CHOICE OF FORKS – HOW TO GET IT RIGHT

Poster quote about choice

Bolts of lightening come out of the blue, disease strikes, accidents happen, others take us to war, some hold us captive, we do not choose these, but when the come, unless dead, we can eventually choose our response. Owning all the choices you are given remains essential to your emotional fitness what others call Emotional Intelligence.

Vicktor Frankel, concentration camp survivor, said,  “The one thing you can’t take away from me is the way I choose to respond to what you do to me. The last of one’s freedoms is to choose one’s attitude in any given circumstance.”

When you make a choice as you go about your daily life, choose kindness.  In almost every situation, to act with kindness can be chosen. If we all made that one of our choices, groveling might never be necessary, peace might descend to bless all.

Thank you for all you do.

Thank me by remembering sharing is caring; so is liking, or commenting. Your caring keeps me going.

Katherine

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

Emotional Intelligence (en.wikipedia.org)
The five components of Emotional Intelligence (www.sonoma.edu)
Emotional Fitness Tips for Parents  (parentsarepeopletoo.com)
An Emotional Fitness Program for Parents(amazon.com)

NOTICES

I am in the process of revamping my site and working to add an easy way to sell media.  As I am financially not able to hire help, I have become the site’s IT (not) expert. Which is leading me and you on a “Wild and Crazy Ride.” Ignore, laugh, or cheer me on.

My PDF eBook Cross-Train Your Brain is still free but the end is nearing  if you have not downloaded it , do so now. It will soon cost a pretty penny.

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Not sure how to participate in their prompts? Here are the steps to get started.You always have a choice? Not of outcome, but of how you act, how you feel, what matters most to you .

COUNTLESS WAYS TO PRACTICE KINDNESS

Practice Kindness Emotional Fitness Poster Coach

Practicing Kindness is the best type of selfish behavior. Whether appreciated by another, it benefits you. The less you expect in return, the more you enjoy being kind, the more you benefit.

Thank you for all you do.

Thank me by remembering sharing is caring; so is liking, or commenting. Your caring keeps me going.

Katherine

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

Emotional Intelligence (en.wikipedia.org)

The five components of Emotional Intelligence (www.sonoma.edu)

Emotional Fitness Tips for Parents  (parentsarepeopletoo.com)

An Emotional Fitness Program for Parents(amazon.com)

NOTICES I am in the process of revamping my site and working to add an easy way to sell media.  As I am financially not able to hire help, I have become the site’s IT (not) expert. Which is leading me and you on a “Wild and Crazy Ride.”   Ignore, laugh, or cheer me on.

My PDF eBook Cross-Train Your Brain is still free but the end is nearing  if you have not downloaded it , do so now. It will soon cost a pretty penny.

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HOW TO MATTER IN THE WIDE, WIDE WORLD

We may be no more than a grain of sand on the beach, but that is the wonder of it all.Now a grain of sand might not be noticed, but is needed to build a beach. Every act of kindness might go un-appreciated but remains needed to bring peace to our world. So smile at all, hug a child, feed the homeless, compliment a stranger,  compliment a loved one, plant a tree, pick up  someone else’s trash; warm your soul as well as another’s.

Thank you for all you do.

Thank me by remembering sharing is caring; so is liking, or commenting. Your caring keeps me going.

Katherine

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

Emotional Intelligence (en.wikipedia.org)

The five components of Emotional Intelligence (www.sonoma.edu)

Emotional Fitness Tips for Parents  (parentsarepeopletoo.com)

An Emotional Fitness Program for Parents(amazon.com)

NOTICES I am in the process of revamping my site and working to add an easy way to sell media.  As I am financially not able to hire help, I have become the site’s IT (not) expert. Which is leading me and you on a “Wild and Crazy Ride.”   Ignore, laugh, or cheer me on.

My PDF eBook Cross-Train Your Brain is still free but the end is nearing  if you have not downloaded it , do so now. It will soon cost a pretty penny.

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DREAMS AND YOU – STRENGTHENING YOUR EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

Be grateful for what is. When we focus on what is, on the beauty of wonder of our world,  on all we have been given, instead of what we dream might be, we are on a better path to the good life.

Not that we do not need dreams to help us see what we want, We do. But just watch the auditions to American Idol to see how some dream without staying in touch with reality.

PRACTICE KINDNESS

Thank you for all you do.  Thank me by remembering sharing is caring; so is liking, or commenting. Your caring keeps me going.

