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Strengthen your health and well-being by stretching and wondering. Here’s how:

Think of all around you, above, you within you - know awe.

Here’s how to Be With Beauty:

Be with beauty emotionalfitness exercise.


No matter how busy you are, you need time outs to refresh and renew. The two exercises are quick ways to refuel. However, you and those you love need more than quick breaks throughout you day.

When God commanded the Jews to observe the Shabbat, the purpose was to force quiet time on this tribe of his children. You do not have to be Jewish or even believe in God to benefit from a day away from work and particularly electronic devices and stores.

Can’t bear the thought of a full day?  Start with a few hours, build toward a full day.  You will benefit.

As always, thank you for all you do to make the world around you more peaceful. Think of sharing this post as another way to work toward peace.


How does this post fit in with Today’s Word Press’s DAILY PROMPT:  Secret Admirers?  You return home to discover a huge flower bouquet waiting for you, no card attached. Who is it from — and why did they send it to you?

Only indirectly.  What it sparked in me was a reminder to build your #emotionalintelligence  by admiring beauty and nature and not so secretly.


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Thank God It Is Friday

Word Press asks “What’s your favorite daily ritual?”   The Shabbat.  How is that daily? Thinking about it looking forward to it, preparing for it, savoring it.

The Lyrics
I gotta feeling that tonights gonna be a good night
That tonights gonna be a good night
That Shabbats gonna be a good, good night (4x)

Tonights the night, Lets Live it up
No Need for money, Lets save it up
Go out and dance it, Like oh my god
Jump off the Sofa, Turn TV off, off

I know that well have a ball
If we get down and go out and just lose it all
I feel stressed out, I wanna let it go
Lets go home and eat a huge matzo ball

Lets do it, lets do it, lets do it
Lets do it, lets do it, lets do it
Live it up

I gotta feeling that tonights gonna be a good night
That tonights gonna be a good night
That Shabbats gonna be a good, good night

Fill up my cup, mazaltov
Look at her lighting, Shell bless it up
Friends all around, Lets turn that frown
Shabbat each Friday and so well do it again

Here we come, Here we go, We got our challah
Easy come, easy go, you betta Holla! Holla!
Family Talk, Body Rock, Rock it dont stop
Round and round, up and down, around the clock

Oh what a feeling oh tonight was such a good night
Oh tonight was such a good night
On Shabbat I had a good, good night.
Gosh I cant believe I get to do this every Friday night.

Emotional Fitness Thoughts

I am old enough to remember the ad that recommended “The pause that refreshes.”

Shabbat is that for observant Jews.  Observing the Shabbat is the fourth of the Ten Commandments.  I often think of how the value of Shabbat grows in proportion to the work requirements of the days. Jews could not demand work of employees  or in ancient time of slaves or animals on Shabbat. Jews were required to set slaves free after seven years of servitude.  Many asked to remain slaves.

Non-Jews are not expected to observe all Ten Commandments.  But if they observed the Seven Laws of Noah were  as valued by God as Jews who observed all The Ten Commandments and the other 613 laws Jews chose to obey and were chosen to obey – hence the name “Chosen people.”

Not a Jew? Here is what the God of my understanding expects of you as spelled out in the Noahic Laws:

  1. Don’t worship idols. Think money, things as well as graven images.
  2. Don’t  murder. Not  killing, for all have the right to defend themselves.
  3. Don’t steal.
  4. Don’t engage in sexually immoral behaviors.
  5. Don’t blasphemy.
  6. Don’t eat the flesh taken from an animal while it is still alive.
  7. Do  maintain fair and just courts.

Many see the Jewish God as a dark and gloomy one.  Many see all gods that way. I prefer to think whatever God exists is patiently waiting for humankind to commit to observing the Seven Laws of Moses and so bring peace on earth.  I think that God must weep at our behavior, but that hope and patience are stronger in that God than in mankind.


Too bad  observing the Shabbat has been left off that list. However, doing so is a choice and that is today’s Emotional Fitness Tip. Create a Shabbat Day for yourself and your family.  Minimally, set aside a lengthy period of time to turn off the world of work, buying, connecting electronically. Use that time to be with family, friends, and nature or other sources of beauty and inspiration. Turning off and tuning out parts of  the world will be hard at first, but the more you try, the easier it gets and in time leads to living the good life.

Here is today’s Free Poster Coach.  It teaches The Be With Beauty Exercise.

