Tag Archives: Self-help

How to be a Gotcha War Winner

I learned about Gotcha Wars as a foster parent caring for troubled teens.  Many were dedicated Gotcha Warriors.  Why? The cartoon says it all.

Sad feeling fact: bullying usually begins with feeling weak or bad about yourself.

Second sad feeling fact:  bullying feels powerful.

Final sad feeling fact: bullying feels particularly powerful when you can get the other to behave badly.

Stay STrong

The main strategy for winning any Gotcha War involves minimal or no response. The less you engage someone wanting to fight, the less likely a fight will happen.

Not engaging, however requires strong self soothing skills.  So here are two poster coaches that help you create calm when someone wants you to rev up and fight.

Directions for the One Minute Meditation, an #emotionalfitnessexercise.

Soft face poster

Both these exercises need a bit of practice in order to be effective. Don’t expect them to work in the midst of a Gotcha War if you haven’t learned and practiced them before hand.

Thank you for all you do to Practice Kindness. Liking, commenting, or sharing any social media you find helpful is one way to be kind. It may seem like a little, however, doing a little matters a lot.

Katherine

Thank you Kevin Spear  for the cartoon.

Inspired by a Wordpress  DAILY PROMPT  Showdown at Big Sky How do you handle conflict? Boldly and directly? Or, do you prefer a more subtle approach.  As noted above, Winning a Gotcha War demands a subtle approach.

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Procrastination Leads to Best Work

Procrastination is the art of remembering what matters.  Knowing what matters is a key aspect of #Emotional Intelligence.

Put off all you can as long as you can.  Worry not as what needs to get done, gets done.

Thank you collegeessayorganizer.com for this image

This quick EFTI post is based on this Daily Prompt:   What’s your most productive time of day? When do you do your best work?

I was heading into my fifties when I realized I needed a bit of time pressure to do my best work; procrastination worked in my favor. This Poster Coach now sums up my views on the subject. It is one of EFTI’s  free poster coaches.

Seven Reasons to Procrastinate.

STAY STRONG

If procrastination makes you fret and fume, you have two choices. Stop procrastinating or strengthen your self-soothing skills.  Learning the art of Sloganeering helps with that. So here is another free Poster Coach.

Procrastinate as long as you can and as often as you can.

Thank you for all you do to Practice Kindness. Liking, commenting, or sharing any social media you find helpful is doing a little but matters a lot.

Katherine

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Stay Safe, But Take More Risks

Some risk takers over-do it. Why? Fear drives them. Hit a balance. Scared? Do a reality check. No physical danger? Plunge ahead. Danger: Call 911.

When to call 911

Emotions start in ancient and primitive fears connected to dangerous life and limb threats.  Important then, but overrated today.

For many all fears sound like 911 emergency sirens. Not knowing the difference keeps you from doing what is possible and being who you are.   Particularly fears related to internal feelings such as shame, embarrassment, or shyness.

STAY STRONG

All the research on dealing with sad, bad, or mad feelings indicates acting  against the feeling unless immediate danger threatens works best.  Acting against the feeling means doing the opposite of what the feeling tells you to do.

In the case of fear, the main message is run. Useful when an angry predator is looms on the path ahead of you, but even then standing your ground may work better. (Bears can outrun the fastest human, but might be scared by one who shows no fear.) To stay strong in the face of fear,  act bravely.

Here is another staying strong tidbit embedded in a big word – habituate – meaning “get used to.” The more risks you take, the more often you stand up to fear, the easier it becomes to take more risks.

As always thank you for all you do particularly for liking, commenting or sharing my posts.  Little things matter.

Katherine

This post was somewhat inspired by this Word Press Daily Prompt:  Take a chance on me. What is the biggest chance you have taken? How did it turn out?

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Me Jealous? Sadly, Yes.

Daily Prompt: Green-Eyed Lady We all get jealous from time to time — what wakes the green-eyed monster for you?

Those who are part of our success are often left out of the rewards we reap.

Thank you Stu’s views.

I chose this cartoon because success is never a one person show.

I have big dreams, work hard, but have had no monetary success when it comes to Emotional Fitness Training, Inc. – what I think of as my third child.  What wakens the Green Eyed Monster in me?  The success of those who have the money needed to do things like hire editors, illustrators, web masters, and publicists.  These have a team and I don’t.  I am a woman alone in my efforts.

My green eyes glow stronger when celebrities act like experts telling the rest of us how easy it is to do this or that.

Enough time on my pity-pot.

Staying emotionally strong

I combat the Green-eyed monster by practicing what I preach.  I practice all the Daily Twelve Easy Exercises every day and over and over again.  I start the day being grateful for all I have been given.  I go through my day thanking people;  I know my mission; I laugh and play, seek beauty; I honor those who gift me; I indulge in healthy pleasures; I move my body.

I also remind myself jobs are what you are paid to do.  Although I would love to be better paid, life is about doing what you love to do when, where ever, and however you can.  I am grateful I can do all I do whether or not monetary success comes to me and Emotional Fitness Training.

So pursue your passions and hope for a little bit of luck along the way.

Thank you all for all you do to care and share with others. Doing a little matters a lot. Doing more matters more.

Katherine

FREE POSTER COACH

FG staying strong

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