Tag Archives: Self-help

THREE PITY POT SAYINGS OR JOKES (?)

Cannot laugh at these.  Life probably sucks big time right now. The most important thing? Do not let the bad keep you on the Pity pot too long.

Self pity joke.

PITY POT1 images (2)Yes, you are the only one who can get up and off the Pity Pot.  The strength lies within No other  tips today but do think a bit and if you have not read yesterday’s post. Read it now.

DEEPER THOUGHTS

Once pain fades recalling it reinforces it and that  why self-pity is destructive,  it creates the bad feelings over and over again.

Sadly often we don’t know we are caught in its web, because we feel entitled, get pleasure, and can more easily shrug off responsibility. Those three things increase the livelihood of more pain.  Do not think I am denying pain and the fact that at times you are sitting drowning and have been pulled under by pain, then the most you can do means breaking down. That is survival, not sitting on a pity pot.  However when you come up for air, you need to find a healthy distraction, feeling sorry is not one.

DAILY PROMPT: Cut Off – When was the last time you felt really, truly lonely?

We so need others in our lives that one thing driving us to the pity pot is loneliness. What to do? Almost anything healthy that absorbs your interest so much your forget the real world for a while. Any that even helps in the loneliest of times which is when others are around, but self absorbed,

Reading a page turner does it best for me.  Writing or interacting on social media also get me enjoying more and reduces the chance of my hind end getting a red ring from pity pot sitting.

LINKS OF INTEREST

BE KIND TO ME

Please rate this material. Doing so helps my social media ratings, but also lets me know what interests you most. Comments do the same. All on the social media need the kindness of likes and they really take little time.

Thank you and work at staying strong until next time,. I work hard to do the same as life is often difficult but staying strong lets me find some good every day.

Katherine

 

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE FOR DUMMIES

If you are in the business world, you have heard about the need to improve your  emotional intelligence.   Here’s the dummy’s way to do that.

EQ instagrom intro to efti

Go here for to get started with some Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises  Then go to the EFTI store for Free Poster Coaches including exercises designed for dummies but also for those with lots of smarts.

Could not resist this quick post when I saw this DAILY PROMPT(Your Thing) for Dummies – Take a complicated subject you know more about than most people, and explain it to a friend who knows nothing about it at all.

Emotional Fitness Training improves your emotional intelligence the way  power walking improves you physically.  Your power to boss negative feelings grow the more you practice.

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Keep working to stay strong, I work hard to do the same . As noted above,  I am not perfect, no one is and this week;s post will be all about praising imperfection.

Remember’s sharing is caring and the easiest way to practice kindness is to share this post if you found it helpful.  Thank you.

Katherine

HOW FAITH HELPS THE WORLD – THINKing ABOUT WHAT MATTERS

Faith  guides behavior, and is built on personal experience. Faith is often about what cannot be proved. What faith guides you?  Atheist, agnostic,  religious?

GOOD VERSUS EVIL

THINK HARDER

The heart of becoming emotionally fit, what the gurus call Emotionally Intelligent, lies in thinking clearly.  Faith fogs our brains, but faith matters.  only blind or evil faith hurts.

Faith  develops from personal experiences and that includes the voices we hear about what matters as we grow up. We build our personal faith on what we find most comforting.

Reality check: All organized religions promote the Golden rule.  Why then does war and injustice survive?

Because for many the Golden Rule is applied only for their needs or those of their family,  their country, or their religion.  Even those religions approving child sacrifice were doing so  hoping to earn special favor from their ideas about the wishes of their Gods.

Salmon Rusdie noted: “”If you take a look at history, you will find that the understanding of what is good and evil has always existed before the individual religions. The religions were only invented by people afterwards, in order to express this idea”

The need to make sense of the life in general, but particularly the  bad things that happen to us and the bad things we and others do  is deep-seated.

As T.H. White noted in The Once and Future King: “…there was a time when each of us stood naked before the world, confronting life as a serious problem with which we were intimately and passionately concerned. There was a time when it was of vital interest to us to find out whether there was a God or not.

