TIPS FOR ADDING BEAUTY TO YOUR LIFE – DAY SIX

What we see all the time blinds us to much that is good.  This EFT Easy Exercise teaches awareness, particularly of all that is beautiful in our world.

Be with beauty emotionalfitness exercise.

Nothing more to add except “Just Do It.”

PARENTING TIP

Parenting tip one:  You teach this to your children easily by just doing it. so  do it.

Parenting tip two:  Make being with nature part of being with beauty, ask you kids to spot the beautiful.

Parenting tip three: Create beauty spots here and there throughout your home and pause with your child to enjoy.

BE KIND TO ME

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Thank you and work at staying strong until next time,. I work hard to do the same as life is often difficult but staying strong lets me find the good.

Katherine

LINKS OF INTEREST

FREE  STUFF FROM EFTI

All the handouts and poster coaches for this course are being posted at the store so you can download them for free. A poster coach is like a face-to-face coach; all serve as practice reminders, some teach you the exercises needed to stay strong.

To use one, after down loading it from the store, print it up preferably in cardstock and color, then post it where you will see it as you go about your day.

Apologies if you cannot find one.  I am a Jill of all in this business, so some things take longer than others.  If something used here isn’t posted yet, you will find lots of other offerings including inspirational quotes or more EFTI exercises. In time all will be posted.

DAILY PROMPT   Getting Seasonal – The holiday season: can’t get enough of it, or can’t wait for it all to be over already? Has your attitude toward the end-of-year holidays changed over the years?

How this fits in with today’s EFTI Post: Changed drastically when I converted to Judaism. but as this series of Twelve Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises shows, I try to honor all even the secular part. 

Part of what lead me to renounce Christian religions was the theology of getting to heaven on the basis of belief and not behavior, particularly death-bed conversions that let some behave has bad as they wished and still die thinking heaven was theirs.  I believe that is divisive, limits the Creator’s mercy, and gives far too many the right to spurn, harm or kill others.

Part of my inspiration for developing EFTI was to offer a middle path between ssecularism and beliefs in a higher power.   Doing so has enriched me and I think helped some others.  EFTI will probably be buried with me and I wish I had done better selling it.  A bit more money would have made it a viable business that could live on.

That said I am still trying to find a some legacy keepers or investors who will work to keep it going for at least a few more years.  Interested?

TIPS FOR ADDING TO GOOD MEMORIES – DAY FIVE

Do you hug hurt and enshrine it in your memory book?  Not good.  Emotional Fitness Training Exercise  Number Five suggests a better way.

Asking another to change

Psycho-babblers encourage hugging your hurts closely and indefinitely, particularly those from you childhood .  It started with the Inner Child movement and spread like wild-fire after a prolonged drought.

Why? Mainly, because we all have a hurt inner child.  Some have been battered, bruised, sexually assaulted, starved for love; most have just suffered the slings and arrows of good enough parenting.  Hugging either kind however, keeps you from living the good life.

What to do? Stop hugging the hurt and embrace the good. Those who survived any  holocaust lived better lives when they put the horror behind them. Not easy to do, but vital in order to take charge of your life and stop being victimized by your past.

A word of warning about some therapy particularly ongoing talk therapy. It leads to hugging the hurt and not letting it go.  Many think such work is useful, but the research shows only up to a point.  The most important thing is making sense of why bad things happen and then to move  on by embracing the good.

This exercise asks you to pay special attention to those responsible for all you have or are right now.  Some gave a great deal, others could not.  Each gave according the what they had been given.

If you look deeply into the palm of your hand, you will see your parents and all generations of your ancestors.  All of them are alive in this moment.  Each is present in your body.  You are the continuation of each of these people.

 Thick Naht Hanh

How to practice this exercise: The most powerful way to honor past gifts  is to focus on a memory of one person from your past who gave the gift of caring.  You can honor the gift from a different person each time you do the exercise.

You honor past gifts by taking a calming breath, shutting your eyes, and recalling  a time you and the person spent together when you felt cherished, cheered on, or otherwise nurtured. Such times are gifts of caring. When you honor such past gifts, you give yourself the caring all over again.

Your memory book has gifts of caring; otherwise you would not be seeking to improve your ability to care for yourself.  If you have trouble caring for yourself as you should, perhaps like many others those who cared  you were also abused in one way or another.  You can dwell on the hurt or on the good.  Remembering the good you have been given is healthier.

 God gave us memories that we might have roses in December. 

                                                                                                          J.M. Barrie

pARENTING TIPS

Parenting tip one:  Build as many good memories with your child as you can.

Parenting tip two:  Stop trying to make happiness a goal.  Better to teach acceptance of life as being full of good times and bad times.

