Tag Archives: Self care

Teaching hate? Much too easy.

What song keeps you going in times of trouble.? This Summer of Hate calls forth this one to me. Reminds me to teach love, not hate.  #emotionalintelligence tips

You've got to be taught to hate.

This post inspired by this Word Press Daily Prompt:Music Marker We all have songs that remind us of specific periods and events in our lives. Twenty years from now, which song will remind you of the summer of 2014?   See the above.

Emotional intelligence tips

Hate is a sign of weak #emotionalintelligence whether done by a culture,  a religion,  parents, teachers, friends, or the media.  All who teach hate to children fail all. 
Emotional intelligence tip one:  Purge your heart of hatred. Not as hard as you think providing you accept that all people do the best they can given the lessons they have been  taught by life and parents and others.  Learn EFTI’s  emotional intelligence boosting Three Steps to Forgiveness Exercise.
Emotional intelligence tip two: Be alert to media messages promoting hate.  These can be as subtle as sports fans yelling “Kill the umpire” or as strong as calls for “Death to the infidel.”Emotional intelligence tip three: Use fact checking sites to root out the false lies of propaganda.Emotional intelligence tip four: Improve the your understanding of the other’s point of view by reading or listening to their spokes people. Only attending to what is said by only those who agree with you is not emotionally intelligent.Emotional intelligence tip five:  Speak out against hate, silence colludes.


Thank you for all you do, enjoy and be grateful for all you have been given, practice kindness, work every way you can to abolish hate.  Help me do the dame by  liking, sharing, or commenting.



Image by Emotional Fitness Training Inc.

Daily Prompt: Talking in your sleep.

Today’s Word Press Daily Prompt  Discuss  a time when it was impossible not to hear a conversation between people. First some humor. 

Anyone who can will eavesdrop.

Not a political comment, but a  fact: Anyone who can will spy on anyone they want to will do so. It is getting caught that makes headlines.  Thinking otherwise is delusional.

An inadvertent ease-drop changed my life. Well, I think it did.  I think I was  somewhere behind two class mates who didn’t know I was there.

One  said to the other, “She needs to smile more, she is beautiful when she smiles.”

Now, before I heard that, I was very self conscious as I had “buck teeth.” Still do. Moreover, I now know they might not have been talking about me. But for teenagers every conversation is about them.  I took this one to heart and started smiling more. I still let my smiles come and I think that has made stronger and kinder and meant more good people in my life.

Emotional Fitness Facts and tip

Smiling is both a cheer-up tool and a relationship building  tool as well as a way to practice kindness.  However, it must be genuine.  EFTI’s Strong Body Soft Face Exercise Poster Coach helps you smile genuinely. Here it is:

Soft face poster

Another way to make a smile more genuine is to recall a time when you were the most peaceful or happy while practicing this exercise.  In time this will attach to your smiling muscles and in time become an automatic part of your soft smiles. Remember every EFTI poster on a blog post can be found free at the EFTI Store.  They offer quotes to help you think about what matters as well as various Emotional Fitness Training Exercises such as this one.  Get this one here.

Stay strong

Smiling is also a way of practicing kindness. I smile a great deal at strangers when I say good morning or good day. But as another way of practicing kindness, I also always compliment those who smile at me.

Most smiles are beautiful and being told “Your smile sent a bit of sunshine in my heart” always leads to another smile. Even grumpy cashiers  forced to smile will smile at that one and teenagers eat it up.

Thank you, Word Press for this one, and thank all of you for reading, liking, commenting or sharing my ramblings. Keeps me smiling and that keeps me strong.


Failed Billion Dollar idea?

My money-making idea was in response to the #Emotional_Intelligence movement.  My thought?  Emotional Fitness Training. As we all need to work to staying emotionally linking to the fitness movement might make money.  Did not.

Cartoon depicting the lack of normal families.

More seats would be filled if more people practiced the #Emotional_Fitness  Daily Twelve Easy Exercise.

This post was inspired by this daily post promptClick over to whatever website you visit most often to get news. Find the third headline on the page. Make sure that headline is in your post.

I used HootSuite  and opted for this headline as inspiration from the Harvard Business news. What’s Your $1 Billion Idea?  a blog post written by Doug Sundhiem.

Not quite what the prompt called for? So whip me with soggy spaghetti noodles.

Read the story for inspiration then read for the author’s ideas about  ways to generate ideas that might make a bit of money.  Meanwhile, I am still trying to make a bit of money from the Emotional Intelligence Movement.  This poster coach explains what I mean by emotional fitness training.


Emotional Fitness Training and #Emotional Intelligence explained.

Rumor suggests one key to success is to keep trying. Turtles win the race. So at 76, here I am still trying not to make a billion, but a enough so I can live the Irish saying, “Enough is a feast”  as I keep aging and income keeps fading.

To see my newest products, what I call Poster Coaches. visit my on-line store.

Poster Coaches are  digital downloadsyou can print up in color, on card stock and then post where you see them regularly.  Most are free.  If you want me to print them up and send them to you or as a gift to another, you have to pay the pricee. The purpose of a Poster Coach is to help you think about what matters or to take your feeling temperature or to remind you how to practice an emotional fitness exercise.

I gave poster coaches away at workshops and presentations.  One student I ran into three years after a presentation, showed me she used a Poster Coach as the cover to her three-ring binder. Made me teary eyed.  And as my business motto is “Make Money Doing Good.” I could also claim  success if not at making money at least at spreading a bit of inspiration and knowledge.

stay strong

Not everyone  can be a media star or make buckets of money.  Still everyone can become an Emotional Fitness Star. How? Remember what matters, practice kindness, laugh and play, forgive, and be grateful for all you have been given.

Thank you for all you do, particularly for liking or sharing EFTI’s ideas about staying emotionally strong. Your help might make my dreams come true. Every like or comment helps. 


Not walking tall

Daily Prompt: Out of Your Reach: Almost everything. On crutches now, fell; twisted knee. Need all my #EmotionalIntelligence to stay strong.

Quote The greatest glory is  in not falling, but rising.

Like a good loaf of bread, I am doing my best to keep rising.

That’s all folks.

Stay strong.

Todays’s Emotional Fitness Training’s Poster Coach. A reminder to myself.

FG staying strong