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FIVE PLUS WAYS TO PRACTICE KINDNESS – DAY FOUR OF THE TWELVE DAYS OF EMOTIONAL FITNESS TRAINING

Practicing kindness is selfish; it gives you the most good.

Emotional Fitness Poster reminding you to Practice Kindness

As all the sages across all the ages and as today’s researchers know practicing kindness is the express lane to the good life.

There is much talk of Random Acts of Kindness and that is good. But a greater good comes to you when you practice Deliberate Kindness.

Go Beyond Random Kindness

 Parenting tipS

Parenting tip one: Manners teach kindness, so teach your children manners.

Parenting tip two; Condemn cruelty when you see cruel behavior. Point out cruel jokes, cruel acts.

Parenting tip three: Punish children for deliberate acts of cruelty.

Parenting tip four: Reward with a thank you your child’s acts of kindness.

Parenting tip five: Teach your children to give to the needy.  Three year olds love putting coins in various donations boxes.  Older children can give gently used toys, coats, other items to various charities or time at soup kitchens.

be kind to me

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Thank you and work at staying strong until next time,. I work hard to do the same as life is often difficult but staying strong lets me find the good.

Katherine

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FREE  STUFF FROM EFTI

All the handouts and poster coaches for this course are being posted at the store so you can download them for free. A poster coach is like a face-to-face coach; all serve as practice reminders, some teach you the exercises needed to stay strong.

To use one, after down loading it from the store, print it up preferably in cardstock and color, then post it where you will see it as you go about your day.

Apologies if you cannot find one.  I am a Jill of all in this business, so some things take longer than others.  If something used here isn’t posted yet, you will find lots of other offerings including inspirational quotes or more EFTI exercises. In time all will be posted.

DAILY PROMPT   The Object of My Dejection  – Tell us about the object of your dejection — something you made, a masterpiece unfinished, or some sort of project that failed to meet your expectations. What did you learn from the experience? How would you do things differently next time?

How this fits in with today’s EFTI Post:  I was raised to think poorly of money-grubbing. So I have consistently under sold myself and Emotional Fitness Training.

I have lead a good life, but EFTI will probably be buried with me and I wish I had done better selling it.  A bit more money would have made it a viable business that could live on.

That said I am still trying to find a some legacy keepers or investors who will work to keep it going for at least a few more years.  Interested?

HOW TO PRACTICE A DAILY EMOTIONAL FITNESS EXERCISE PROGRAM -

Tomorrow starts 12 days of Easy Emotional fitness (aka emotional intelligence). EFT’s holiday gift to help you manage stress, bad, sad, and mad feelings.

wavy staying strong
This is a repost, to prepare you for the coming 12 Days of Emotional Fitness Easy Exercises.

You probably already do many of these things. However,  walking is good exercise, power walking is better, and  proper practice of these every day things turns up their power.   To be most helpful each exercise must be practiced with full awareness.

That is done by meditating before and after the exercise.  Sound too difficult? Nor once you have learned and practiced  EFT’s One Minute Meditation.

A one minute meditation

PARENTING TIPs

Parenting tip one: Catch your kids as they do these exercises. For example: When a child is upset and finally calms down, murmur praise for calming down.

Parenting tip two: Show them your pleasure when you do one of them. Be with beauty is one that starts working early. Laugh and play start before sitting up; and create can be added when the child is playing with clay, building blocks, or coloring.

Parenting tip three: Teach good manners early on.  Learning to say thank you early on teaches gratitude and practicing kindness.

PRACTICE KINDNESS

Please rate this material. Doing so helps my social media ratings, but also lets me know what interests you most. Comments also help.

This is what your stars will mean to me. No stars – Not helpful; One star – Reinforced my knowledge –  Two Stars; New information –  Three stars;  New useful information; Four stars – Very good; Five stars – Excellent.

Thank you and work at staying strong until next time,. I work hard to do the same as life is often difficult but staying strong lets me find the good.

Katherine

LINKS OF INTEREST

FREE  STUFF FROM EFTI

All the handouts and poster coaches for this course are being posted at the store so you can download them for free. A poster coach is like a face-to-face coach; all serve as practice reminders, some teach you the exercises needed to stay strong.

To use one, after down loading it from the store, print it up preferably in cardstock and color, then post it where you will see it as you go about your day.

Apologies if you cannot find one.  I am a Jill of all in this business, so some things take longer than others.  If something used here isn’t posted yet, you will find lots of other offerings including inspirational quotes or more EFTI exercises. In time all will be posted.

TAKING A GRATITUDE BREAK – 101 COURSE CONTINUES 12/4/2014

Show your gratitude by practicing deliberate kindness as well as the random kindness so often talked about. Both improve your Emotional Intelligence.

Go Beyond Random Kindness

Read on for the Daily Prompt that inspired this post, Links of Interest, and Free Stuff.  As always Thank you for all you to do share what I offer. Your likes, comments, and shares keep me going.