Parenting tip three: Help your child exploit strengths and live with weaknesses.  Every human has both.  Studies show that more than love, children want praise for what they do well and they want to do well in the things that matter in their world.  The praise must be realistic and feel right to the child.

Parenting tip four:  Teach manners and practicing kindness.  Both will get your child further in life than academic or atheletic skills.

Parenting tip five: Promote the idea that no one controls all that happens.  There are blessings, miracles, good luck and bad luck. Our job as humans is to do the best with we can and accept what we cannot control with as much grace as possible.

BE KIND TO ME

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Thank you and work at staying strong until next time,. I work hard to do the same as life is often difficult but staying strong lets me find the good.

Katherine

LINKS OF INTEREST

FREE  STUFF FROM EFTI

All the handouts and poster coaches for this course are being posted at the store so you can download them for free. A poster coach is like a face-to-face coach; all serve as practice reminders, some teach you the exercises needed to stay strong.

To use one, after down loading it from the store, print it up preferably in cardstock and color, then post it where you will see it as you go about your day.

Apologies if you cannot find one.  I am a Jill of all in this business, so some things take longer than others.  If something used here isn’t posted yet, you will find lots of other offerings including inspirational quotes or more EFTI exercises. In time all will be posted.

DAILY PROMPT  In Due Time: What’s your next, most pressing deadline? Are you excited, stressed, or ambivalent about it? What’s the first thing you’d like to do once you’re done with it?

Having be able to retire from a paid job, my deadlines are of my own. Most related to efforts to promote EFTI. Doing this free  101 course gives me a daily deadline, and what will I feel when it is over?  Relief, but a bit of pride.

Two other deadlines loom.  One is beyond my control – my end.  The end of EFTI is also beyond my control for it will happen due to cognitive decline.

My regrets?  I have few for my life as a whole.  I have been blessed or lucky which ever best explains to you the course of your life.

More regrets  for the end of EFTI. Mainly that I have not found a legacy keeper for EFTI and that I was not able to turn it into a profitable  business.  I did the best I could given who I am and what I have had to work with and EFT has enlightened some and definitely let me live the good life.

That said I am still trying to find some legacy keepers or investors to make it profitable.  It does take some money to make money.  Interested? Let me know.

FIVE PLUS WAYS TO PRACTICE KINDNESS – DAY FOUR OF THE TWELVE DAYS OF EMOTIONAL FITNESS TRAINING

Practicing kindness is selfish; it gives you the most good.

Emotional Fitness Poster reminding you to Practice Kindness

As all the sages across all the ages and as today’s researchers know practicing kindness is the express lane to the good life.

There is much talk of Random Acts of Kindness and that is good. But a greater good comes to you when you practice Deliberate Kindness.

Go Beyond Random Kindness

 Parenting tipS

Parenting tip one: Manners teach kindness, so teach your children manners.

Parenting tip two; Condemn cruelty when you see cruel behavior. Point out cruel jokes, cruel acts.

Parenting tip three: Punish children for deliberate acts of cruelty.

Parenting tip four: Reward with a thank you your child’s acts of kindness.

Parenting tip five: Teach your children to give to the needy.  Three year olds love putting coins in various donations boxes.  Older children can give gently used toys, coats, other items to various charities or time at soup kitchens.

be kind to me

Please rate this material. Doing so helps my social media ratings, but also lets me know what interests you most. Comments do the same.

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Thank you and work at staying strong until next time,. I work hard to do the same as life is often difficult but staying strong lets me find the good.

Katherine

LINKS OF INTEREST

FREE  STUFF FROM EFTI

All the handouts and poster coaches for this course are being posted at the store so you can download them for free. A poster coach is like a face-to-face coach; all serve as practice reminders, some teach you the exercises needed to stay strong.

To use one, after down loading it from the store, print it up preferably in cardstock and color, then post it where you will see it as you go about your day.

Apologies if you cannot find one.  I am a Jill of all in this business, so some things take longer than others.  If something used here isn’t posted yet, you will find lots of other offerings including inspirational quotes or more EFTI exercises. In time all will be posted.

DAILY PROMPT   The Object of My Dejection  – Tell us about the object of your dejection — something you made, a masterpiece unfinished, or some sort of project that failed to meet your expectations. What did you learn from the experience? How would you do things differently next time?

How this fits in with today’s EFTI Post:  I was raised to think poorly of money-grubbing. So I have consistently under sold myself and Emotional Fitness Training.

I have lead a good life, but EFTI will probably be buried with me and I wish I had done better selling it.  A bit more money would have made it a viable business that could live on.

That said I am still trying to find a some legacy keepers or investors who will work to keep it going for at least a few more years.  Interested?

