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How To Use Faith to Stay Strong — 1 Tip

Everyone has faith in something. Mostly in our own ideas about the larger universe. This prayer is for almost all:

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Prayer means thinking from deep within your heart so the universe hears.

I did not know the meaning of “Aho” and looked it up. The two definitions seem to  perfectly captured a problem all humankind faces. What means something to one person or group may mean something totally different to another person or group. We all turn thoughts and beliefs to meet our needs; all beliefs, including those based on a religious theology, are personal and individual.

Which to me means we should stop worrying about what people believe and concern ourselves with acts. Moreover, the acts of a person are not the acts of all in that  group.

Holding all in a group or most in a group responsible for acts of others in the same group is twisted thinking  known as generalizing from one to many.

As said, by many including, Alexandre Dumas, “All generalizations are dangerous, even this one.”

EMOtIONAL FITNESS TRAINING TIP

The more you think you know, the more you need to think about what you do not know.  For knowing leads to generalizing without thinking.

Gregory Bateson, described as an English anthropologist, social scientist, linguist, visual anthropologist, semiotician and cyberneticist, was a careful thinker. He believed the more views of something the closer one got to reality.

Thinking more about that, it only holds true if those viewing something are not interpreting  it from the same personal point of view.

Complicated isn’t it? Which is why the Buddhist praise the Beginner’s Mind mean a mind that knows nothing.

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Remember sharing is caring and the easiest way to practice kindness is to share this post if you found it helpful.  Share it even if it doesn’t speak to you, it will speak to some. Didn’t like it?  Comment and tell me why and how to improve

Thank you.

Katherine

This blog post  was not inspired by this WordPress DAILY PROMPT — The Golden Hour — 6:00AM: the best hour of the day, or too close to your 3:00AM bedtime?

However the post relates to it a bit. For My Golden Hour remains any time I connect with the universe in a way similar to what the Buddhists call Being One With All.  Here’s a poster coach that talks about how to do that.

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ARE YOU HYPNOTIZED BY YOUR OWN NEEDS? MOST OF US ARE!

Does your faith or lack of faith lead you down paths of righteousness leaving others behind? Then you have been  brainwashed by the idolatry of your needs.

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IMPROVE YOUR CRITICAL THINKING SKILLS

Apply this WordPress daily prompt –to today’s post. . Agree to Disagree – Do you have a good friend or close relative with whom you disagree on a major issue (political, personal, cultural)? What’s the issue, and how do you make the relationship work?

See my answer  at the bottom of this post.

PRACTICE DELIBERATE KINDNESS

Practice Deliberate Internet kindness by liking,  commenting or sharing  posts. I feel good when I support my internet friends. Even small kindnesses strengthen you and those you bless with your sharing and caring.

Thank you for all you do.  Work at staying strong until next time,. I work hard to do the same as life is often difficult but staying strong lets me find the good.

Katherine

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 my answer to IMPROVE YOUR CRITICAL THINKING SKILLS

Agree to Disagree – Do you have a good friend or close relative with whom you disagree on a major issue (political, personal, cultural)? What’s the issue, and how do you make the relationship work?

I married a Civil Rights activist and Viet Nam war protester. Who is now mostly conservative while I have changed my political views very little.  How has our marriage lasted for 45 years?  I support his views where I can, and am quiet when I disagree.  Easier said than done, which is why I also practice Emotional Fitness Exercises throughout the day.

How to Endure the Unendurable

You endure the unendurable mostly by putting one foot in front of the other, and when that is not possible, just standing what I call “Dead in the water” for a

What is unendurable?  Events that change you forever. Such life blows  can be something as personal as the death of gold-fish or as life threatening as being in a war zone;  war zones’ include domestic violence or neighborhoods run by criminals.

Such events bring you to a stand still.   When standing “Dead in the water” is  the best you can do, hopefully others will be there tending you.

WHAT HELPS AFTER A LIFE BLOW

When you can begin putting one foot ahead of the other, here are some others have found to move them ahead.

First – Do what the very young do. Young children move forward the best because more than the rest of us the younger the children the more he or she  lives in the now.  A bomb goes off, their house burns down, a parent dies, and quicker than an older child or adult, the young child can be seen playing with a favorite toy or laughing with friends.

Too often grownups seeing such play, think the child is not affected by the unendurable. Not so; nature and the development of their brains at that time, gets they through and keeps them going by having them do whatever comforts them the most, usually play.