Katherine

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

Emotional Intelligence (en.wikipedia.org)

The five components of Emotional Intelligence (www.sonoma.edu)

Emotional Fitness Tips for Parents  (parentsarepeopletoo.com)

An Emotional Fitness Program for Parents(amazon.com)

NOTICES I am in the process of revamping my site and working to add an easy way to sell media.  As I am financially not able to hire help, I have become the site’s IT (not) expert. Which is leading me and you on a “Wild and Crazy Ride.”   Ignore, laugh, or cheer me on.

My PDF eBook Cross-Train Your Brain is still free but the end is nearing  if you have not downloaded it , do so now. It will soon cost a pretty penny.

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FIVE TIPS TO END ARGUING THAT ARE BETTER THAN THROWING A BRICK

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Debating is fun, heated arguments, however, can end up with you wanting to throw a brick at someone or something. Not wise.

What do most people argue about? Here’s my list: religion, politics, money, sex, right or wrong, which team is best, and did the umpire make the right call.

The first four rest on perspective; the best team is a matter of time and luck; the umpire’s call can be a matter of perspective, but with today’s technology backup might prove to be the correct one.

So what’s the point? Mostly we argue because we want our beliefs to remain unshaken.  The instant someone holds a different opinion, ours is challenged.  Some people enjoy the challenge, but in other situations, it can and does grow deadly.

Think of the wars waged in the name of one religion or another. Part of those wars are also waged over who has political power, who can decide how money is spent, and who determines which behaviors are proper and  which  are “immoral.”

Of course, wanting to be in control, and in charge of your life is the desire to be powerful is also at play. These are the  part of wanting your beliefs to remain unshaken. Underlying all of the above are the beliefs you hold about yourself.

At the bottom of  all of the above are the beliefs you hold about yourself.  Those are the ones can cause the most pain when shaken.  We want to believe we are “good.”  We want to believe we are strong. Finally, we want to believe we are in control of our lives.

According to Harvard psychologist Jerome Kagan, when these beliefs get challenged four  things can happen:

1 . We ignore the challenge.

2. We blame someone  or something for making us uncertain and get angry.

3. We blame ourselves and become depressed.

4. We think nothing makes sense and become apathetic and despairing.

Emotional Fitness Training Tips

Tip one: Get clear on what matters. Safety first and that means for all, not just you and your family or your tribe.

Tip two: Treat others the way you want to be treated. Research study after research shows that this is the only sure path to the good life for you and the rest of the world.

Tip three: Do not be ruled just by your heart, always partner with your brain; the more strongly you think you have found the truth, the more you need to think critically. 

Tip four: Strengthen your self-soothing skills. In order to think clearly and critically, you need to be calm and focused. If you have not already learned EFT’s One Minute Meditation, do so now. Practice ir for a week at least three times a day and it will help you slow down the urge to act on strong feelings.

A One Minute Meditation designed to give you time to remember what matters
In case you missed this.

Tip five: Practice forgiveness. 

How to forgive

Keep these tips in mind and never need to throw a brick again. Stay emotionally strong and enjoy all you have been given.

PRACTICE KINDNESS

Thank you for all you do.  Thank me by remembering sharing is caring; so is liking, or commenting. Your caring keeps me going.

Katherine

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

NOTICES

I am in the process of revamping my site and working to add an easy way to sell media.  As I am financially not able to hire help, I have become the site’s IT (not) expert. Which is leading me and you on a “Wild and Crazy Ride.”   Ignore, laugh, or cheer me on.

My PDF eBook Cross-Train Your Brain is still free but the end is nearing as Defang Fear In All Its Disguises is about to go free as a PDF. So if you have not downloaded it Cross-Train, do so now. It will soon cost a pretty penny.

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PENSIVE WAYS TO THE GOOD LIFE

Examples of fallacies or twisted thinking.

Pensive means to think and thinking means to act wisely. When you do things you regret or later feel bad about, you have been lead astray by  twisted thinking. You left logic behind. Okay much of the time, but not always. The stronger you feel about something, the more you need to think before acting. Heart and brain working together remain the surest road to the good life.

Emotional Fitness Training Exercise

Television and other media, give you lots of opportunity to practice spotting twisted thinking. Hopefully, you will then see how your thoughts can lead you away from reality.

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Thank me by liking, commenting, or sharing. Those small acts of kindness keep me going.

Katherine

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

NOTICES

I am in the process of revamping my site and working to add an easy way to sell media.  So far, my tabs are not working well as I bumble along as my own  not so expert IT techie.

This is because the Web Host for my EFTI Store jacked up its fees abd the Store is no longer. Life goes on and sooner or later I will figure the tab thing out. Hopefully later today.

My PDF eBook Cross-Train Your Brain is still free but the end is nearing as Defang Fear In All Its Disguises is about to go free as a PDF. So if you have not downloaded it Cross-Train, do so now. It will soon cost a pretty penny.

 POST INSPIRATION

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