Be with beauty emotionalfitness exercise.

As always thank you for all you do to Practice Kindness, a major emotional intelligence boosting practice. Liking, commenting, or sharing any social media you find helpful is one way to be kind. It may seem like a little, however, doing a little matters a lot.


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Torah Thursday Parshat Tazria

Each week Jews study a different portion or Parsha of the Torah.   Each Thursday I share a Parsha discussion from one or another Rabbi.

Receiving the Torah at Mount Sinai

Receiving the Torah at Mount Sinai

This week’s discussion is by Rabbi Schlmo Riskin of Efrat, Israel.  Read the complete  discussion here.   As he notes, the subject is a difficult one and deals with the laws of sexual purity and circumcision. He offers these interpretations:

…Rabbi J.B. Soloveitchik’s important work Family Redeemed …interprets the opening chapters of Genesis as a crucial lesson to humanity concerning the spiritual potential as well as the destructive danger of the sexual act…. the classical commentator Rashi understands the fruit of knowledge of good and evil as possessing human nature libido, eroticism and lust rather than the expression of love and the reproductive powers which were initially imbedded in human nature…Tragically, the life-force which is granted by God through the sexual organs can often degenerate into decay and death when those very sexual organs are misused.

To me this Parsha speaks of the need to move beyond the press of personal desire,  sexual release being one of the strongest,  toward a broader concern for the other and that must include all others for the Source sees us as one.

Stay strong

The more deeply we understand the beliefs and ways of all, the more likely we are to find common ground for moving the world toward peace.

Many have turned away from religion or from a belief in God and precisely for the reasons cited in this weeks Parsha – fulfillment of personal desires.  I believe many who do so destroy the possibility of peace on earth.  How? By seeing only bad theology, and not the wisdom that can be found in all religions.

As always thank you for all you do. Share and care as it is one of the paths to peace for all.




Reaching Every Corner By Menachem Tenenbaum, a JOI Rabbi serving at Aish.com

Chanukah is a holiday many of us have been celebrating our entire lives. It may seem like the same holiday each year. In truth, as we change and grow, the holiday should take on new meanings.
For instance, there are many ideas and messages to be learned from Chanukah and the various customs. Perhaps we should try and focus on one of these ideas so that we can truly gain from Chanukah in a different way each year.

In this week’s Parshah, Parshas Mikeitz, Yosef(Joseph) rises to power as the second in command in Egypt. His first task as viceroy is to store food for a hunger threat. Once the hunger begins he rations out food to the people as deemed necessary.

Unbeknownst to his brothers he had become a ruler and thereby controlled the ood. His brothers come searching for provisions. Realizing these men are his older
brothers he took care of them while prodding them with questions to see how the
rest of the family was doing.

He devises a scheme to be able to meet his little brother, Binyomin. He accuses his brothers of being spies and in order to disprove his accusation they would need to bring Binyomin. He calls them spies and then says, “By this you shall be tested; By Pharoah’s life you will not leave here unless your youngest brother comes here.”
Seforno deduces an interesting lesson from this test. He asks why Yosef’s brothers couldn’t get any man to come with them to Yosef, lie, and tell Yosef this is their brother. Sure they would have been lying, but their lives were on the line and there must be some loophole? Seforno says that even if they would have agreed to lie, it would not have worked. The brothers would not have been able to find someone to
agree to put his life on the line by lying about being their brother. Only a real brother cares enough to help in this way.

Yosef knew for this reason they had to bring their real brother. The Torah is teaching us such a powerful message, brothers care about brothers, no matter how difficult the situation. Real brothers go above and beyond for their family. In Judaism we view our entire nation as brothers and sisters; we go above and beyond for our brethren.
As we light the candles on Chanukah we can think about the small flame lit after
dark. When we ignite that tiny candle it brings light into every corner of the room. It does not stop half way and say it is tired or not interested. The candle always does the full job. A message of Chanukah may be to try and reach out to every corner of the nation, to every Jew. Sometimes it is challenging and even uncomfortable but like Yosef said, “By this you shall be tested.”

B’ezras Hashem when we focus on the small flame from our Menorah we will be
inspired to reach out to others no matter how challenging and pass the test.

Have a Wonderful, Warm, Fun Filled Chanukah!

May you walk in peace and may the light of love shine in and through you, now and forever.

Image from blingcheese.com.  Thank you.