and think again.  

As the sages of the ages often note, “Love is blind.” When love of anything has you following your heart and your desires thoughtlessly, you out of touch not just with what matters, but with reality.

Heart, intuition must be linked to thought in order for you to act wisely and safely.

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Remember to share all you find of value on the internet.  All here crave recognition. A like says “Thank You.” Comments say you have read and thought about the post. Sharing is a gift to three people: the blogger, the people you share with, and you for your kindness bless you.

Katherine

This post was inspired by this Word Press Daily PromptS/he Said
by Michelle W. Pause whatever you’re doing, and ask the person nearest you what they’re thinking about (call someone if you have to). Write a post based on the results.

I moved on thinking I wouldn’t post today, but then read this story about Rod Steiger and there you are. Thank you Dr. Mardy’s Quotes for the story.

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These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

 

Tips to Better Controlling Your Future

Reality check: The future is not ours to control. Things happen. These tips offer better control, not control.

Quotes about the future

Emotional Fitness Training Tips

Emotional Fitness Training Tip One: Learn from the past, live now, and plan with hope for tomorrow. 

Emotional Fitness Training Tip Two: Practice Emotional Fitness Training’s 12 Easy Exercises. Each strengthen you to meet whatever your future brings.

Emotional Fitness Training Tip Three: Know your mission.  Your mission is about who you want to be, how you want to live your life and how you want to be remembered.  Despite the push to get things, to be a perfect, to go for the gold, in the end the best lives are lived by following the Golden Rule as this Poster Coach reminds us.

What matters? Kindness to all.

This Poster Coach is available as a free download at the EFTI Store

Emotional Fitness Training Tip Four: Set SMART goals that align with your mission. 

How to set SMART Goals

For more details on knowing you mission and setting smart goals think about buying my eBook. Yes, a bit of an ad. 

Ebook about missions and goals

Costs less than a latte and with Amazon’s Kindle App can be read on most devices. A good gift for graduates and the college bound.

Emotional Fitness Training Tip Five: Practice imperfection.  As noted in this previoius blog post,  pursuing perfection nurtures dissatisfaction with self and others.  Not useful.

This  post was prompted by this WordPress Daily Prompt:  Advantage of Foresight You’ve been granted the power to predict the future! The catch — each time you use your power, it costs you one day (as in, you’ll live one day less). How would you use this power, it at all? (Thanks, sarsidoo, for suggesting a similar prompt!)

I don’t try to predict the future. As the above shows, I try to learn, live, and take what comes gratefully.

A question for you. I do find the WordPress’s Daily Prompts make me think more critically and often spark a post. What I wonder is do you think they distract from the posts or add to them. If the only good is my pleasure I can drop them, but would like your opinions.

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Remember to share all you find of value on the internet.  All here crave recognition. A like says “Thank You.” Comments say you have read and thought about the post. Sharing is a gift to three people: the blogger, the people you share with, and you for your kindness bless you.

Katherine

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How To Avoid the Blame Game – 3 Tips

Blaming is part of our genetic heritage. When bad things happen, we need to find the cause to prevent future hurt. Makes sense, but Pogo knew better.

Thank you Jimmie Peacock for this.

Thank you Jimmy Peacock for this.

Don’ t remember what Pogo said? He said, “We have met the enemy and he is us.” Walt Kelley made a poster of this cartoon character for the first Earth Day  held on  April 22, 1970.  That was several generations after mine.  But as a fan of Joni  Mitchell’s song the Big Yellow Taxi I became an environmentalist. Still am.  Here’s one verse. 

They paved paradise
And put up a parking lot
With a pink hotel, a boutique
And a swinging hot SPOT
Don’t it always seem to go
That you don’t know what you’ve got
‘Til it’s gone

The song seems even more true today. I moved six years ago to Colorado where “..t.e deer and the antelope roam.”  We made the move from the pavements of New York to the foothills of the Rocky Mountains to be near our youngest son and grandchildren.  A good move, but Colorado is booming slowly de-nuding some of the mountains amd paving lots of meadows.

Not good, but almost inevitable. What to do?  To me this all fits under the Emotional Fitness Easy Exercise “Remember What Matters.”

Emotional Fitness Tip one: Do your part. For some that means protesting, for others sitting on development review boards.

For me, I am a trash collector. Colorado abounds with trails and parks and for the most part they are pristine. So pristine, however that an empty soda can is a desecration – at least to me. So when I walk I collect the trash others leave and dump it where it belongs. I am sad to say, the amount of trash has grown over the six years I been trying to clean up after others. That leads me to my second tip.

Emotional Fitness Tip two: This is for parents, but not parents alone. Teach children and thoughtless adults not to foul earth’s nest.  When I am trash picking, and I I look whoever is around in the eye and say “Not nice.”  Most smile and shake their heads, but a few blush. I hope the blushers mend their ways.

I sometimes leave the trash and post a sign on it “Shame on all trash dumpers.” Why some call me a Cranky Old Lady.  When I see trash, that part of me does emerge.

Emotional Fitness Tip three: Practice conservation. Buy less, use less,   reuse, and recycle.  Read E.F. Schumacher’s book Small is Beautiful.

The ad men don’t agree and want you to buy, buy, buy. They preach  new is better; bigger is better, more often is better. .Do  you know how the shampoo people more than  tripled  their sales? First by telling you to soap up twice, and more recently by encouraging shampooing  every day.

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Thank you.

Katherine

This blog post  was inspired by this WordPress Daily Prompt:  Generation XYZ —  Think about the generation immediately younger or older than you. What do you understand least about them — and what can you learn from them?

My answer is above.

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