Who do you hate? Where did you learn that hatred. Hatred destroys your heart, so improve your #emotionalintelligence and learn to love even those you hate.
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Human nature is such that we fear what is different. If that fear gets linked to personal internal hurts , hatred brews. Here are five common examples of what I mean by internal hurts.
- You judge yourself as less smart, less strong, less talented than a person of difference.
- You have less wealth than a person of a difference.
- A person of difference beats you in a race, a game.
- A person of difference seems more respected by others than you feel respect you.
- Your view of your higher power is challenged by a different one.
Hatred brews more easily when the voices around you promote hatred and join hands with your personal hurt. The more voices preaching hate, the easier it is to justify your hate.
Some cultures raise their children on hatred of difference. Some do it directly. Go here to see what one group teaches its children. Others do it less directly. How? Think of any group that says those who believe differently are damned and doomed to spend eternity in hell. Also think of media messages that promote competition or divisiveness.
I think of the Long Island Railroad mass killer Colin Ferguson as someone whose hatred festered because of failed dreams, personal hurts, the slings and arrows of thoughtless other people, and of the preachings of hatred. Born in Jamaica, he came to the USA expecting to find great success, freedom and tolerance. He did not find success, he found racism, and he heard the preachings of hate groups.
It is a testimony to the goodness of most people that meeting with the same conditions, they do not turn murderous.
Hatred involves twisted thinking. Here is a list of such fallacies. The fallacies most at play in hatred of differences are incorrectly linking cause and effect, generalizing, and ad hominem.
To remind yourself to work at learning love, download today’s free poster coach about learning love and post it where you will see it. when you see it, recite Hammerstein’s lyrics to shut out thoughts of hate.
The more you have been taught to hate differences, the harder it will be to learn love. However, if the world is going to move past war, loving difference is essential. Make learning to love one of your life’s missions.
A brief Torah lesson. The letter twelve in Hebrew stands for diversity, for example the twelve tribes. The letter for thirteen is a sacred letter and stands for oneness meaning the source of all. Idol worship as taught by the Jewish Sages refers to the splitting of the sacred into the twelve and worshipping not the oneness of all, but one or another part or piece or tribe.
Thank you for all you do, enjoy and be grateful for all you have been given, practice kindness, like, share or comment.
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This post relates to this DAILY PROMPT : Object Lesson - Sherlock Holmes had his pipe. Dorothy had her red shoes. Batman had his Batmobile. If we asked your friends what object they most immediately associate with you, what would they answer?
I would hope mine would be the peace symbol.
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