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Put off all you can except what matters

Procrastination is the art of remembering what matters.

Put off all you can as long as you can.  Worry not as what needs to get done, gets done.

Put off all you can as long as you can. Worry not as what needs to get done, gets done. Thank you collegeessayorganizer.com for this image

This quick EFTI post is based on this Daily Prompt: Wasted Days and Wasted Nights  Tell us your tried and true techniques for focusing when that deadline looms and you need to get work done. In other words, how do you avoid wasted days and wasted nights?

As noted above, procrastination is remembering what matters and focusing on that means not days or nights are wasted.

I was heading into my fifties when I realized I needed a bit of time pressure to do my best work; procrastination worked in my favor. This Poster Coach now sums up my views on the subject. It is today’s free poster coach.

Seven Reasons to Procrastinate.


If procrastination makes you fret and fume, you have two choices. Stop procrastinating or strengthen your self-soothing skills.  Learning the art of Sloganeering helps with that. So here is another free Poster Coach.

Procrastinate as long as you can and as often as you can.

Thank you for all you do to Practice Kindness. Doing a little matters, doing a lot matters more.



Me Jealous? Sadly, Yes.

Daily Prompt: Green-Eyed Lady We all get jealous from time to time — what wakes the green-eyed monster for you?

Those who are part of our success are often left out of the rewards we reap.

Thank you Stu’s views.

I chose this cartoon because success is never a one person show.

I have big dreams, work hard, but have had no monetary success when it comes to Emotional Fitness Training, Inc. – what I think of as my third child.  What wakens the Green Eyed Monster in me?  The success of those who have the money needed to do things like hire editors, illustrators, web masters, and publicists.  These have a team and I don’t.  I am a woman alone in my efforts.

My green eyes glow stronger when celebrities act like experts telling the rest of us how easy it is to do this or that.

Enough time on my pity-pot.

Staying emotionally strong

I combat the Green-eyed monster by practicing what I preach.  I practice all the Daily Twelve Easy Exercises every day and over and over again.  I start the day being grateful for all I have been given.  I go through my day thanking people;  I know my mission; I laugh and play, seek beauty; I honor those who gift me; I indulge in healthy pleasures; I move my body.

I also remind myself jobs are what you are paid to do.  Although I would love to be better paid, life is about doing what you love to do when, where ever, and however you can.  I am grateful I can do all I do whether or not monetary success comes to me and Emotional Fitness Training.

So pursue your passions and hope for a little bit of luck along the way.

Thank you all for all you do to care and share with others. Doing a little matters a lot. Doing more matters more.



FG staying strong


Winning the sanity battle

Quaker saying: “The whole world is crazy, except thee and me.”  Actually, thee and me are crazy lots of the time also.

Are you sane or insane?

I was a mental health professional and for nearly 15 years I directed mental health crisis teams before, during, and after 9/11.  The primary question my teams had to answer was “Does this person need to be in protective custody?”  Not that we said that: the politically correct question was “Does this person need to be in a psychiatric hospital?”

In order to reach this decision we conducted  a Mental Status Examination using criteria set forth in the Diagnostic Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM).  The DSM has recently been overhauled and many question the changes. Many more also question the idea that  there is such a thing as diagnosable mental illness. I don’t. Although I think diagnosing a mental illness is more of an art than a science, I believe accurately figuring out whether or not a person is struggoing more than most has advantages particularly for those who are at the more serious end of the continuum of sane versus insane.

Emotional Fitness Thoughts

In time, I stopped thinking of myself as a therapist and founded Emotional Fitness Training, Inc. Why? Because we all walk a narrow line between sanity and insanity.  This means all need help staying emotionally strong what I call emotionally fit.

However,  the stigma attached to mental illness  keeps many from seeking support or help for emotional problems.  I hoped the idea of emotional fitness would gain the same popularity as  physical fitness.

Knowledge is power, so one of my strategies has been to share my professional knowledge. Toward that end, here is an Emotional Fitness Snapshot that provides a rough idea of your level of emotional fitness.   As with all EFTI tests, these are not research based, but intended to help you think more deeply about things.

Check list to determine your emotional fitness

Needless to say, if you are feeling suicidal and have any plans to kill yourself, you need an immediate mental health evaluation.  One is also indicated if you scored 21 or below  over the course of several days. Do not let stigma keep you from doing all you need to do to live the good life.

If you scored five in all categories, you are lying, delusional or the Dalai Lama.  No human is that strong. We all need support, coaching, therapy, or even medication to deal with the harsh side of life.

STay Strong

Life is a wondrous struggle and for many of us a roller coaster ride with highs and lows.  A daily Emotional Fitness strengthening strengthens you to endure the bad and enjoy the good. If you are new to the idea of emotional fitness exercises visit this blog page: Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises to get started  improving your emotional intelligence.

Thank you all for all you do to care and share with others. Doing a little matters a lot.


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Quotation Poster dealing with definitions of insane.

This post was inspired by this Daily Prompt: She Drives Me Crazy  It makes me crazy when people wear their shoes in my house. What habit/act drives you crazy? How do you prevent it from happening? Obviously, the stigma attached to emotional suffering is one of the bees in my bonnet.






Traditions, start a good one.

When my husband and I turned our home into an insane asylum (we cared for over 300 troubled teenagers, 6 at a time, each needing short-term foster care),  this was our Thursday night tradition:

 Funny quotes.

If you don’t keep laughing, you can’t stay strong.

Actually,  there were two traditions. The first tradition applied every night – everyone had to come to the dinner table . You didn’t have to eat, but you had to stay quietly in your seat until everyone else had finished eating.

The second tradition: Thursday night was laugh night. Every one had to contribute something to laugh about.  Two rules: No ethnic jokes but Martian jokes aloud. No dirty words.  You could pass and some nights only David and I told jokes.

The incentive to get the kids participating?  David had the well-worn and very long shaggy dog joke about a 800 pound gorilla;  he would tell if all the foster kids didn’t come with something. It was a groaner and if you’d heard it once you might prefer deafness to hearing it again.


Tip one: Laughter boosts not just your emotional fitness, but your physical fitness as well.  Norman Cousins claims to have cured a mystery illness by adding lots of laughter to his life.  Research supports his claims.  So add laughter to your life.

Tip two: Laugh whether you feel like it or not. Down in the dumps? Try a Laughing Yoga Exercise.  Here’s one: ten minutes leading to a happier you.


In addition to laughing more,  remember  what matters; be with Beauty and practice kindness finding common ground makes solutions possible and solutions matter more than blaming and complaining.



This post inspired by a Word Press Daily Prompt: Time After Time: Traditions: we’ve all got ‘em. Describe one of yours.  I did so above.

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