Katherine

WORD PRESS DAILY PROMPT: Leftovers Sandwich – Today, publish a post based on unused material from a previous piece –a paragraph you nixed, a link you didn’t include, a photo you decided not to use. Let your leftovers shine!

Have essentially been doing this all week.

FREE  STUFF FROM EFTI

All the handouts and poster coaches on this blog are being posted at the store so you can download them for free.

Apologies if you cannot find one.  I am a Jill of all in this business, so some things take longer than others.  If something used here isn’t posted yet, you will find lots of other offerings including inspirational quotes or more EFTI exercises. In time all will be posted.

And as always, thank you for all the ways you have supported me. May the good you do return a hundredfold.

LINKS OF INTEREST

As you go about life think about this: “Enough is a feast.”  Irish Proverb 

SELF-SOOTHING, IMPROVING WHAT WORKS – SESSION TEN

Self-soothing skills remain the most popular part of this course. Testifies to how stressed we are. Most of us have healthy and unhealthy ways we use to find calm.

Health ways to self soothe

Remember if this is your first visit to the course, you can go here to start at the beginning. Not necessary, but advisable to get the most from it.  

Meditating got left off the list. That was not on purpose but gives me a change to highlight its value. Done properly and with practice it works. Think of the Dalai Lama who almost never gets ruffled.

That’s the good news.  The bad news? The Dalai Lama practiced years and years to be a star meditator.  The hyperactive or more impatient among us often find traditional meditations hard to learn. That  describes me. That is also why I developed EFT’s One Minute Meditation or OMM. Here it is:

A one minute meditation

If you have been taking the course, you are already familiar with the first four steps of the OMM. Guessed it was a  Calming Breath? Right.

Some words about all breathing exercises.  We breathe naturally, but there are  revving up ways to breathe and  calming ways to breathe. Both are useful.  Learning to use both wisely improves your self-soothing skills,

 Revving up breaths –  These often happen normally when we experience a negative feeling.  It starts by more or less holding our breath and breathing using our upper body.

Think of the last time something happened that really frightened you. Most likely, you caught and held your breath for a few seconds. When you began to breathe again, you took  quick, short breaths. Called thoracic breathing this does not fully expand the lungs; it decreases the flow of oxygen and so increases tension and revs you up.

Most call do not see why this is useful, but the body uses such breathing  to increase the flow of energizing chemicals and there lies its usefulness.

Calming down breaths –  this is the way babies breathe when sleeping and involves drawing a complete breath from deep in your belly, the way singers do.  Doing so gets more oxygen to your whole body and that is calming.

Not sure you know how to breathe from your belly? Try this:

  1. Stand at ease.
  2. Place both of your hands on your stomach.
  3. Imagine your stomach is a balloon.
  4. Breathe in and imagine you are filling that balloon with air.
  5. Breathe out and imagine the balloon collapsing.

Very hard for some, so here is another way to learn this one.  Do this in bed before falling asleep.

  1. Lie on your back.
  2. Put a book on your abdomen.
  3. Breathe as you normally do.
  4. Watch the book and see if it raises as you breathe in or out.
  5. Experiment with learning to raise the book as you breathe in.

Parenting tip: Instead of a book, use a small stuffed animal to teach a child how to breathe calm. You can start doing so when s/he has conquered language.

Using the above  to self-sooth and stay calm: Becoming  attuned to how you breathe alerts you to the need to switch to from one way  to the other. Mostly you will need to switch from revving up breaths to calming breaths.

Homework: Use bed time to practice learning both ways to breathe and how to switch from one to the other.  Switch several times, then practice the OMM until you fall asleep.

 WHAT’S NEXT

More self-soothing skills with a focus on turning negative self talk into positive slogans that calm and keep you focused on what matters.)

POST INSPIRATION: DAILY PROMPT

I often use these prompts to spark my posts.  They can also be used to improve your critical thinking which is the heart of emotional intelligence.

You can think about them as they are stated or use them to spark other thoughts which is what I usually do. Most can be related to Emotional Fitness. How? Well here is the prompt that connects to this post. I’ll answer it and tell you how I relate it to Emotional Fitness.

Doppelgänger alert: You step into an acquaintance’s house for the first time, and discover that everything — from the furniture, to the books, to the art on the wall — is identical to your home. What happens next?

How this relates to emotional fitness and today’s post.  I laugh gently, which is an emotional fitness exercise, then thank my friend for finding so much of me to like and then admit, I also miss what was special about him that could never be me and suggest the next time  I visit, I hope to see more of him and less of me.

If you think deeply, another emotional fitness exercise, hopefully, you realize the beauty of our world lies in its variety. A world inhabited by copies of you would soon become very boring.

MORE FREE  STUFF FROM EFTI

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PRACTICE KINDNESS

Please rate this material. Doing so helps me ratings. This is what your stars will mean to me. No stars – Not helpful; One star – Reinforced my knowledge –  Two Stars; New information –  Three stars;  New useful information; Four stars – Very good; Five stars – Excellent.

Thank you and work at staying strong until next time,. I work hard to do the same as life is often difficult but staying strong lets me find the good.

Katherine