Tag Archives: Self-help

Tips to Better Controlling Your Future

Reality check: The future is not ours to control. Things happen. These tips offer better control, not control.

Quotes about the future

Emotional Fitness Training Tips

Emotional Fitness Training Tip One: Learn from the past, live now, and plan with hope for tomorrow. 

Emotional Fitness Training Tip Two: Practice Emotional Fitness Training’s 12 Easy Exercises. Each strengthen you to meet whatever your future brings.

Emotional Fitness Training Tip Three: Know your mission.  Your mission is about who you want to be, how you want to live your life and how you want to be remembered.  Despite the push to get things, to be a perfect, to go for the gold, in the end the best lives are lived by following the Golden Rule as this Poster Coach reminds us.

What matters? Kindness to all.

This Poster Coach is available as a free download at the EFTI Store

Emotional Fitness Training Tip Four: Set SMART goals that align with your mission. 

How to set SMART Goals

For more details on knowing you mission and setting smart goals think about buying my eBook. Yes, a bit of an ad. 

Ebook about missions and goals

Costs less than a latte and with Amazon’s Kindle App can be read on most devices. A good gift for graduates and the college bound.

Emotional Fitness Training Tip Five: Practice imperfection.  As noted in this previoius blog post,  pursuing perfection nurtures dissatisfaction with self and others.  Not useful.

This  post was prompted by this WordPress Daily Prompt:  Advantage of Foresight You’ve been granted the power to predict the future! The catch — each time you use your power, it costs you one day (as in, you’ll live one day less). How would you use this power, it at all? (Thanks, sarsidoo, for suggesting a similar prompt!)

I don’t try to predict the future. As the above shows, I try to learn, live, and take what comes gratefully.

A question for you. I do find the WordPress’s Daily Prompts make me think more critically and often spark a post. What I wonder is do you think they distract from the posts or add to them. If the only good is my pleasure I can drop them, but would like your opinions.

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Remember to share all you find of value on the internet.  All here crave recognition. A like says “Thank You.” Comments say you have read and thought about the post. Sharing is a gift to three people: the blogger, the people you share with, and you for your kindness bless you.

Katherine

LINKS OF INTEREST

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

 

 

How To Weather the Storms -3 Tips

All seasons bring storms. All lives suffer hurts and hurt creates personal storms . Emotional Intelligence means life’s storms wisely.

How to weather storms

When you can say “Thank you” for all what has been given and what has been escaped, you are the master or mistress of gratitude. Here are three tips for mastering gratitude even when hit by violent storms. 

Emotional Fitness Training Tip One: Look for the lesson. Life brings pain, pain is unavoidable. Think of pain, not as a punishment, but  as an opportunity to learn.

Emotional Fitness Training Tip Two: Be grateful you have survived the storms.  Proof you have survived? You are here now, able to read this.

Emotional Fitness Training Tip Three: Develop an attitude of gratitude.   An attitude of gratitude when bad things happen involves practicing acceptance.  Easily done when good is visiting you; more difficult when bad things are happening to you; not always possible in the midst of some storms.  Marsha Linehan, psychological guru. She speaks and preaches radical acceptance as key for surviving violent storms.

Another useful resource is this Emotional Fitness Poster Coach which details some of the things we can be thankful for.

Emotional Fitness Training poster coach about gratitude #emotional

To use  as a  poster coach post  get it free from the EFTIstore; download it, print it up and post it where you will see it often throughout the day. It reminds you of all you have to be grateful for and what matters most. Practicing gratitude daily strengthens its helpfulness in stormy weather.

For more instructions about how to practice any of the Twelve Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises visit this web page.

A WORD PRESS’ DAILY PROMPT INSPIRED THIS POST:  In the Summertime by Krista —  If it’s autumn or winter where you live, what are you most looking forward to doing next summer? If it’s spring or summer where you are, what has been the highlight of the season so far for you?

The highlight of spring for me is always renewal; of summer, Nature’s Bounty; of autumn, the Harvesting of all that is good; of winter, the longer nights with time to think more about what matters.

Thank you for all you do

Remember to share and care all you find of value on the internet.  All here crave recognition. A like says “Thank You.” Comments say you have read and thought about the post. Sharing is a gift to three people: the blogger, the people you share with, and you for your kindness bless you.

Katherine

LINKS OF INTEREST

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

 

Three Tips for Making the Best of All Advice

Everyone tells everyone else what to do or tries to. I do, but like more than half of all  people, I rarely do all I am advised to do; nor, do I follow my own advice.