Adults and school aged children need a bit more, but the lesson being learned is a good one; as soon as pain and immediate danger are past, get back to the everyday things that comfort.

Next – reconnect with those you care about and who care about you.  Doing so is one of the things that comforts most.  For most of us  right after the unendurable, we need to be with those  who can help us affirm the horror of what happened.

As  the great philosopher Martin Buber noted:  “Man wishes to be confirmed in his being by man, and wishes to have a presence in the being of the other….sent forth from the natural domain of species into the hazard of solitary category surrounded by a chaos which came into being with him…secretly and bashfully he watches for a YES which allows him to be and which can come to him only from one human person to another…that the heavenly bread of self being is passed. ”

At no time is this more important to connect or reconnect then when life blows strike. That is why the mental health professionals gather trauma victims for debriefings.  Talking about the horror helps particularly when it first hits.

Warning – going over the bad, however, reinforces the pain.  Current research finds constantly reviewing the trauma, which often happens in some talk therapy, is not useful.

As soon as possible, establish a normal routine with an emphasis on maintaining what we know tends to our physical well-being – getting enough sleep, eating properly, and exercising.

Finally, examine what the unendurable has done to reaffirm or shatter your core beliefs about life and what it all means. Everyone needs to find comforting explanations for the whys of life.

Don’t agree? Think about the universal cry of the traumatized  “Why me?”

We all know people who have lost or gained faith following a life blow.

For most of us, one or another religion serves to answer the why and how of life.  People of faith find comfort and hope in religious practice. My faith helps me.

I quarrel with my atheist friends who want to do away with religion.  Mostly these have lost faith after when prayers seemed to fail. I do not quarrel with any religion as long as it it allows those that do not encourage violence of one sort or another and allow others to  believe as they believe. or preach violence of one sort or another,

While I  do not  care not what anyone believes,  I do  want bad theology done away with.  Most of that theology centers around the idea that all should have the same belief.  In my mind, the atheists who want to abolish religion are in the same camp as those who say in one way or another, “My faith is the one true faith.”  Neither brings peace to this world.

All beliefs need to be examined against the Golden Rule. Harvard researchers Jerome Kagan and Sheila Lamb looked into morality around the world. They found that every culture promoted two values:

  1. Caring for the weak
  2. Justice and fair treatment.

When I taught this to my students, many rightful asked why if this is true is the world so full of violence?

My answer, “Because, we apply those values to our own, but not to others.  We put those  seen different, not in our family, clan, or tribe out of our caring circle.”

The beliefs that work best for all of us are those embodied by the Golden Rule.  To bring peace to this world, however, we must draw the circle of caring around all, not just our own.

 STAy strong

When a life blow strikes, and they strike all at one time or another,  a well-practiced self-soothing program  provides what the experts call resilience and help you move forward more easily.

Thank you for all you do including liking, commenting, or sharing. Kindness blesses the giver and the receiver.

Katherine

Links of interest

 Word Press Daily Prompt

September 5, 2014   Moved to Tears: Do movies, songs, or other forms of artistic expression easily make you cry? Tell us about a recent tear-jerking experience!

 

ADMIRATION BRINGS PEACE

Strengthen your health and well-being by stretching and wondering. Here’s how:

Think of all around you, above, you within you - know awe.

Here’s how to Be With Beauty:

Be with beauty emotionalfitness exercise.

STAY STRONG

No matter how busy you are, you need time outs to refresh and renew. The two exercises are quick ways to refuel. However, you and those you love need more than quick breaks throughout you day.

When God commanded the Jews to observe the Shabbat, the purpose was to force quiet time on this tribe of his children. You do not have to be Jewish or even believe in God to benefit from a day away from work and particularly electronic devices and stores.

Can’t bear the thought of a full day?  Start with a few hours, build toward a full day.  You will benefit.

As always, thank you for all you do to make the world around you more peaceful. Think of sharing this post as another way to work toward peace.

Katherine

How does this post fit in with Today’s Word Press’s DAILY PROMPT:  Secret Admirers?  You return home to discover a huge flower bouquet waiting for you, no card attached. Who is it from — and why did they send it to you?

Only indirectly.  What it sparked in me was a reminder to build your #emotionalintelligence  by admiring beauty and nature and not so secretly.

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EFTI FREE POSTERS  Browse the EFTI store for free digital downloads of the posters shown. You will also see  nearly a hundred more designed to inspire, coach and teach you how to strengthen your #emotionalintelligence.