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Put off all you can except what matters

Procrastination is the art of remembering what matters.

Put off all you can as long as you can.  Worry not as what needs to get done, gets done.

Put off all you can as long as you can. Worry not as what needs to get done, gets done. Thank you collegeessayorganizer.com for this image

This quick EFTI post is based on this Daily Prompt: Wasted Days and Wasted Nights  Tell us your tried and true techniques for focusing when that deadline looms and you need to get work done. In other words, how do you avoid wasted days and wasted nights?

As noted above, procrastination is remembering what matters and focusing on that means not days or nights are wasted.

I was heading into my fifties when I realized I needed a bit of time pressure to do my best work; procrastination worked in my favor. This Poster Coach now sums up my views on the subject. It is today’s free poster coach.

Seven Reasons to Procrastinate.


If procrastination makes you fret and fume, you have two choices. Stop procrastinating or strengthen your self-soothing skills.  Learning the art of Sloganeering helps with that. So here is another free Poster Coach.

Procrastinate as long as you can and as often as you can.

Thank you for all you do to Practice Kindness. Doing a little matters, doing a lot matters more.



Me Jealous? Sadly, Yes.

Daily Prompt: Green-Eyed Lady We all get jealous from time to time — what wakes the green-eyed monster for you?

Those who are part of our success are often left out of the rewards we reap.

Thank you Stu’s views.

I chose this cartoon because success is never a one person show.

I have big dreams, work hard, but have had no monetary success when it comes to Emotional Fitness Training, Inc. – what I think of as my third child.  What wakens the Green Eyed Monster in me?  The success of those who have the money needed to do things like hire editors, illustrators, web masters, and publicists.  These have a team and I don’t.  I am a woman alone in my efforts.

My green eyes glow stronger when celebrities act like experts telling the rest of us how easy it is to do this or that.

Enough time on my pity-pot.

Staying emotionally strong

I combat the Green-eyed monster by practicing what I preach.  I practice all the Daily Twelve Easy Exercises every day and over and over again.  I start the day being grateful for all I have been given.  I go through my day thanking people;  I know my mission; I laugh and play, seek beauty; I honor those who gift me; I indulge in healthy pleasures; I move my body.

I also remind myself jobs are what you are paid to do.  Although I would love to be better paid, life is about doing what you love to do when, where ever, and however you can.  I am grateful I can do all I do whether or not monetary success comes to me and Emotional Fitness Training.

So pursue your passions and hope for a little bit of luck along the way.

Thank you all for all you do to care and share with others. Doing a little matters a lot. Doing more matters more.



FG staying strong


Thoughtful Thursday – Honoring Aida Cruz, not Bill Gates

Thinking about what matters is an Emotional Fitness Exercise.   This post is about giving from the heart, not from the pocket book.

Who gives to charity chart. The poor do more.

A Torah discussion of giving from Aish.com: Metzora(Leviticus 14-15) “You Think I’m Bad?!…”

If he is poor and his means are not sufficient… (Lev. 14:21)

The offerings of a wealthy and poor man are not equal – they are only required to bring offerings according to their means. The Mishnah(1) states that a wealthy metzora (a person struck with tzoraas) who brings a poor man’s offering has not fulfilled his obligation with such an offering.

The same concept applies to a Jew’s spirituality. A person must put forth the utmost effort when it comes to serving God, and he must utilize fully the potential that God has granted him. We may often validate our bad behavior by comparing ourselves to friends who are doing similarly. However, this is a grave error. Your friend may fall into the category of a spiritually “poor man” – perhaps he does not possess the same capabilities and knowledge that you do. If you act like him you may well see your own obligation to reach greater heights go unfulfilled. The greater our potential, the greater the expectation.(2)

The verse states “in heaven above and on the earth below.” (3) In pursuit of spirituality (heaven), one must look up to people that are “above” him, people that are greater than he is, and strive to be like them. However, in pursuit of physical pleasures (earth), one must look at people that are “beneath” him. One should look at those who have less than him and therefore he will be content with what he has.(4)

Emotional fitness Thoughts

A few of those reading this and who worked with me at the Visiting Nurse Service of New York know who Aida Cruz is.  She is retired now and we have lost touch much to my regret.  She lives on in my heart, however, as the person I would like to be.

Why? She used the struggles of her life to enrich others.  Aida Cruz was born in Puerto Rico but spent most of life in the South Bronx, long before it became fairly safe to live their.  She married and had two sons, both suffered from major emotional disabilities; one eventually committed suicide at the behest of the voices that commanded much of his life.

Aida worked most of her life as a beautician. One study showed that for the near poor, beauticians were low-cost therapists. When she came to work in my VNSNY programs as a Parent Advocate, she helped  more people than most of the staff with fancy degrees.

We would walk the mean streets of Mott Haven together (Read Jonathan Kozol’s book Amazing Grace or watch the movie Bonfire of the Vanities for a glimpse of where Aida lived).  As we walked, few people passed us without greeting Aida. Often, she would dip into her purse and hand out a bit of cash to the neediest beggars.

Once I protested she was giving money that would probably go for wine or drugs, and she remarked quietly, “He could be my son.”

I blushed all the way back to our office and never again refused a down and out beggar.

Emotional fitness tip

Practice deliberate kindness and from your heart, not your judgements about who deserves what.  I admire Bill Gates and others of his kind who share their wealth; but I admire even more  those like Aida Cruz who give when it lowers their standard of living.


If we forget kindness matters most, or judge before we give, we are weakened and the world’s progress toward peace slows.

Thank you all for all you do to care and share with others. Doing a little matters a lot. Doing more matters more.


This post relates somewhat to this Daily Prompt: Lookin’ Out My Back Door:  Look out your back window or door — describe what you see.  Actually what I see is an April Snow storm. But instead of looking out my back door, I looked back in time to someone who helped me grow stronger.


Practice Deliberate Kindness ass an Emotional Fitness Exercise.

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Luck lurks

“Do you believe in fate or do you believe you can control your own destiny? ” My answer a bit of both.

Waiting for your destiny and nothing happens.

Thank you armzrace.com

emotional fitness thoughts

Brute fact: luck is part of where life takes you.  Good luck or bad luck, both matter. The “Just Do It” gurus would have you think otherwise.

Not healthy. Why? Two reasons: We keep trying when we should move on; we blame ourselves if not successful.

Jerome Kagan, Harvard researcher into how people become who they become, believes at least eight factors matter.  Those factors: Temperament, sibling order, who you want to be like (identifications), parental behavior, school and social success, community size,  historical events of adolescence, and chance. Think of chance or luck as what we do not control. Then review Kagan’s list and you will realize chance plays a part in each item.

EMotional Fitness Tip

You can’t control luck. That does not mean you cannot control your destiny.  Here  is EFTI’s tip of the day:  Build your life and ideas about success on what matters.  What matters? Doing what you can, sharing and caring, and learning lessons when things do not go your way.


When you are not getting where you want to go, remind yourself that luck cannot  be controlled, but comes and goes; good luck is a gift to cherish; bad luck something to wait out. If you are new to the idea of emotional fitness exercises visit this blog page: Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises to get started  improving your emotional intelligence. Thank you all for all you do to care and share with others. Doing a little matters a lot. Katherine

This post was inspired by this WordPress Daily Prompt: Que Sera Sera


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