Advice is for you, not me

EMOTIONAL FITNESS TRAINING THOUGHTS

Wise physicians know that most patients do not follow their advice. One study showed that less than 60% of patients took medication as prescribed. I don’t. Moreover, I think I know more about how my body responds than my doctors know.

I believe our bodies are individually designed chemical laboratories; each responds differently to different medications. Codeine would kill me; statins destroy my brain. The doctors listen to me about the codeine, but are less enthusiastic about my refusal to take statins, once I tried them for a few days. Then there is a heart medicine I refer to as f—–itall; that one sent me spiralling into depressions dark pit.

On the other hand penicillin saved my life when I was a child and had an attack of rheumatic fever. I am grateful for that and grateful for all the advances medical research has made. That said, it is my body and therefore my responsibility to  collaborate with my doctors in figuring out what works best.

EMOTIONAL FITNESS TRAINING TIPS

Emotional Fitness Training tip one: Advice givers sometimes know more than you know. Moreover, the more you think you know, the more you need to think about what you do not know.   So listen to advice with what the Buddhist’s call a Beginner’s Mind.

Emotional Fitness Training tip two: Experiment. As fitness coach Victoria Moran suggests, “….experiment until you find activities that make you happy as well as healthy. Choose your exercise using the same criteria you’d apply to choosing a date–that is, attractive to you and able to hold your interest for an hour.”

Emotional Fitness Training tip three: Try not to preach to the choir when giving advice.  Few things about advice turn me and others off than being told things already tried. Best to ask a few questions first.

  • The first: Are you needing to vent or do you want to hear some advice from me.
  • The second: Before offering your advice ask “What have you done to deal with this?” Then you must listen so you do not tell them something they have tried and found useless.

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Remember sharing is caring and the easiest way to practice kindness is to share this post if you found it helpful.  Share it even if it doesn’t speak to you, it will speak to some. Didn’t like it?  Comment and tell me why and how to improve

Thank you.

Katherine

This blog post  was inspired by this WordPress DAILY PROMPT —Take It From Me. What’s the best piece of advice you’ve given someone that you failed to take yourself?

My answer is above, but let me add, I advise people to “Move Your Body” as one of my Daily Twelve Easy Exercises and that is the hardest for me to do and at least two or three  days a week I do not follow the  advice I give others.

LINKS OF INTEREST

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How To Use Faith to Stay Strong — 1 Tip

Everyone has faith in something. Mostly in our own ideas about the larger universe. This prayer is for almost all:

A[ppstate's Prayer

Prayer means thinking from deep within your heart so the universe hears.

I did not know the meaning of “Aho” and looked it up. The two definitions seem to  perfectly captured a problem all humankind faces. What means something to one person or group may mean something totally different to another person or group. We all turn thoughts and beliefs to meet our needs; all beliefs, including those based on a religious theology, are personal and individual.

Which to me means we should stop worrying about what people believe and concern ourselves with acts. Moreover, the acts of a person are not the acts of all in that  group.

Holding all in a group or most in a group responsible for acts of others in the same group is twisted thinking  known as generalizing from one to many.

As said, by many including, Alexandre Dumas, “All generalizations are dangerous, even this one.”

EMOtIONAL FITNESS TRAINING TIP

The more you think you know, the more you need to think about what you do not know.  For knowing leads to generalizing without thinking.

Gregory Bateson, described as an English anthropologist, social scientist, linguist, visual anthropologist, semiotician and cyberneticist, was a careful thinker. He believed the more views of something the closer one got to reality.

Thinking more about that, it only holds true if those viewing something are not interpreting  it from the same personal point of view.

Complicated isn’t it? Which is why the Buddhist praise the Beginner’s Mind mean a mind that knows nothing.

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Remember sharing is caring and the easiest way to practice kindness is to share this post if you found it helpful.  Share it even if it doesn’t speak to you, it will speak to some. Didn’t like it?  Comment and tell me why and how to improve

Thank you.

Katherine

This blog post  was not inspired by this WordPress DAILY PROMPT — The Golden Hour — 6:00AM: the best hour of the day, or too close to your 3:00AM bedtime?

However the post relates to it a bit. For My Golden Hour remains any time I connect with the universe in a way similar to what the Buddhists call Being One With All.  Here’s a poster coach that talks about how to do that.

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