TIPS TO “MOVE YOUR BODY” WHEN YOU ARE NOT INCLINED – DAY THREE OF THE TWELVE DAYS OF EAST EMOTIONAL FITNESS EXERCISES

Some are into exercising, others not. For those of you not so inclined there is good news. First a few quotes about hating exercise. Laughing counts as exercise.

EXERCISE QUOTES FUNNY

This Easy Emotional Fitness Exercise is the hardest one for some to practice.  The following might make it easier.  First some facts about the need and then some tips to make tips that might help.

The good news:  “Recent studies show that high-intensity interval training can serve as an effective alternate to traditional endurance-based training.” 

Translation “One minute of strenuous effort, at about 90 percent of a person’s maximum heart rate, followed by one minute of easy recovery repeated ten times during a day.” Maybe all you need.

The studies also show that those one-minute bursts work even when spread out during the day, and only need to be done three or four times a week.

According to the Mayo Clinic, “Studies show that your perceived exertion correlates well with your heart rate. So if you think you’re working hard, your heart rate is likely raised. “

Swim one lap and have to stop?  Huffing and puffing when you climb a flight of stairs, but still able to keep going?  Do five jumping jacks and need to sit down to catch your breathe? Hiking and hit a hill that sees you slowing down? A minute of the Twist gets you ready to stop?

Answer “Yes” to any of these questions  and you’ve gotten an estimate of your high intensity workout.

The Move Your Body exercise  asks that you do one of the above off and on throughout the day.  A SMART Goal would be to do one or the other of these one minute energy bursts ten times a day four or five times a week. Swimming is the  requires a bit more effort unless you already spend your day by the pool soaking up the sun.  You also  need stairs or a step-up-stool for stair climbing, but the others can be done easily throughout the day with little effort.

Enhancements:   Add some weight training.  The easiest way is to carry a weight as you walk, stair, climb, or twist.

Add stretching.   Many can be done seating and a few while lying on your bed or couch. Do stretch and hold, not bouncing ones.

PARENTING TIPs

Parenting tip one: Most kids are movers.  A few, however, are born couch potatoes.  That probably means you or the child’s other parent are also.  Knowing that will help, but having non-exercises in the family means you will  have to work harder to instill a few good habits.

As always it will start with your willingness to model.  Family dance time for a minute as you gather around the breakfast table, skipping out to the car for that trip to the mall all work for little ones.  Teens will die of embarrassment, but as the teen years are years about body image, ask the teen what s/he wants to do to shape up.

Parenting tip two:  Swimming lessons are a must for swimming and once mastered is a life-long way to exercise. Lessons can start with infants. Here are some teaching tots to swim tips.

Parenting tip three: Everyone in the family will benefit from self-defense or karate lessons.  Seek out a Peace Dojo.  Also encourage skills to add Peace Dojo training as an required course.

Parenting tip four:  Encourage team play, but for fun not competition. As with swimming and karate, team play teaches important life skills.

Parenting tip five: Never make exercise a punishment and when possible offer it as a reward. Examples:  Take a homework break to listen to a favorite song that you and your child will dance too.  Walk to the ice-cream store and back.

Parenting tip six: Insist.  Some things are not negotiable.  Think of seat belts, brushing teeth, getting vaccinated, going to school.  Moreover, every family has rules that are followed without hassle or argument.  How do those rules get put in place? Insistent consistency.

 PRACTICE KINDNESS

Please rate this material. Doing so helps my social media ratings, but also lets me know what interests you most. Comments do the same.

This is what your stars will mean to me. No stars –Not good enough to rate; One star – Reinforced my knowledge –  Two Stars; New information –  Three stars;  New useful information; Four stars – Very good; Five stars – Excellent.

Thank you and work at staying strong until next time,. I work hard to do the same as life is often difficult but staying strong lets me find the good.

Katherine

LINKS OF INTEREST

FREE  STUFF FROM EFTI

All the handouts and poster coaches for this course are being posted at the store so you can download them for free. A poster coach is like a face-to-face coach; all serve as practice reminders, some teach you the exercises needed to stay strong.

To use one, after down loading it from the store, print it up preferably in cardstock and color, then post it where you will see it as you go about your day.

Apologies if you cannot find one.  I am a Jill of all in this business, so some things take longer than others.  If something used here isn’t posted yet, you will find lots of other offerings including inspirational quotes or more EFTI exercises. In time all will be posted.

DAILY PROMPT   The Language of Things  You have to write a message to someone dear to you, telling that person how much he/she means to you. However — instead of words, you can only use 5-10 objects to convey your emotions. Which objects do you choose, and what do they mean?

How this fits in with today’s EFTI Post:  Not an easy connection, but our bodies are objects and need caring for and that means exercising.