Obviously the existence or otherwise of a future life must be of the very first importance to somebody who is going to live her present one, because her manner of living it must hinge on the problem….Further back, there were times when we wondered with all our souls what the world was, what love was, what we were ourselves.”

We need to make sense of the world in order to survive emotionally. However, because faith is a story build on personal experiences and needs, it varies.  The problem is not faith in general, but what good or evil a person’s faith supports.  What to do?

Emotional tip one: If you are observant in one or another religion, root out and  fight its bad theology. Example: The idea that a loving Creator  says to kill those of other faiths or to force conversion.

Emotional fitness tip two:  If you are an atheist or agnostic, look for and support the good theology while discounting the bad. 

This Daily Post Prompt  provides more food for thought.  Is there a place in the world you never want to visit? Where, and why not.

I want to live and visit where religions tolerance flourishes, but not without first being purges of bad theology. Don’t you agree?

parenting advice

Your children will follow your faith when young, but not so easily when the reach the teens.  Teens are very good at seeing contradictions, which is why you must live your faith.  You must also be able to discuss it and other religions.  This parenting blog post offers more on this subject.

FREE POSTER COACHES 

Don’t think you can afford a life coach? Like a life coach, EFTI’s poster coaches inspire, teach, motivate, and reinforce thinking about what matters.  To use, print up in color and post there it will be seen often.  Poster Coaches can also be used at  Family Meetings to start a discussion about what matters.

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Keep working to stay strong, I work hard to do the same . As noted above,  I am not perfect, no one is and this week;s post will be all about praising imperfection.

Remember’s sharing is caring and the easiest way to practice kindness is to share this post if you found it helpful.  Thank you.

Katherine

 

HOW HOME, SOIL, AND RAIN CREATE PERFECTIONISM – A SNEAKY HYPNOTISM POST

Most ads present you with faux images that  get embedded in your brain and create a false reality.  Remember trances are alternative realities.  Here’s one:

Easy to spot the linking of this product to the future many woman aspire to.  There are several Sneaky Hypnotic tools at play,  but the one we are less aware of is perfectionism.

This weeks posts will all be about enjoying being good enough.  Home and early childhood are where perfectionism finds fertile soil, and when the world outside rains down sneaky hypnotism messages about being perfect, it is easy for self-esteem to erode.  Try the advice on this poster coach to fight back.

perfectionism

IMPROVE YOUR THINKING SKILLS

six Parenting tips

Kids really strive to be perfect and the younger the child, the more often they fail.  For some kids this leads to what is called “learned helplessness.”  Feeling you will never be good enough so you stop trying. For others it create a steady erosion of feeling capable.

The media which promotes perfection needs strong countering from parents.  So here are some tips to do that:.

Parenting tip one: Praise trying more than success.

Parenting tip two: Make it clear everyone has talents and everyone has limits.  Life is  long experiment in discovering what you do best as well as what you cannot do.

Parenting tip three: Talk a bit about luck or chance as part of success. 

Parenting tip four: With the under school age child, talk about all s/he as learned. Ask if the child recalls learning to sit up, walk, or talk.

Parenting tip five: Always code reality.  Take Santa Claus or all forms of fantasy.   Label such things as myths or make-believe.  The  child will not fully understand what you are talking about and  will still enjoy the fantasy; however, s/he but will not be shocked when his or her thoughts change and the meaning of make-believe finally dawns.

Parenting tip six: With a child moving into the teen years or already there promote critical thinking.  Use social media, the words in songs, movies, ads on tv to do so.  encourage critical thinking puzzle solving but make it a fun.

 LINKS OF INTEREST

FREE POSTER COACHES 

Don’t think you can afford a life coach? Like a life coach, EFTI’s poster coaches inspire, teach, motivate, and reinforce thinking about what matters.  To use, print up in color and post there it will be seen often.  Poster Coaches can also be used at  Family Meetings to start a discussion about what matters.

MY ANSWER TO THE  PROMPT

Apparent in the title of this post. Can you think of another title?

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Keep working to stay strong, I work hard to do the same . As noted above,  I am not perfect, no one is and this week;s post will be all about praising imperfection.

Member’s sharing is caring and the easiest way to practice kindness is to share this post if you found it helpful.  Thank you.

Katherine